A 36-year-old father finds himself in the middle of a heated family dispute after his autistic son accidentally deletes his sister’s important school project. The 13-year-old daughter, understandably upset, loses her temper and yells at her brother, causing him to have a meltdown. The father tries to mediate the situation, but when his wife insists on punishing their daughter, he takes a stand. The question is, did he make the right choice?
The Family Dynamic
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A Sudden Outburst ️
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The Meltdown Begins
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Wife Steps In
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The Deleted Project ❌
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The Accidental Deletion
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Father’s Response ️
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Wife Wants Punishment
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Dad Takes a Stand ✊
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The Argument Heats Up
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Wife Disagrees ♀️
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Dad’s Counterargument ️
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Wife’s Reaction
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The Silent Treatment
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The Question Remains ❓
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A Father’s Dilemma: Daughter vs. Wife
Caught in the crossfire of a family argument, a father is left questioning his decision to side with his daughter over his wife. With an important school project deleted and emotions running high, he tries to find a balance between understanding his daughter’s frustration and respecting his wife’s desire to discipline. But, as the situation escalates and the silent treatment begins, the father is left wondering if he made the right choice. Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…
NTA. Autistic commenters agree- son needs to learn consequences, daughter needs support.

Protecting one child’s needs shouldn’t come at the expense of another’s. ♀️

NTA: Daughter not emotionally mature to handle stressful situation

NTA comment defends daughter and criticizes wife’s damaging behavior

Teaching emotional regulation and restorative justice instead of punishment.

Supportive comment and reply encourage fair discipline and growth for all

NTA. Teenagers struggle with anger management. Word docs are retrievable

Supporting your child is important ❤️

Respectful dad defends daughter, questions wife’s punishing logic.
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Daughter’s outburst causes tension, but commenters suggest solutions.

Daughter’s punishment dispute leads to NTA judgement for dad.

OP’s account vanished faster than his wife’s authority

Son borrows sister’s laptop for school, sparks family dispute

Dad wins praise for handling daughter’s punishment

Commenter empathizes with daughter’s situation and offers advice

NTA – Daughter shouldn’t be punished for expressing her feelings

Daughter unfairly punished, could lead to resentment towards brother


Can deleted data be recovered? Let’s find out

Daughter’s mistake understandable, wife’s behavior not. NTA

Teaching consequences to a child with autism
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Daughter has every right to be upset over deleted work

NTA – Daughter’s natural reaction shouldn’t be punished. Sibling’s autism considered.
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Daughter’s hard work erased, wife coddles son. NTA dad agrees.

Supportive comment from an autistic person defending daughter’s actions.
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Sibling of a child with autism applauds dad’s parenting approach

Sibling of autistic child shares negative impact of unequal treatment

Lost document? NTA gets helpful tech advice from commenters

Parenting advice: Treat children equally and prepare them for reality

Support for dad’s decision to prioritize daughter over wife’s reaction

Daughter’s laptop work destroyed, son careless. NTA, but edit matters.

Parenting double standards: Daughter blamed for being older, wife TA

Helpful tip for recovering unsaved documents. NTA.

Empathetic comment supports dad’s parenting decision for emotional daughter.

Dad chooses daughter, calls out wife’s favoritism

Supporting your child is important for a healthy relationship

Daughter overreacted but learned a valuable lesson. NTA

Autism doesn’t excuse bad behavior. NTA saves the day
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Helpful tip for recovering lost work in Word

Sibling punishment drama: Daughter not at fault, NTA

Defending daughter, but communication needs work. Apologies could resolve conflict.

Recovering unsaved Word files? NTA for siding with daughter.

Supportive comment with helpful advice

Daughter not at fault, son should be punished. Auto-recover possible
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NTA – Daughter’s mistake understandable, recover files from bin/trash.

Helpful tip for document storage

Daughter punished for normal behavior, dad takes her side

Empathetic response to daughter’s punishment.

Both children need patience and understanding, not just the sister

Protecting daughter from favoritism, NTA dad takes a stand
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Oldest child praised for valid emotions, dad supports daughter.

An intriguing comment with no replies – what’s the context?
