Daughter Expects Parents to Support Her & Baby, But They Have Other Plans

Meet Amanda, a 21-year-old college student who found herself in a tricky situation after getting pregnant. Her parents, a 49-year-old teacher and a 51-year-old husband, had always emphasized the importance of being responsible for one’s actions and consequences. So, when Amanda and her boyfriend, Tony, came up with a plan that involved her parents supporting them financially while they raised their grandchild, they were in for a surprise. Let’s dive into this family drama and see what happened!

The College Fund Dilemma

Amanda Meets Tony

Red Flags and Relationship Issues

The COVID Complication

Tony’s Suggestion

Parents’ Response

Amanda’s Pregnancy

The ‘Plan’

Parents’ Rejection

Financial Boundaries

No Full-Time Return

Amanda’s Decision

Tony’s Constant Requests

Family Opinions

Edit: Clarifications

Parents Stand Their Ground

Amanda’s parents made it clear that they wouldn’t support her and Tony financially while they raised their grandchild. They emphasized the importance of being responsible for one’s actions and consequences, and while Amanda understood this, Tony struggled to grasp the concept. Tony’s family accused Amanda’s parents of being unfair, but most of Amanda’s family agreed with their decision. As the drama unfolds, Amanda’s parents remain firm in their stance, but promise to be there for their daughter and grandchild in other ways. Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…

Generous college offer, clear boundaries set, reasonable approach. NTA

NTA’s decision to not support daughter’s boyfriend and baby justified

Commenter and replies agree Tony is a leech. NTA

Parental support for college is enough, NTA comment supported.

Daughter made her own decisions, grandparents shouldn’t be fully responsible

Commenter says daughter needs to grow up and stop playing house

NTA, but emotionally support daughter as Tony seems manipulative

Daughter’s boyfriend is after their money, NTA for refusing ‍♀️

NTA, Tony’s parents enable him and refuse to admit it. ‍♀️

Parents draw a hard line on daughter’s poor choices

Suggests long-term birth control, suspects boyfriend tampered with it

NTA commenter offers support and warning about toxic relationship.

Tony’s lack of independence gets called out in NTA comment.

Curious commenter questions Tony’s absence and Amanda’s graduation status.

User predicts Amanda’s future and offers sarcastic advice. ‍♂️

NTA but consider being a safe place for daughter in future

Setting boundaries with a moocher boyfriend

Parenting goals: Keep daughters away from Tonys

Commenter and reply agree on Tony’s questionable intentions

Debate over whether OP is controlling or setting boundaries

Grandparents and everyone else are responsible for a baby?

NTA. Unplanned pregnancy hijacks grandparents’ lives and finances. Good luck

Commenter calls daughter a ‘moron’ and supports parents. NTA

Supporting daughter financially? NTA parents teach important lesson.

Commenter defends grandparents’ decision, replies explain Tony’s behavior

Concerned parent shares red flags about daughter’s boyfriend and financial favors.

Commenter questions Tony’s motives and praises parenting approach.

Struggling with lack of support from family and enabling in-laws

Clear boundaries set, NTA. Tony’s family can support them

Commenter sympathizes with parents, calls daughter’s partner a loser.

Focus on building relationship with daughter, not just sticking to plan

Supportive comment suggests having a backup plan for daughter’s future

NTA comment shuts down entitlement mentality around parenting.

Commenter sympathizes with OP, predicts Tony will leave soon

NTA shuts down ‘anchor baby’ accusation with a sarcastic ‘Geez’

NTA. Setting boundaries and being self-reliant is the best medicine.

NTA comment reminds us of the importance of accountability

Grandparents’ sacrifice is invaluable, NTA

Daughter not the a**hole for not supporting deadbeat partner

Formerly young mom shares success story, offers support and hope

Commenter defends parents’ decision to not raise grandchild.

Grandparents are NTA and close to retirement at 49?!

Daughter’s decisions respected, education supported, Tony can step up. NTA

NTA but tread carefully, offer support without giving full financial backing

Grandparents’ experience shows NTA made the right choice

Agreement on taking responsibility for pregnancy.

Parents refuse to support daughter’s baby, speculate son-in-law’s intentions

Daughter’s partner is manipulative, advice given to support daughter’s independence

Commenter defends parents’ decision to not support daughter’s baby

Tony should support them while daughter pursues free college education

Commenter calls out entitled father for expecting support from family

Daughter expects support, but parents say ‘no’. Amanda’s handling well.

Setting boundaries with entitled family member

Grateful for tough love from mum during teenage pregnancy

Grandparents expected to support irresponsible daughter’s family planning choices.

NTA. Commenter shares personal experience with entitled family members

Parent sets clear expectations for daughter’s pregnancy and it pays off

Proud parents set boundaries and teach daughter responsibility.