A British woman went extreme with her romantic partner after catching him in a lie by using his cheating messages as a screensaver. This reaction is the topic of an online debate as netizens argue over the rightness of her reaction.
What’s The Best Reaction To A Cheating Partner?
How would you handle a cheating partner? Would you confront them with evidence, quietly walk away or stay in the relationship pretending you know nothing? The truth is that there’s no universal reaction to cheating partners as emotions bring out different parts of each individual.
Unreasonable Or Not
The woman shared her story on Mumsnet’s social platform, asking, “Am I Being Unreasonable?” The site has two options that allow visitors to pick only one – “You are being unreasonable” or “You’re not Being Unreasonable.”
Read Her Story
The Universe Exposed Him
The internet user under the pseudonym Toothemoonandbackx , posted her story last month while her ex-boyfriend slept beside her in bed. The former couple shared similar phones (make and model) so, when the poster picked up her partner’s own, she had no idea.
The Damning Message
As fate would have it, a message notification from another woman popped up the moment she held the phone and she made a shocking discovery. The mystery woman reminisced on a special night she shared with this woman’s partner saying it was great.
The Poster Revenges
The mystery woman spoke of a special kiss and highlighted a moment when the poster’s boyfriend was supposed to be at work. She screenshotted the message and then set it as his new screensaver so he would know that she was aware upon waking up.
An Emotional Dilemma
However, once her anger abated, the poster wanted to know if she overreacted or did well. She also asked for advice on kicking her boyfriend out of the house or forgiving him.
She Wasn’t Unreasonable
The commenters agreed that the poster was not unreasonable because she was heartbroken. They shared different opinions on how they believed she should react, from encouraging her to kick her partner out of their house to calling the police to assist in the eviction.
Different Approaches From Mumsnet Users
Other people had diverse methods of dealing with the problem, like one who wondered if feigning ignorance was a better approach. The person suggested breaking up with a lie and damaging the cheating partner’s self-esteem while at it.
Someone advised the woman to post the screenshot as his social media posts so their mutual friends would understand why they broke up and not ask her hurtful questions.
Give A Fake Excuse For Breaking Up
Words Of Encouragement From Users
No Sympathy For The Cheater
Heartbroken People Should Be Kind To Themselves
Two Kinds Of People
Although most commenters focused on the revenge part, some people remembered to comfort the poster saying she shouldn’t beat herself up for her partner’s mistake.
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The Devil’s Advocate
An insensitive commenter wondered if it was a gender bias to side with the woman rather than wonder what pushed the partner to cheat.
No Gender Bias
Other users addressed the person saying there’s no bias, because other women accused of cheating experience the same vitriol for their emotionally damaging actions.
A Silver Lining In The Cloud
Another user considered it a blessing in disguise because the poster could’ve unwittingly married her cheating partner. While it’s not emotionally easier to leave a heartbreaking relationship, it’s often cheaper due to the lack of legal documents binding spouses.
The person added that the poster not sharing children with the cheater was great, although she didn’t specify.
An Easy Escape
No Room For Excuses
One user encouraged her to pack his belongings so that when the confrontation happened, there’d be no need to discuss or listen to any excuses, as is familiar with cheaters. He could take his things and leave without the stress of a fight.