A woman is upset that her family chose her step-sister’s wedding over her daughter’s first birthday party. Despite the party being held earlier in the day, most of her family members RSVPed no due to the wedding and travel. The woman refused to change the date and is angry that her mother is prioritizing her step-daughter over her own grandchild. Read on to find out what happened and who Reddit thinks is the a**hole.
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Torn between daughter’s birthday and step-sister’s wedding

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Daughter’s birthday vs step-sister’s wedding. Who’s the priority?
Family dynamics can be complicated, especially when step-siblings are involved. In this case, a Reddit user is wondering if they are the a**hole for not changing their daughter’s birthday party date to accommodate their step-sister’s wedding. The user has no relationship with their step-sister and feels like their own daughter should be the priority. However, their mother and other family members have chosen to attend the wedding instead of the birthday party, leaving the user and their daughter feeling left out.
This situation raises the question of what takes priority in family events and if step-siblings should be treated the same as biological siblings. Is it fair for the user’s mother to prioritize her stepdaughter’s wedding over her own grandchild’s birthday party? Or should the user have been more flexible and changed the party date? Join the discussion in the comments below.
OP’s resentment towards step-sister’s mom is beyond heinous YTA

OP’s selfishness and jealousy ruins daughter’s birthday and step-sister’s wedding

Commenter called out for poor relationship with step-sister.

Step-sister lost her mother, OP YTA for being bitter.

Choosing spite over daughter’s first birthday makes YTA.

OP is the a-hole for prioritizing competition with step-sister over daughter’s birthday.

Choosing a birthday over a wedding? YTA according to commenters.

Curious about daughter’s birthday date for party scheduling

Consider therapy and be kind to your stepsister. YTA
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Priorities are important . Don’t create unnecessary drama.

Choose love and family over petty resentment.

Birthday party or wedding? Priorities, priorities… ♀️

Don’t schedule family events on the same day as a wedding – YTA ❌

Commenter accuses OP of seeking attention, calls them YTA.

Step-sister’s wedding vs. daughter’s first birthday: AITA? YTA.

A comment calling out the OP’s selfishness and a reply predicting future conflict with their daughter.

Choosing step-sister’s wedding over daughter’s first birthday – YTA ♀️

Choosing your 1-year-old’s birthday over your step-sister’s wedding? YTA.

Harsh judgment! Why therapy?

Commenter calls out OP for prioritizing grudge over daughter’s birthday

Don’t spoil your daughter’s birthday over a wedding.

Combining a wedding and birthday party is difficult for everyone involved

Choosing daughter’s birthday over step-sister’s wedding – A-hole move?

Commenter calls out OP’s stubbornness and predicts strained family relationships. YTA
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Parent prioritizes party over daughter’s suffering – Yikes

Choosing daughter’s birthday on step-sister’s wedding day backfires

Choosing step-sister’s wedding over daughter’s birthday – YTA

Commenter calls out OP’s drama-creating behaviour for daughter’s birthday

Choosing your child’s birthday for a wedding? YTA ♀️

Planning a birthday party on step-sister’s wedding day – YTA

Don’t create family drama over your daughter’s birthday – YTA

Commenter called out for being petty and advised to seek therapy.

Resentment towards step-sister causing unnecessary drama. Change the date

YTA for prioritizing step-sister over daughter’s birthday

OP faces backlash for weaponizing daughter in family conflict

Commenter says YTA for scheduling events on same day.

Commenter calls OP the A-hole for scheduling conflict.

Don’t let the hate ruin your daughter’s special day

Being a step-parent is hard, but YTA for treating her poorly

Commenter calls out unhealthy hatred and suggests therapy for OP.
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Choose a different date for your daughter’s party – Soft YTA

Commenter calls out OP’s jealousy and suggests therapy.

Forcing everyone to take sides makes YTA

Commenter called out for being petty about step-sister’s wedding

Don’t let your resentment affect your daughter’s 1st birthday

Don’t make people choose. YTA.

Commenter advises seeing a therapist to work through resentment. ♀️

Putting a baby at the center of a petty feud

Refusing to change party date for daughter’s bday – YTA

Rescheduling daughter’s birthday is an option. YTA sentiment.

Hosting a birthday party on the same day as a wedding? YTA

Ouch! YTA for not being family-oriented.

Commenter calls out OP for being selfish about daughter’s birthday

Commenter suggests seeking therapy and changing daughter’s party date

Let go of the resentment, YTA. Change the party date

Forcing people to choose: YTA. Don’t get butthurt

Commenter calls out OP for prioritizing attention over step-sister’s wedding

Don’t be an a**hole on your step-sister’s wedding day

Putting your daughter’s first birthday over your step-sister’s wedding? YTA

Mom chooses step-sister’s wedding over daughter’s birthday – YTA.
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Don’t let a family feud ruin a wedding day!

Don’t be an a**hole, it’s just a one year old’s party

Choosing birthday over step-sister’s wedding: YTA or NAH?
