Picture this: a birthday party for a 20-year-old, candles on the cake, and a 3-year-old cousin accidentally blowing on the cake too. No big deal, right? Well, not for our birthday girl, Brooke, who decided to turn this innocent mistake into a full-blown drama, complete with snapping at her little cousin and calling her a ‘f***ing brat.’ Now, her dad is taking a stand and returning her birthday gift, a purse, as a consequence for her actions. But is he being too harsh, considering Brooke is going through a tough time with her best friend? Let’s dive into this family conflict and see what’s really going on. ️♀️
Birthday Party Gone Wrong

️ Candle Chaos

Aria’s Innocent Mistake

Brooke’s Outburst

Parental Intervention

♂️ Dad’s Stance

No Apology

Gift Confiscation

Purse Problems

Family’s Reaction

Brooke’s Timing

♀️ Wife’s Opinion

Friend Drama

Heartbreaking Situation

No Excuse

The Debate

Birthday Drama: Gift Returned & Family Divided
So, here’s the situation: Brooke, the birthday girl, had a meltdown after her 3-year-old cousin Aria accidentally blew on her birthday cake. Instead of letting it go, Brooke called Aria a ‘f***ing brat,’ and refused to apologize. Her dad decided to return her birthday gift, a purse, as a consequence for her actions. However, Brooke’s mom thinks dad should be more understanding, given that Brooke is going through a rough time with her best friend Jessy, who’s marrying a not-so-great guy. Is Brooke’s behavior justified because of her personal struggles, or should she face the consequences of her actions? Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…
NTA. 20yo cursing out a 3yo is too far

Don’t take your personal problems out on a 3-year-old!

Aria’s the only NAH here. Gifts shouldn’t come with conditions

Family drama ensues over birthday gift and toddler misbehavior. ♀️

A commenter empathizes but condemns Brooke’s behavior towards a toddler.

Daughter’s punishment or dad’s control? ESH in this situation. ♀️

Parent suggests considering entire scenario before punishment, NAH situation.

ESH for swearing and not watching toddler; everyone needs to chill

Family drama ruins birthdays, is cursing out a child justified?

User seeks clarification on Aria’s behavior and parental response.

YTA for taking away daughter’s gift for swearing at cousin

Daughter curses at 3-year-old, dad takes gift, ESH in situation.

User defends daughter and criticizes others’ reactions. YTA ruling.

User defends Brooke’s behavior and suggests alternative gift-giving time

ESH – Everyone’s an a**hole in this family feud.

A 20-year-old cursed at a 3-year-old? NTA handled it right

Parent questions if child has history of disruptive behavior at events.

ESH but taking her gift away may not be the solution

Conditional love and control issues. ESH in this situation.

Off-topic comment, but still better than taking away a gift

Confiscating gift from adult over argument with a 3-year-old?

Brooke’s entitled behavior towards cousin results in lost gift. NTA

Taking back the gift is theft, ESH (toddler excluded)

Stealing from adult daughter? Let’s talk it out instead

Skeptical comment calls out suspicious post for clogging the sub.

Daughter’s birthday gift taken away for cursing out cousin, unfair treatment.

Curious commenter questions 3-year-old’s proximity to birthday cake

Recipient’s ownership of gift, YTA for taking it back

Commenter defends daughter’s reaction and criticizes parent’s punishment.

YTA for prioritizing niece over daughter’s mental turmoil

YTA commenter defends daughter’s right to gift, calls out cousin’s parents.

YTA. Birthday girl’s lesson: no blowing candles without permission.

NTA comment defends birthday girl’s right to her celebration.

When it comes to birthdays, we want to blow our candles

Support for Brooke’s reaction to unfair punishment.

Supporting Brooke, defending her actions and questioning the dad’s behavior

Parenting advice or a warning?

YATAH for taking back a gift? The internet debates gift-giving etiquette

A 20-year-old treating a toddler badly is concerning, but so is treating them like a 9-year-old for punishment. Strange.

Returning a gift won’t fix years of improper upbringing. ESH.

Parent’s punishment may not fit daughter’s cursing at cousin. ESH ♀️

ESH – Daughter should not have cursed, dad shouldn’t take gift ♂️

Daughter cursed out cousin, Dad took gift, ESH in situation.

Teaching moment or not, gifts shouldn’t be conditional. ESH.

Dad takes away daughter’s birthday gift in YTA judgement

Daughter’s 20th birthday turns into family drama.

Communication is key! ️ Taking away the gift won’t work.

Handling mistakes and setting boundaries could prevent this family drama

20-year-old curses out 3-year-old, loses birthday gift.

Parenting advice and judgement for dad’s gift punishment.

Is taking away a birthday gift too harsh a punishment?

Parents, daughter, and dad all share blame for birthday drama

A 20-year-old curses out a 3-year-old, but who’s to blame? ESH

ESH for taking back a gift that already belongs to her.

Is the 3-year-old cousin an unwelcome guest?

Gifted is gifted, taking back is stealing. Everyone sucks here.

Don’t curse at kids, but also don’t share birthday cake

Brooke’s behavior was unacceptable but dad can’t take back gift

Parental favoritism can push children away. Don’t risk losing them.

Taking back a gift is not punishment, it’s theft.

ESH family dynamic and parenting criticized; taking away gift unacceptable

20-year-old acting like a brat gets birthday gift taken away

Daughter overreacted to cousin’s behavior, dad treats her like child. ESH

ESH. Taking back the gift is pointless. She needs emotional support

Curious commenter questions details of the story

Escalating an isolated incident least likely to reconcile the problem ♂️

Parenting advice criticized as hypocritical and ineffective.

Mom blamed daughter for baby’s behavior, punishes unfairly. NTA.

Daughter posted first, parents didn’t move child, YTA.

Tough situation with high emotions, but no one’s reaction proportional

Parent shares experience of 5-year-old dealing with similar situation

20-yr old screams at toddler over abuse? Not the a-hole.

NTA. Commenter defends birthday girl, criticizes yelling at toddler.

Adults should not scream at toddlers for ruining birthdays

NTA suggests daughter needs to learn to control her feelings

Age is just a number, but manners are important

NTA refuses to apologize for cursing out 3-year-old cousin
