Cosplayer Faces Dilemma: Should She Give Her Binder to Trans Friend?

A 23-year-old cisgender woman, heavily involved in the cosplay scene, found herself in a tough situation when her friend, who recently came out as FtM trans, asked her for one of her expensive binders. While she loves her hobby and saved up for her binders, she wonders if she should give one away or if it’s okay to keep them for her own enjoyment.

Friend Comes Out as Trans

Asking for a Binder

Offers from Others

Binders: A Splurge for Cosplay

X’s Previous Experience with Binders

Confrontation Over Binders

The Expensive Binder

Hurtful Words and Apology

Feeling Hurt and Confused

The Struggle to Save Up

Edit: No Guilt Anymore

Blocking and Leaving Group Chat

Cosplayer’s Dilemma: Generosity vs. Personal Enjoyment

Caught in a difficult situation, the cosplayer is left hurt and confused after her trans friend accuses her of appropriation for owning binders. She wonders if she should give away her expensive binder or if it’s okay to keep it for her own enjoyment. As the story unfolds, the friend’s behavior takes a turn for the worse, leading to a fallout between them. What do you think? Share your thoughts and reactions.

NTA, wearing a binder is not cultural appropriation. Friend’s anger misplaced.

Cosplayer faces backlash for not giving specific binder to entitled friend

Hilarious comment and replies on stereotypical behavior of white dudes.

Binder use not limited to gender, NTA for not giving away.

Commenter finds humor in toxic male entitlement accusation.

Trans person offers resources for free binders, receives support ❤️

Cosplayer defends her property, sparks debate on binder ownership.

Transphobic entitled kid wants binder, commenters say f**k him

Cosplayer faces dilemma over binder for trans friend. NTA comment suggests group chipping in to buy one.

Commenter defends OP, calls out appropriative friend. NTA

Supporting a friend doesn’t mean giving away your belongings.

Transphobic friend demands cosplayer’s binder, but she’s NTA

Standing up for yourself against a choosing beggar

Transmasc defends NTA against friend’s binder appropriation guilt trip

Native commenter shares relatable experience and supports OP’s decision.

Gender-appropriate wardrobe sharing? Not on my watch!

Stand your ground! Your friend should respect your property

You’re not appropriating anything. Don’t let your friend guilt-trip you.

Stand your ground and don’t apologize!

Insensitive comment about trans friend, NTA judgement, hope for growth

Standing up for yourself against entitled friends

Trans friend wants binder, but are they really that expensive?

Trans friend demands cosplayer’s binder, gets called out for entitlement

You don’t owe anyone your possessions, even if they’re trans.

Learn what a binder is and how it helps cosplayers.

Friends’ entitlement over trans binder: NTA for not giving away.

Stand your ground! Your property, your decision.

Standing up for personal boundaries, NTA comment shuts down entitlement.

Supporting self-expression without hate: Keep the binder, NTA

Don’t let guilt-tripping friends appropriate your stuff. NTA

Supportive friend refuses to give binder to disrespectful trans friend

Trans commenter defends binder use and calls out hypocrisy.

Trans friend demands cosplayer’s binder. NTA stands her ground.

Breaking the stigma: The importance of binders for everyone

Breaking gender norms: Binders aren’t just for trans people

Reminder that entitled behavior exists in every group

Gender-neutral clothing is for everyone! NTA for sharing binder.

Trans friend ungrateful for cosplayer’s repeated generosity.

Transphobic friend tries to guilt cosplayer into giving expensive binders.

Binders are for everyone who needs them

Trans cosplayer declines to give binder to friend, cites boundaries.

Commenter judges X harshly for not giving binder to friend

Cosplayer stands up to entitled friend demanding her binder. NTA

Properly fitted binders are crucial for safety. Glad racist friend’s gone.

Supporting a friend’s gender identity is always the right choice

Discussion on the cultural origins and appropriation of dream catchers.

Cosplayer defends herself against accusations of appropriation and insults.

Discussion on drag queens and padding in cosplay.

Friend asks for binder: Is it rude or justified? NTA.

Trans person rejects judgement on giving binder to friend

Boundaries matter. Don’t let anyone guilt trip you.