Meet our talented chef protagonist (24F), who works at a famous restaurant chain known for its delicious food. Due to the pandemic, she’s been staying home and trying out new recipes, uploading vlogs to share her culinary adventures. Her sister-in-law (25F) has a son whose 1st birthday is coming up soon, and she asked our chef to make a cake. Of course, she agreed! But then, her sister-in-law asked her to cook for the entire party, and that’s when things took a dramatic turn. ️
The Birthday Cake Request
A Bigger Ask: Cooking for the Party ️
The Menu Dilemma
Too Much Work? ⏰
The Decision
Past Experiences
Already Doing the Cake
Family Disappointment
Partner’s Confrontation
Not a Personal Chef! ♀️
Passive-Aggressive Partner
No Payment Offered
Possible Bill Splitting?
Sending a List
The Plan
The Aftermath: Family Drama Continues ️
After refusing to cook for her nephew’s birthday party, our chef finds herself in the middle of family drama. Her partner confronts her, but she stands her ground, reminding him that she’s not his family’s personal chef. She’s already making the cake, after all! ️ As the situation escalates, she considers sending her sister-in-law a list of work to be done, along with the costs, to show her what it would really take to cook for the party. Will this bold move resolve the conflict, or will it only add fuel to the fire?
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Empowering SIL to cook her own party food.
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NTA offered to make cake, not cater whole meal. Explain logistics.
Don’t let them take advantage of you!
Burgers and dogs for a first birthday, sister-in-law is obnoxious. NTA.
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Don’t undervalue someone’s profession, even if it’s a hobby. NTA.
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Stand your ground! NTA. Offer recipes for kitchen use
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