Buckle up, folks! We’ve got a doozy of a story here that’s sure to get your emotions all tangled up. Meet our conflicted dad, a 41-year-old man caught between his past and present families. On one side, there’s his ex-girlfriend Sarah and their severely disabled daughter Molly. ♿ On the other, his new wife and two young daughters. As Sarah reaches her breaking point caring for Molly 24/7, she’s turning to dad for help. But is he ready to step up, or will he prioritize his new family? Get ready for a rollercoaster ride of tough decisions, guilt, and family drama!
A Difficult Decision: Keeping or Aborting a Disabled Baby

Relationship Struggles: Disagreement Over Disabled Baby Tears Couple Apart

Momma Bear vs. Reluctant Dad: The Battle Over Their Unborn Child

Miracle Molly is Born: Severely Disabled, But Loved By Mom

Doctors Confirm the Worst: Baby Molly’s Severe Disabilities

Daddy Moves Away: New Job, New Life, Leaving Molly Behind

♿ 11 Years Later: Molly’s Condition and Mom’s Struggles

Stay-at-Home Mom: Sarah’s 24/7 Dedication to Molly

Dad’s New Family: Wife and Two Daughters, 4 Hours Away

Overwhelmed Mom: Sarah’s Plea for Help with Molly

️ Shared Custody? Sarah’s Suggestion for Dad to Help with Molly

Dad’s Counter-Offer: Pay for Professional Care or a Facility

Torn Between Two Families: Dad’s Dilemma and Guilt

Internet Weighs In: Should Dad Step Up for Disabled Daughter or Focus on New Family?
Whew, talk about a sticky situation! Our conflicted dad is really in a tough spot here. On one hand, you can’t help but feel for Sarah, who’s given up everything to care for their severely disabled daughter Molly. That’s a lot for one person to handle! But then again, dad’s got a whole new life now with a wife and two little girls of his own. Is it fair to expect him to drop everything and start playing caretaker? ♀️ Let’s see what the internet has to say about this emotional rollercoaster! Get ready for some hot takes, witty remarks, and maybe even a little bit of sass as we dive into the top responses to dad’s dilemma!
Offered to pay but still judged for disabled daughter. NTA

Finding a good home for Molly should be a priority

Choosing to have a disabled child: right or wrong?

Both sides are understandable. Look into in-home options. ✌
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Financial help and professional care offered, NTA for not parenting.

Caring for a severely disabled child is a tough job

Caring for a disabled child can take a toll. NTA.

Father refuses to uproot his life to care for estranged daughter. NTA

Compassionate comment acknowledges the difficult situation and offers support

Respite care homes and workers can help care for disabled children.

NTA. Commenter presents a scientific perspective on abortion and childcare.

NTA, the ex made a selfish decision and now expects support.

Father urged to bond with disabled daughter and support his family

Woman chooses to keep disabled child, dad offers to pay for facility

Disconcerting eugenic suggestions. Disabled children deserve love and care.

Paying for professional care is the best thing to do

NTA: Commenter criticizes parent’s refusal to care for disabled child.

Setting boundaries with disabled child – NAH, no assholes here

Mother struggles to accept her daughter needs full-time care center.

The irony of Sarah’s request for Molly’s caregiver

Parent suggests daughter should go to school for some respite

Discussing ‘what ifs’ before having a child

Caring for a disabled family member is exhausting – NTA

Did they discuss disability before conception? Important info needed

Father refuses to help disabled daughter after warning mother. NTA.
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Engaging comment suggesting alternatives to residential care for disabled child.

Compassionate suggestion for caring for disabled daughter long-term

NTA, but difficult situation. Father has right to choose involvement.

Caring for a severely disabled child is tough, Sarah needs help ❤️

Discussion on personal beliefs and supporting a disabled child.

NTA defends decision not to help disabled daughter, raises valid point.

Redditor calls out a dad for abandoning his disabled daughter

A disabled person expresses fear for the future and challenges the notion that disabled people should be done away with. They also raise legal and ethical questions about terminating pregnancies at 16 weeks.

Caring for a severely disabled family member is a huge task ❤️, NAH.

Respect and appreciation for disabled people are lacking in responses. YTA.

Choosing to not care for a severely disabled child isn’t easy

Offering hired help for severely disabled daughter, but struggling to convince. NTA.

Caring for a severely disabled child is not easy. NTA.

Balancing the ethics of parenting a severely disabled child

Daughter proposes biodad to care for severely disabled daughter – NTA

NTA for choosing to avoid future suffering of child.

Pro-choice commenter defends father walking away from severely disabled daughter.

Controversial comment sparks debate on parenthood and disability stigma.

Parent expresses empathy for ex’s struggle and suggests long-term care options.

A comment empathizing with the disabled daughter and urging the father to show some compassion

Caring for ex’s severely disabled daughter: A stranger vs qualified nurse NTA

Controversial take on disabled daughter’s quality of life. NTA.

Mother chooses to keep severely disabled child but wants father to pick up weight now. Commenter calls mother entitled.

Offering alternatives and reassurance for special needs parenting.

A mother shares her experience with a severely disabled child. NTA.

Father and mother made a tough decision with mutual understanding

Offered to pay for professional care, not obligated to provide it

User empathizes with the situation and suggests a professional care.

Parent defends not helping disabled child, calls self ‘NTA’

NTA. Suggest paid carer for ex to free her up.

Options for Sarah to get help for Molly’s care

Parent takes responsibility, offers help, but leaves decision to mother

Daughter regrets choice, but OP not obliged to help. NTA

NTA offers to pay for care but daughter refuses

NTA offers child support and assisted living for disabled daughter.

NTA deems disabled daughter’s existence a punishment for mother’s choice.

Compassionate advice for caring for a severely disabled child

Reddit’s hypocritical stance on disabled children criticized. Powerful response.

The lasting consequences of being selfish as a parent
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NTA commenter argues that the mother has a ‘hero complex’ and is now abandoning her disabled daughter. No pity whatsoever.

Discussion on long-term care for disabled daughter.

Private in-home medical care suggested for disabled daughter.

Abandoning special needs children in care facilities is heartbreaking.

NTA for not devoting your life to disabled child. Offered help.

Offering a few hours of help a month is reasonable

Caring professionals can provide better care than disinterested parents.

Offered solution and advice for disabled daughter’s care. Not the a-hole.

Professional care is inevitable for Molly’s future. NTA.

Choosing to have a disabled child comes with consequences. NTA.

Father receives backlash for abandoning severely disabled daughter.

Parent makes tough decision to not care for severely disabled child

Father refuses to help disabled daughter. Commenter supports father’s decision.
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Choosing not to have a severely disabled child – NTA

Stranger to daughter, suggests professional care. Good idea!

Choosing not to help a severely disabled child: NTA.

A blunt NTA comment on a father’s refusal to help his disabled daughter.
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Mother chose to take care of disabled daughter, NTA.

Father rejects disabled daughter. NTA but situation is touchy

Suggestion for respite care to help out Sarah

Respite facilities can help disabled children thrive with supportive staff
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