We’ve all heard stories of family drama, but this one takes the cake! A young woman, who we’ll call Jane, shares her experience with her dad’s new wife, Susan. Jane, who is bisexual, has been called a slur by Susan multiple times. Despite promises of change, Susan has never apologized. Now, Jane’s turning the tables and using the slur against herself to make Susan uncomfortable. But is she going too far? Let’s dive into the story.
Meet Susan, the Stepmom
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The Slur Heard ‘Round the House
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A Christmas to Remember
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An Apology That Never Came
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The Missing Name Card
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Jane’s Petty Retort
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Dinner Drama Ensues ️
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Years of Distance ♀️
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Covid Brings Jane Home
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Dad’s Promise for Change
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Susan’s Control Freak Ways
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Stepmom’s Chastising
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Jane’s Bold Move
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Susan’s Outburst
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Jane’s Response ⬇️
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A Never-Ending Cycle of Drama?
Jane continues to use the slur against herself, making Susan uncomfortable, but still, no apology is given. Susan accuses Jane of being petty, profane, and living in the past. Jane counters that she’s only using the name Susan gave her and never apologized for. Will the cycle of drama ever end? Or will Jane and Susan be locked in this battle forever? Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…
NTA. Dad’s lack of support is disappointing. Step mom owes apology.
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Reclaiming slurs or using them casually? NTA stands firm.
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Homophobic stepmom insults daughter, dad allows it. NTA stands up.
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NTA. Demand an apology for bigoted abuse and remind the bigot of their bigotry. Use the power of hateful words to turn it back around.
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Stepmom’s lack of apology and continued r**e behavior is unacceptable. NTA.
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Reclaiming slurs: OP stands up to stepmom’s hate.
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Demanding an apology for a hurtful slur. NTA
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ESH, but is actively antagonizing the stepmom helping the situation?
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Demand a genuine apology for the harm caused by the slur
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Dad’s wife used a slur, but he’s not standing up for OP.
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Empowering response to homophobic slur with a creative twist
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Standing up to bigotry: Forgiveness vs. accountability.
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Is OP being petty or does stepmom deserve to apologize?
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Estranged stepmother refuses to apologize for using a slur
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Support for controversial NTA comment.
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Fighting against a stubborn stepmom who won’t apologize
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Standing up to bigotry with grace and strength
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Standing up to bigotry, NTA comment receives applause
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Don’t let old slurs slide. Drag until apology. #NotTheA**hole
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Commenter disgusted by dad’s wife’s behavior, supports OP.
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Commenter suggests mature communication instead of petty behavior.
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Bisexual OP called a slur, but is it time to let go? ESH.
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ESH, but Susan is the biggest a****e for using a slur.
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Commenter receives a harsh truth about their behavior.
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Stand your ground and demand an apology.
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Stepmom called her a slur, but OP’s behavior was also wrong. ESH.
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OP and stepmother both acted poorly, but communication is key
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Both parties at fault. OP needs to let it go.
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Commenter predicts stepmom’s gaslighting, offers sympathy.
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Dealing with past hurt can be tough, but is it worth it?
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Uncomfortable living situation with slur incident. ESH for handling.
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Mom stands up against stepmom’s racist slur. NTA
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Standing up to bigotry, but is it worth the ongoing battle?
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Standing up to bigotry: one woman’s inspiring story
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Family drama and bigotry, NTA stands up for herself.
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Resolving the issue with Susan’s pride is key!
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Both parties at fault, but addressing it better is key.
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ESH but communication is key for resolution
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Last Updated on May 4, 2023 by Diply Social Team