Imagine planning your dream wedding, only to discover a 20-year-old secret about your parents that could change everything. That’s exactly what happened to one bride-to-be, who now faces a tough decision: should she uninvite her dad and stepmom from her wedding? The drama unfolds as she uncovers the truth about her family’s past, and the emotional impact leaves her questioning her relationships.
The Wedding Plans Begin

A Casual Conversation Turns Serious

Piecing Together the Past

Confronting the Parents

The Emotional Fallout

A Heartbroken Mother

The Wedding Dilemma

New Information, Raw Emotions

The Big Question: WIBTA?

Edit: Clarifications

A Family Secret Exposed: What’s a Bride to Do?
After discovering that her dad and stepmom’s relationship began as an affair, this bride-to-be is left reeling and questioning everything she thought she knew about her family. With her wedding just months away, she wonders if she should uninvite them to spare her heartbroken mother any further pain. But is she being too extreme? As emotions run high, the internet weighs in on this complicated family drama.
Consider talking to your mom first and think it over with your fiance. Uninviting people you still love seems like an overreaction.

Mother’s sacrifice deserves recognition, consider having her walk you down.

Be honest with yourself about why you’re uninviting your dad.

Bride-to-be considers uninviting parents to wedding over 20-year-old secret

Don’t make your mother’s memories of your wedding include a painful part of her past

Bride-to-be struggles with parents’ secret, seeks advice on uninviting them.

Bride-to-be uncovers parents’ 20-year-old secret; commenters support her decision.

OP is conflicted about revealing a 20-year-old secret. Commenters debate whether he’s the a**hole for wanting to confront his parents.

Give yourself time to forgive and celebrate your love ❤️

A heartfelt message on forgiveness and moving forward.

A suggested wedding truce to rebuild trust

Is disinviting your parents from your wedding really necessary?

Seeking advice on inviting parents to wedding, delicate situation

Respect your mom’s choice. Invite your dad but no speech.

Heartbreaking betrayal: NTA for feeling hurt over family secret

Is it a YTA situation? The comment section is divided ♂️

Raw emotions over parents’ secret. Remember happy childhood and move on.

Parental secrets and wedding invites: NTA or a mistake?
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Bride-to-be struggles with inviting her father to the wedding

Don’t be afraid to take time to process this revelation

Divorce may have been for the best

Protecting her from pain for 20 years, but at what cost?

Commenter defends cheating dad, receives backlash from reply.

It’s the bride’s day, but family dynamics are delicate

Stepmom and dad’s secret revealed at a family dinner ♀️. OP feels conflicted but still NTA.

Consider therapy before making a decision about uninviting parents.

Think twice before uninviting your parents to the wedding

Bride-to-be’s parent’s secret: YTA dad, NTA mom. Wedding revenge?

A mother’s difficult decision to foster a relationship with an abusive ex.

Revealing the secret after 20 years: YWBTA or not?

Uncovering a family secret: NTA calls out cheater and home wrecker

Take a breather and think before making a decision. NTA

Step dad used kids to cheat, NTA for hating him
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Betrayal, infidelity, and family drama. Will the wedding go on?

Cheating parents cause wedding drama. Commenter says NTA.

Supportive comment encourages OP to follow their heart and punish father

Don’t be an a**hole, appreciate your parents’ efforts and move on.

Protecting your mom is important, but talk to her first
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Bride-to-be considers uninviting parents after 20-year-old secret. NTA.

Have an adult conversation with all parents before making decisions

Bride-to-be uncovers 20-year-old secret. NTA for taking time.

Take time to process before uninviting parents to wedding

Think before you act. Don’t let emotions dictate your decisions.

Divorced mom supports bride-to-be’s decision to invite uncomfortable parents

Processing a parent’s secret: NTA to uninvite, but consider carefully

Don’t let anger ruin your special day. YWBTA if you uninvite them.

Bride-to-be excludes cheating parent from wedding, NTA

It’s your big day, invite who you want!

Cheating affects kids too. NTA for uninviting parents from wedding

Wedding invite drama: To uninvite or not to uninvite?

Supportive commenter advises bride-to-be to exclude cheating parents from wedding
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Don’t let your parents’ past ruin your future ♀️

Think twice before uninviting parents to wedding after uncovering secret

Commenter supports bride-to-be, uses humorous slang.

Bride-to-be called out for being a hypocrite.

Take time to cool down before making any decisions

Consider the long-term consequences before uninviting parents to wedding

A friend’s similar situation raises questions about the future impact. NTA.

Family secrets can be tough. NTA for uninviting them

Bride-to-be struggles with parents’ secret, seeks advice on uninviting them

Last Updated on May 20, 2023 by Diply Social Team