A man goes on a date with a woman he’s been messaging for a couple of weeks. They meet up and things seem to be going well until an unexpected comment changes the atmosphere. As the date progresses, the man decides to split the check, leaving his date surprised and upset. Was he right to do so, or should he have paid the bill? Read on to find out what happened.
Setting the Scene ️
First Impressions
Unlucky in Love
Unexpected Comment
Vibe Killed ⚡
Date Continues
Check Arrives
Surprise and Anger
Sarcastic Reply
Name-Calling
Quick Exit ♂️
Friend’s Opinion ️
Defending His Actions ️
Summary: A Date Gone Wrong
A man and woman go on a date that starts off well, but takes a turn when the woman makes a rude comment about not sleeping with him just because he’s buying dinner. The man is put off by her comment and decides to split the check at the end of the date, causing an argument. He later shares the story with a friend, who calls him a jerk for not paying the bill. Was he in the wrong, or did he make the right decision? Share your thoughts and reactions below.
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Comment section full of assumptions and name-calling. ESH.
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Splitting the check turned into a debate on sex expectations. YTA.
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YTA for assuming she owed you sex and reacting rudely.
Commenter calls out OP’s sarcastic comment, leading to ESH conclusion
Condescending date gets served a taste of her own medicine
Splitting the check on a bad date is fair.
Debate over who pays on a date sparks gender-based stereotypes
Splitting the check leads to a sour date. ESH.
Not the a**hole for not predetermining who pays.
Splitting the check and a defensive comment leads to conflict. YTA.
Splitting the check turned into a disaster. Both parties at fault. ♂️
A bad date with bad manners on both sides ♂️
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Breaking gender norms on first dates, NTA stands firm
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Gender shouldn’t determine who pays. Splitting the check is fair.
Splitting the check: fair or presumptive?
The importance of clear communication in dating
OP justified in not paying after date was rude. NTA
Polite to pay for your share, NTA for not paying.
Breaking traditional dating expectations: NTA for going Dutch
Splitting the check and expecting sex? YTA, and it shows.
Breaking gender norms in dating ♀️ ♂️ and standing up for oneself
Splitting the check or splitting hairs? YTA gets called out
Splitting the check ruins date after comment about sex expectations
Splitting the check: YTA or NTA? The verdict is in.
Splitting the bill in dating is a great way to vet people
Going Dutch on a date: fair or not? NTA says yes.
Splitting the check on a first date: NTA explains etiquette.
Dating app norms and assumptions lead to a sour date
