Imagine being a dad who worked tirelessly to support his family only to be accused of cheating and cut off by his children. That’s the story of this 49-year-old father who has been through a rollercoaster of emotions with his ex-wife and two children. After years of misunderstandings and false accusations, his children have finally reached out to him, suggesting family therapy. But there’s a catch: they want him to pay for it. The dad, feeling wronged and hurt, refuses to foot the bill. Is he justified in his decision? Let’s dive into this emotional tale and find out.
A Marriage Born Out of Pressure

Mary’s Unexpected Change

Money Troubles and Accusations

Working Long Hours

Separate Account and Divorce

Children Stop Talking

The Unveiling of the Truth ️

Reconnecting with Their Mom

Family Therapy Suggestion ️

Refusing to Pay

Custody and Relationship History

The Falling Out and Revelation ️

Considering Therapy for Himself

A Father’s Struggle: Is He Right to Refuse Payment?
This father has been through it all: a pressured marriage, financial struggles, and being cut off by his children due to false accusations. Now that the truth has been revealed, his children want to mend their relationship through family therapy, but they expect him to pay for it. He refuses, feeling that he’s been wronged and hurt enough. Is he justified in his decision? As the internet weighs in on this emotional story, it’s clear that the path to healing is never easy.
NTA dad should go to therapy alone to work through feelings

Adult children suggested therapy, NTA for refusing to pay.

Suggests individual therapy to deal with anger before family therapy

Choosing to be right over repairing relationships

Commenter suggests therapy for dad before family therapy

Commenter suggests therapy for hurting father, promotes self-care

Commenter expresses detachment from children, suggesting deeper issues at play.

Suggests therapy for OP to work through bitterness and trust issues
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Dad stands his ground and won’t pay for therapy

Individual therapy might help dad find a compromise with his kids

Commenter deems Mary TA, but where are the details?

Empathetic comment receives support. NTA wins the day.

NTA – The commenter advises the father on how to deal with his narcissistic ex-wife and the therapy bill for their family.

A vulgar comment with no replies. Not worth discussing.
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Prioritizing validation over relationship with children

Kids believed dad chose another woman over family . Pay for therapy!

OP doesn’t owe anyone anything except self-care. NTA

Father admits to resenting his kids during therapy debate

Parental rift over false accusations leads to therapy dispute.

Commenter suggests therapy doesn’t require apology, gets snarky reply

Commenter questions OP’s relationship with kids, seeks more context

Suggests solo therapy to work out anger and trust issues

Prioritizing being right over being loved? Reflect on this.

Child of divorce shares similar experience, advises calm communication.

NTA for not paying for therapy, but should communicate better

Commenter suggests therapy for NTA to work through past trauma

Absent father refuses to pay for therapy, blames kids for mistake

User defends dad, calls ex-wife ‘trash’ and kids entitled.

Ex’s influence on kids evident, commenter takes NTA stance.

NTA stands firm on not paying for family therapy.
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Commenter empathizes with OP but points out his absence as a father, replies defend OP’s situation and blame his wife.

Commenter suggests OP’s kids may not know about abuse

Reconnecting with a father after a deceitful mother: worth saving?

Get therapy to heal before rebuilding relationship with children.

Compromise may be necessary for a better relationship with children

Offer to split therapy cost to rebuild relationship with kids

NTA stands firm on children’s betrayal, demands proof of change.

Compromise suggested for family therapy payment, no one at fault

Engaging compromise suggestion for family therapy cost division.

Commenter sympathizes with OP’s situation and suggests therapy.

Prioritizing being right over relationship with children has consequences. Therapy recommended.

User disagrees with OP, advises to prioritize kids’ therapy.

Dad hesitant to pay for therapy, feels disposable to kids.

Commenter advises OP to prioritize their own well-being. NTA

NTA cleared of cheating accusation but family still holds grudge

Dad should pay for family therapy despite being NTA.

Consider paying for at least one family therapy session.

Parental responsibility vs financial burden in family therapy.

Divorced dad refuses to pay for family therapy. Fair or not?

User questions how parents could pressure adults into marriage.

NTA suggests children pay for therapy, calls out twisted logic

Contributing to family therapy can help, don’t shoulder it alone.

Commenter defends father’s decision to not pay for therapy. NTA.

Harsh comment suggests cutting ties with family for honesty.

Commenter empathizes with OP’s anger but suggests therapy compromise.

Hero or not, refusing therapy payment: YTA or NTA?

Suggests a fair compromise to move forward and avoid resentment.

Divorce was the right choice

Commenter suggests therapy for OP to work through past trauma.

NTA commenter defends dad’s decision, Reddit bias against men.

Prioritize your own healing, not the family’s toxicity.

Kids should pitch in for therapy, ex’s behavior is toxic

Commenter suggests therapy for OP to cope with family hurt.

Commenter advises seeking personal counseling before taking action.

Take charge of your mental health

Commenter empathizes with OP’s pain, suggests individual therapy. NTA

Father’s past actions suggest he sees family as a burden.

Choosing the moral high ground over a toxic relationship

Is the copay worth more than your relationship? ESH ♂️
