Sometimes, it’s hard to know if you’re being a supportive parent or just enabling bad behavior. One dad is caught in the crossfire of a family drama, questioning his daughter’s claims of depression and urging her to find a job. The situation has left their home tense and filled with conflict. Is he being insensitive or just trying to help his daughter grow up? Let’s dive into the story… ️♀️
The Tense Situation

A Sudden Revelation

Depression Claim

Refusing Help

Observing Her Behavior ️♂️

Dad’s Own Experience

The Phone Incident

Dad’s Response ️

The Confrontation

Cold and Avoidant ❄️

Dad vs. Daughter: Who’s in the Wrong? ♀️
Caught in a whirlwind of emotions, this dad is struggling to understand his daughter’s claims of depression and her refusal to find a job. With tensions running high, it’s hard to say who’s in the right. Is he being insensitive, or is she taking advantage of his patience? Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…
NTA comment and replies discuss frustration with supporting unhelpful depression.
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NTA for expecting daughter to take control of her life

Encouraging daughter to seek therapy or get a job is reasonable
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Invalidating someone’s mental health is never okay

NTA comment receives mixed responses about instilling work ethic.

Daughter’s lack of responsibility: YTA or ESH? Commenters debate.

Parent enabling daughter’s depression, needs to set boundaries and seek therapy.

Daughter self-diagnoses depression but throws tantrums over cracked phone. NTA.

Struggling with a depressed adult child? Here are some tips

Parenting is tough, but sometimes tough love is necessary.

Depression should be diagnosed by professionals. ESH.

Commenter calls out parent for enabling entitled behavior.

Approach depression from her side, ask what she plans to do

Enabling an ‘adult baby’: YTA or NAH?
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NTA suggests giving ultimatum to daughter with possible depression.
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Supportive dad faces entitled daughter’s depression demands. NTA.

Recognizing depression can be difficult, even for the person experiencing it.

Supporting a loved one with depression while setting boundaries. ❤️

NTA dad offers supportive tough love to daughter with depression

Lazy daughter and enabling dad both suck ♂️

Setting boundaries and responsibilities may help daughter’s depression.

Daughter’s entitlement questioned in NTA comment.

NAH/NTA suggests daughter needs help, intervention or therapist recommended

Commenter dismisses mental health, sparks debate on responsibility.

Using mental illness as an excuse? NTA gets mixed replies.

NTA suggests kicking out ‘leech’ daughter, but reply points out flaw

Parent questions daughter’s joblessness, but is he the bad guy?

Supportive approach to daughter’s depression and responsibilities.

Living with depression is hard, but not a free pass. NTA

Enabling adult children: tough love or bad parenting?
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Parenting advice: Set clear expectations early on to avoid conflict.

Supportive dad questions daughter’s depression, comment doubts her struggles.

Daughter’s depression or lack of direction? NTA, but not blameless.

NTA. Engaging comment on parenting and depression, emphasizing the importance of understanding individual experiences and the benefits of getting a job for mental health.

Encouraging seeking professional help for depression, NTA for skepticism.

Balancing responsibility and mental illness: ESH, but with empathy

Commenter calls daughter a ‘parasite’ – harsh or justified?
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Daughter lacks responsibility and purpose, both parties at fault.

Encouraging tough love: NTA tells dad to lay down the law

Depression is complex, but seeking professional help is crucial

Questioning daughter’s depression diagnosis, suggesting psychiatric help.

Self-diagnosis of depression should be followed by medical confirmation. NTA

Encouraging comment on depression and therapy with helpful suggestions

Comment suggests daughter is spoiled, recommends discipline and tough love.
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Depression affects everyone differently, offer support and seek counseling

Moving out and getting a job helped with depression

Father calls out daughter’s lack of responsibility and job prospects

Self-diagnosed ‘disability’ is a strong word. NTA’s perspective.

Commenter with depression calls out daughter for mooching off parents.

Commenter doubts daughter’s depression, calls out mooching behavior

Is her depression real or an excuse? Curious refusal for help

Supportive parent encourages daughter to seek professional help for depression.

23-year-old daughter with no job, dad questions depression diagnosis

Commenter suggests OP is coddling their adult child.

Daughter’s lack of responsibility leads to ESH judgement.
