Imagine growing up with an absent and abusive father, only for him to come back into your life asking for help. That’s exactly what happened to this young woman, whose father was never there for her, even during the most difficult times. Now, he’s back, asking for her assistance with his other daughter’s college expenses. Will she give in and help him, or will she stand her ground and refuse? Let’s dive into this emotional rollercoaster of a story.
Absent and Abusive Father

Mom’s Struggles and Dad’s Refusal to Help

Dad’s New Family and Disappearance

A Turn for the Better ️

College Dreams and Dad’s Disappointment

A Scholarship and a Plea for Help

Dad’s Cold Response ❄️

A Generous Gift and a College Degree

Dad’s Sudden Request for Help

Standing Her Ground

Dad’s Accusations and Public Outcry

EDIT: A Change of Heart? ❤️

No Public Response

A Decision to Help, But on Her Terms

An Alternative Solution

A Rollercoaster of Emotions and a Surprising Decision
After years of dealing with an absent and abusive father, this young woman was faced with a difficult decision when he asked for help with his other daughter’s college expenses. Despite his cold response to her own plea for help in the past, she ultimately decided to lend a hand, but on her own terms. Instead of giving money, she’s helping his daughter secure a scholarship at a more affordable college. It’s a heartwarming twist in a story filled with pain, resilience, and the power of forgiveness. Let’s see what the internet thinks of this incredible journey…
NTA. Commenters agree father is an a**hole. OP shouldn’t help.

Daughter refuses to help estranged dad’s other child. Empathy lacking?

Block him and go scorched earth on his a**. NTA.

NTA, block him completely. You and your family are amazing!

NTA’s bio dad is trying to manipulate them for money

Cutting off dad who abandoned her, but conflicted about half-siblings

NTA. Commenter and reply agree father is manipulative and awful.

NTA commenter suggests exposing dad’s abandonment on Facebook.

Cut ties with dad, Facebook toxic. NTA. Student loans enforce payment.

NTA OP, focus on your financial stability and ignore your bio-dad.

Daughter stands up to dad’s manipulation and chooses self-care.

Don’t waste your time on a terrible father. Focus on family

NTA refuses to help dad who abandoned her for younger kids.

Commenter doubts story authenticity, gets called out.

NTA. Commenter proud of OP for overcoming and not helping dad.

A simple yet effective reaction to the article.
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Commenter calls out obvious lack of conflict in post.

NTA. Don’t pay for her education, be a life coach

Daughter stands up to absentee dad. NTA wins.
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Don’t risk your hard-earned money on an unreliable father.

Cutting toxic people out of life, NTA for not helping dad

No obligation to help him. You owe him nothing.

Daughter refuses to help dad who abandoned her.

Supportive comment reminds OP that she’s not responsible for her father’s actions.

OP clarifies story, commenters can now proceed with judgment.
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Commenter congratulates OP on better times and mother’s recovery.

Choosing yourself over a deadbeat dad ❤️

Daughter refuses to help her dad who abandoned her.

NTA claps back at irresponsible dad on social media.

Don’t fall for emotional manipulation. Block him and move on.

Cutting out a manipulative parent is the best decision

Block him and move on! You’re a good egg!

NTA. Supportive comment suggests posting on Facebook to stop negativity.

Warning: Dad may drain daughter emotionally and financially

Commenter agrees with OP’s actions, adds sarcastic twist

Quick update from commenter about story completeness.

Neighbor suspects Dad is lying about finances, NTA.

Daughter refuses to help dad who abandoned her. NTA.

NTA, stay strong

Commenter defends daughter’s decision with NTA verdict

Daughter stands her ground against manipulative deadbeat dad.

Comment praised for supporting success despite past family issues.

NTA. Don’t let the deadbeat guilt you into helping others.

Daughter refuses to help dad who abandoned her. NTA.

NTA. Call out the deadbeat dad on Facebook for his behavior.

Call out deadbeat dad on Facebook? NTA approves.
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Justice served: Daughter refuses to help abandoning dad. NTA

Food is love and caring, but money can complicate things.

Don’t let toxic people bring you down. Congrats on everything!

Use his own trick against him and expose his failures

Daughter refuses to help dad who abandoned her, and rightfully so

Don’t disrespect your family’s hardship by giving him money.

Stay strong and don’t let him take advantage of you!

NTA. Setting boundaries with family can be tough

PSA: You don’t owe your parents anything, period.

Commenter refuses to help dad, calls him selfish.

Strong NTA sentiment with a curse word

Get revenge on dad by exposing his actions on Facebook!

Clear and concise: NTA. No explanation needed
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Daughter forgives dad, commenters applaud her for being NTA
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NTA. Empathizing with half-siblings doesn’t mean you owe them help.

Commenter calls out post for being a waste of time
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Daughter rightfully refuses to help dad who abandoned her

Don’t fall for emotional blackmail, you’re NTA

Unanimous agreement: OP is not the a**hole.
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Commenter asks unexpected question, gets surprising answer

Redditors call out parent for being TA towards his kids
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NTA, block him on Facebook and focus on your success

Daughter takes a stand against absentee father. NTA
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Daughter stands up to absentee father, refuses to be manipulated.

NTA! You owe him nothing. Block him and move on.

Don’t look back. Take care of your family.
