Picture this: a happy couple, both successful business owners, excitedly expecting their first child. But when it comes to discussing childcare and parenting roles, they find themselves at odds. The mom-to-be, who loves her job, is eager to return to work after maternity leave, while her husband assumed she’d be a stay-at-home mom until their child starts school. The couple’s disagreement raises questions about expectations, gender roles, and the challenges of modern parenting.
Pregnant and Planning
Work-Life Balance
Childcare Conundrum
Mismatched Expectations
Nanny Search
Clashing Opinions
Mental Health Matters
Work and Parenthood
Heated Exchange
Supportive Spouse
Understanding but Unyielding
Feeling Guilty?
Business Boundaries
Personal Preference
Unplanned Pregnancy
The Great SAHM Debate: Who’s in the Wrong?
This expectant mom is caught in a dilemma: she loves her job and wants to return to work after maternity leave, but her husband assumed she’d be a stay-at-home mom until their child starts school. The couple’s disagreement highlights the challenges modern parents face when it comes to balancing work and family life. While the mom-to-be understands her husband’s concerns, she knows that being a SAHM would take a toll on her mental health. Despite feeling a bit guilty, she stands firm in her decision. Let’s dive into the internet’s top responses to this tricky situation…
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Moms should not be guilted into being SAHP. NTA
Parent defends working moms, calls out partner’s patriarchal assumption.
Expectant couple’s late discussion on parenting causes tension. ♀️
Late conversation about expectations leads to inevitable resentment city
Mom-to-be stands up for career, but should have discussed earlier ♀️
Engaging suggestion for stay-at-home dad sparks sarcastic backlash.
Expectant mom faces unsupportive partner in career vs. SAHM decision
SAHM life has destroyed me, don’t get sucked in
Mom-to-be refuses to be a SAHM and stands her ground
Breaking gender roles and standing up for yourself. You go!
Expectant mom stands up for herself, but surprises with timing
Parent suggests daycare or splitting parenting duties for working mother.
Discussing parenting roles before pregnancy is important. Tag teaming works!
Don’t sacrifice your career for his. NTA.
Discussing career goals before having kids is crucial
Equal parenting responsibilities for equal parenting decisions
Dad should take care of the baby NTA
Choosing to work as a mom? NTA. Start nanny search.
Mom-to-be stands up for herself and her career goals
Father should love and spend time with child as much as mother
Supportive reply to mom’s decision to not be a SAHM.
Mom-to-be stands up for herself against controlling husband
Choosing to work and be a mom is empowering
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Choosing to be a stay-at-home-mom is a personal decision , but communication is key
Childcare debate: NTA for wanting to work, but discuss options
Expectant mother stands up for herself against controlling husband
Being a stay-at-home mom can be tough. NTA for wanting more.
Fair point, why not switch off or let him stay home?
Mom stands up for her right to work.
Choosing not to be a SAHM is okay
Choosing not to be a stay-at-home parent doesn’t make you NTA
Expectant mom refuses to be a SAHM, gets support.
Supportive comment encourages new mom to pursue her career goals
Mental health matters! Being a working mom can be best
Working mom defends her choice, suggests hiring a business manager
Debating the respect of a woman’s choice to not SAHM
Expectant mom stands her ground against unreasonable expectations.
Challenge gender roles! NTA for not wanting to be SAHM
Breaking the stereotype: Expectant mother wants to keep her career
Cultural differences in parenting: Should maternity leave be longer?
Motherhood is a job, not a sentence. You’re NTA for wanting more.
Male perspective supports expectant mom’s decision to hire nanny. NTA
Communication is key! ️ But this NTA comment shows that sometimes things slip through the cracks.
Breaking gender stereotypes in parenthood
Breaking the double standard: why should child care be women’s responsibility?
Commenter fully supports the mom’s decision
OP’s husband’s red flag raises concern among commenters
Breaking gender roles: Expectant mom refuses to be SAHM.
Lighten up on nanny requirements to avoid SAHM conflict
Expectant father prioritizes strangers over his own family?
Thoughtful suggestion for childfree couple considering adoption
This commenter is not the a**hole.
Empowering response to traditional gender roles
Empowerment! You have the right to make your own choices
