College Student Calls Out Adopted Asian Friend for Self-Hate, Sparks Tears

We all know that college is a time of self-discovery and making new friends. But what happens when one of those friendships takes a dramatic turn? In this story, a 20-year-old Asian college student finds herself in a tricky situation with her adopted Asian friend, who seems to be harboring some self-hate towards her own ethnicity. As their friendship deepens, so does the tension, leading to a heated confrontation that leaves one of them in tears.

The College Friendship

The Adopted Friend

Disturbing Comments

More Unsettling Remarks

Cultural Insults

“White at Heart”

Enough is Enough

The Confrontation

Calling Her Out ️

The Emotional Response

A Friendship on the Brink

In a whirlwind of emotions, this college student finally decides to confront her adopted Asian friend about her constant negative comments about their shared ethnicity. The confrontation leads to tears and accusations, as the friend claims that her adoptee status means she can’t be told how to adapt or react to her culture. Is it fair to call her self-hating, or is there more to the story? Let’s see what the internet thinks of this emotional rollercoaster.

NTA. Friend’s self-hate rooted in abandonment issues. Insults not excusable

NTA stands up against internalized racism, sparks support

NTA challenges self-hate in adopted Asian friend, blames bad parenting.

Standing up to racism: NTA calls out friend’s self-hate

NTA called out adopted friend’s self-hate, but it’s complicated

Empathetic reply to NTA comment on self-hate and exclusion

Korean adoptees share experiences and blame adoptive parents for friend’s self-hate.

Understanding the impact of cultural upbringing on self-hate.

NTA calls out internalized racism with extra steps

NTA for embracing heritage, friend’s self-hate is indefensible

Friend’s self-hate sparks debate on cultural identity and acceptance. NTA.

Supportive comment acknowledges OP’s struggle with racist friend.

The comment and replies discuss the issue of self-hate among Asians

Encouraging response to NTA comment about internalized racism and adoption.

Friend gives hard truths to adopted Asian friend, helps unlearn self-hate

Overcoming internalized racism is a journey, NTA offers support

Chinese adoptee shares unique experience with internalized racism and identity.

Positive representation helped commenter embrace Asian identity

Debate over cultural hypocrisy and self-hate in friendship.

Commenter supports setting boundaries with offensive friend.

Discussion on animal cruelty in different cultures and countries.

Standing up against self-hate and racism. Important conversations needed.

NTA for calling out friend’s racist behavior.

Commenter suggests internalized racism may be the root cause.

Commenter expresses concern for friend’s self-hate, NTA.

A full-blooded Chinese student shares her experience with a self-hating half-Chinese girl

Friend’s racist comments hurt OP’s feelings, NTA for calling her out

Empathy for self-hate due to racism experienced growing up

Discussion about Chinese cuisine and cultural differences.

Cultural food debate sparks in the comments

Adopted Asian friend’s self-hate due to white savior complex. NTA

Contentious comment sparks uncomfortable silence in comment section

Adopted friend rejects culture, called out by college student, NTA.

Commenter defends friend from self-hate accusations with empathy.

Friend’s self-hate due to white parents sparks tears NTA

Discussion on racism and self-hate in adoption sparks concern

Sarcastic comment receives no replies ‍♂️

Commenter finds situation hilarious, references Dave Chapelle character.

Friend’s racist behavior called out, NTA stands up to her.

Confronting internalized racism in friendships is necessary

Adopted friend’s racism called out, NTA wins the day

Calling out internalized racism and setting boundaries.

Setting boundaries with a self-hating friend. NTA

NTA shuts down racist friend’s self-hate, no applause given

Identity crisis sparks emotional conversation between friends

Asian adoptee calls out friend for discriminatory stereotypes, sparks discussion.

Adopted friend ashamed of heritage, called out by NTA commenter

Commenter defends friend against racist remark with NTA judgement.

Commenter shares NTA opinion and a story about eating dog

Adopted friend’s self-hate behavior blamed on parents. Heartbreaking

NTA comment receives no replies ‍♀️

Commenter defends NTA judgement on friend’s poor attitude towards culture.

NTA. Commenter shares personal story of Korean friend’s daughter experiencing racism.

Commenter calls out friend’s internalized racism, sparks agreement.

Adopted friend has identity issues and needs therapy. NTA.

Chinese adoptee shares personal experience and advises on educating friend.

Adopted friend’s self-hate stems from lack of cultural connection

Encouraging response to OP for calling out friend’s self-hate behavior

Supportive comment from fellow Asian college grad.

Confronting self-hate in a friend, NTA sparks tears

Dealing with a difficult friend ‍♀️

Standing up against self-hate and racism. NTA wins!

Asian adoptee shares personal experience and advises educating, not shaming.

NAH verdict with empathy for friend’s racist upbringing