Imagine raising three beautiful girls as your own, only for their birth father to suddenly reappear after 17 years of absence. That’s what happened to one loving adoptive dad who was faced with a difficult decision when the girls’ birth father demanded to meet them. The girls, however, were adamant about not wanting to meet the man who abandoned them.
The Backstory Begins…
A Father Disappears
A New Love Story
Tragic Loss & Adoption
An Unexpected Message
A Father’s Identity
The Girls’ Decision
Sisters Stand Together
The Girls’ Request
Face to Face
A Father’s Plea
Anger and Accusations
A Stormy Exit
Friends Weigh In
A Lingering Doubt
Dad Stands Up for Daughters, but Doubts Linger
In a whirlwind of emotions, this adoptive dad defends his daughters’ wishes to not meet their birth father, who suddenly reemerges after 17 years. Despite the girls’ firm decision, the birth father accuses the dad of keeping them away out of fear they’ll leave him. As friends chime in with their opinions, the dad starts to doubt his actions. Was he right to stand by his daughters’ decision, or should he have encouraged a meeting with their birth father? Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…
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NTA- Dad protects daughters from potential danger, earns respect and support.
NTA. OP’s responsible decision to listen to his daughters and prioritize their well-being is admirable. The bio father’s selfishness is evident.
Respect your daughters’ decision. You’re their dad.
Daughters have the right to refuse meeting birth father
Daughters refuse to meet birth father, dad defends their decision
Girls refuse to meet birth father, dad supports their decision
Daughters decline birth father’s meeting request. NTA for respecting wishes
Daughters refuse to meet birth father who abandoned them. NTA.
Respectful boundaries set by daughter and dad. NTA
Daughters refuse to meet birth father, dad defends their decision
Father defends daughters’ decision to not meet birth father. NTA
Daughters have the right to refuse birth father’s meeting request
Daughters refuse to meet birth father, dad defends decision. NTA
Daughters refuse to meet birth father after long absence, NTA.
Letting daughters decide on meeting birth father, NTA. Good call
Respect the girls’ decision. NTA for letting them choose.
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Being a father is more than biology. NTA for defending daughters
Dad defends daughters against birth father’s demands. NTA.
Daughters declined meeting with birth father. NTA for respecting that.
Father defends daughters against inappropriate birth father. Great parenting!
Respecting daughters’ boundaries = Not the a**hole
NTA gets support for keeping daughters away from abusive sperm donor.
Not the a**hole! But why? Check out the replies.
Respectful dad lets his daughters decide, NTA
Father trusts daughters’ judgement, defends their decision not to meet birth father.
Respect your children’s decision. NTA, he’s owed nothing
Daughters refuse to meet birth father, dad defends them. NTA
Respect your daughters’ wishes and support them. Don’t push them.
Father demands relationship after 17 years? Not the a**hole.
Deadbeat dad demands meeting with daughters he abandoned. NTA shuts him down.
Abandoned father demands meeting, daughters refuse. NTA prevails
Father defends daughters against absent birth father. NTA
Respect your kids’ decision. Block bio-dad from their accounts.
NTA defends daughters against birth father’s sudden demand for meeting
This dad gets the thumbs up for his parenting skills
Respectful dad lets daughters decide, NTA for standing up.
Don’t feel guilty, your friend is spinning fantasy scenarios. NTA
Dad defends daughters, earns NTA judgement and praise
Respectful dad supports daughters’ decision to refuse birth father’s meeting.
Birth father demands meeting, daughters refuse. NTA wins!
Protective dad stands up against birth father’s demands. NTA
Daughters refuse entitled birth father’s demands. NTA, duh
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Daughters make their own decisions, NTA dad
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Respecting daughters’ wishes, birth father throws tantrum. NTA wins
Adoptive father praised for defending daughters’ decision to not meet bio dad
Daughters refuse to meet dying birth father, commenter supports decision.
Bio dad demands meeting, NTA warns of potential danger
Daughters refuse birth father’s meeting request. NTA prevails
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Respectful dad enforces daughters’ wishes, NTA
Protecting your children’s safety and privacy is always NTA
Supportive comment praises dad for defending his daughters’ choices
Father defends daughters against birth father’s demands. No A-hole here.
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Daughters refuse meeting with birth father, NTA defends their decision
Protecting daughters from absent bio dad: NTA, no parental rights
Agreeing with the dad’s defense of his daughters
Biological father demands meeting, but NTA Dad defends daughters.
Daughters refuse to meet birth father, dad defends them.
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Birth father has no right to demand a meeting. NTA.
Daughter discovers biological father at 16, meets at 41. NTA.
Protect your children from abusive parents. Listen to their wishes
Respecting your children’s wishes is important. NTA
Respectful dad supports daughters’ decision, NTA.
Supportive dad respects daughters’ boundaries.
Daughters’ birth father wants to meet before he dies. NTA explains why he has no right to demand it.
Daughters not interested in meeting birth father. NTA defends them
Bio dad wants to meet daughters, but NTA dad puts family first
Great parenting! Daughters’ boundaries respected. Sperm donor’s feelings irrelevant.
Sperm donor has no right to demand meeting. #NTA
Respecting children’s wishes , birth father overstepped boundaries
Daughter regrets meeting birthmother, NTA for respecting daughters’ decision.
Respectful approach to birth father, NTA for respecting daughters’ decision
Daughters refuse meeting with sperm donor, dad defends their choice
Commenter praises OP for being an amazing human being
NTA dad handles birth father’s request for meeting with grace
Parenting win! Dad defends daughters and is praised for it.
Respecting your daughters’ wishes is key. NTA
Stepdad receives praise for raising daughters, bio dad criticized.
Father defends daughters’ decision to not meet birth father
Children have the right to choose their own relationships
Sperm donor demands meeting, dad defends daughters. NTA.
