Picture this: you’re in a loving relationship, discussing marriage and future plans, when the topic of a prenup comes up. It’s a touchy subject, but you have your reasons. The main reason? Your partner’s sister and her struggles. She’s been diagnosed with borderline personality disorder, and her life is a rollercoaster of chaos. Your partner feels responsible for her, and he’s spent thousands of dollars helping her out. But you’re worried about your future together and the financial strain she could cause. So, you propose a prenup to protect both of you. Let’s dive into this emotional story and see how it unfolds…
Marriage Discussions
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The Reason Behind the Prenup
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Sister’s Struggles
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Volatile Behavior
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Family Responsibility ♀️
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Financial Management
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Money Troubles
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The Anchor ⚓
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Divorce Concerns
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Setting Boundaries
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Disagreements
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Prenup Drama: Protecting the Future or Being Heartless?
Our storyteller is in a serious relationship and discussing marriage with her boyfriend. However, she wants a prenup to protect their finances from his sister’s chaotic life. The sister, who’s been diagnosed with borderline personality disorder, has a history of self-destructive behavior. Our protagonist’s boyfriend feels responsible for his sister and has spent thousands of dollars helping her out. To avoid financial strain, our storyteller proposes a prenup that ensures her boyfriend saves money and pays his bills before helping his sister. He’s not happy about it, believing that if they marry, his sister becomes her sister too, and she should be willing to help. Let’s see what the internet thinks of this emotionally charged situation…
Protecting oneself from financial instability is smart. Questioning the relationship.

Prenup debate: Should you be responsible for your spouse’s family?

Valid concern. A prenup may not be sufficient protection.

Don’t be a resource for his family. NTA

Protecting marital contributions from sister’s instability. NTA.

Protect yourself and your future children with a prenup. NTA

Harsh advice, but may save someone from a doomed marriage

User advises against using prenup to control emotions. YTA.

Red flag alert! Consider cutting your losses now

Warning against prenup and marrying someone with financial insecurity

Harsh but honest advice to cut losses and find better partner

Think twice about marrying him, prenup can only do so much
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Setting boundaries and putting yourself first

NTA- fiancé prioritizes sister over partner, prenup necessary

Doubting the enforceability of prenup, questioning the relationship

Don’t waste time on a man who won’t prioritize you

Demanding a prenup is a must and navigating toxic family.

Overcoming BPD and financial instability with family’s tough love.

Red flag alert! Reconsider marrying someone who prioritizes family over you.

Beware of the red flags and reconsider this marriage. ♀️

Marriage is compromise, don’t ignore red flags

Marriage means marrying the family too, time to move on

Prenup to protect joint money from future sister-in-law?

Prenups for trust issues? OP should walk away

Dealing with someone with BPD is tough. Don’t marry him. NTA

Protecting family finances = not the a**hole

Don’t parentify your kids! NTA for refusing sister’s debt.

Supportive reply explaining BPD and treatment options with empathy ❤️

Unfair of BF’s parents to dump responsibility of sister on him

Protecting finances from family drama with prenup. NTA

Real talk: Your relationship won’t improve, it will worsen. ♀️

Keep finances separate, reconsider marrying someone who enables financial instability

Financial instability and toxic family dynamics threaten marriage

Red flag? Boyfriend’s anger over prenup and sister’s finances.

Drawing the line between help and enabling. NTA for demanding prenup.

Setting boundaries with family and finances. Good for OP!

Don’t let his sister’s financial instability ruin your future

Support for setting boundaries with future sister-in-law’s financial instability

Choosing between sister and fiancee, NTA gets called out.

Prenup won’t protect money if partner doesn’t save. NTA for wanting it.

NTA suggests prenup may not protect from future financial obligations.

Relationship advice: prioritize your needs or move on

Red flag alert! Consider rethinking the marriage proposal.

Don’t get sucked into funding his sister’s life. #NTA

Red flag alert! Don’t marry him or loan him money.

Red flags in the relationship

Managing BPD is possible with proper resources and self-work

Protecting oneself from BPD sister-in-law, NTA, prioritizing future kids

Red flag alert! Beware of potential family financial drama

Prenup demand due to sister-in-law’s instability. NTA wins.

Prevent future in-law’s financial instability from becoming your problem

Questioning the marriage due to toxic “family always helps” mentality

Fiancée’s sister’s financial instability may affect their marriage.

Protecting yourself and your partner from financial instability

Setting financial boundaries before marriage is crucial. NTA.

Fiancé’s sister is not your problem, NTA ♀️

Partner’s lack of understanding may cause long-term issues.

Avoiding financial instability drama, NTA for demanding prenup

Protecting your finances is important, but consider if he’s trustworthy

Prenup won’t prevent financial support for sister. Second guessing marriage

Think twice before marrying someone with divided loyalties

Don’t let him use you! Stay firm and demand respect

Supportive comment on prenup decision due to mental health concerns

Breaking up is the only way to secure financial future?

Suggestion to consult a lawyer for protecting oneself legally

Prenups aren’t magic bullets and trust issues can’t be fixed.

Breaking up might be the best financial decision for you

Dump the marriage instead of signing a prenup.

Think twice before marrying into a family you don’t like ♂️

Break up now! He prioritizes sister’s mistakes over you.

Red flags everywhere! Think twice before tying the knot.

Harsh but realistic warning to reconsider marriage due to finances ♀️

Choosing not to take on a disabled relative is understandable

Relationship advice: Don’t marry if you’re not a priority

Yikes! A commenter advises to call off the marriage.

Prenup won’t fix it. Why marry into this financial mess?

Red flag alert! Reconsider the marriage if she’s the sticking point

Cautionary comment on marrying fiancé and his sister’s influence

BF shouldn’t have to be responsible for sister’s financial instability

Prioritize couples counseling before setting a wedding date

Red flag alert! Think twice before marrying into this family.
