We all know that social media can cause friction in relationships, but what happens when it reaches a boiling point? Our story begins with a couple who have been together for 2 years. The boyfriend rarely posts on social media, but when he does, it triggers an emotional reaction from his girlfriend. Despite her struggles with mental health issues, he’s had enough and confronts her about her controlling behavior. Did he go too far? Let’s dive into the story.
The Social Media Struggle
The Boyfriend’s Posts
Her Emotional Reactions
The Breaking Point
The Girlfriend’s Explanation ♀️
The Boyfriend’s Response ️
The Girlfriend’s Accusations
The Boyfriend’s Defense ️
Setting Boundaries
The Girlfriend’s Reaction
The Boyfriend’s Bold Statement
No More Eggshells
The Boyfriend’s Efforts
An Apology ♂️
Was He Too Harsh?
After enduring his girlfriend’s emotional reactions to his social media posts, our protagonist finally snaps, telling her she’s being controlling and needs professional help. He admits he could’ve delivered the message better, but stands by his belief that he shouldn’t have to walk on eggshells around her. Was he too harsh, or just setting necessary boundaries? Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…
Empathetic comment encourages self-care and honesty.
Commenter refuses to be a doormat. NTA
Supportive comment encourages self-care and seeking help for BPD.
Commenter calls out OP for being the a**hole.
Don’t set yourself on fire to keep someone else warm
Use her language to validate your feelings and suggest therapy. ✌
Partner’s mental health struggles causing strain. NTA seeks advice.
Encouraging comment about the benefits of therapy.
Break up with her. Mental health mismanagement is not okay.
Supportive comment advises seeking professional help for girlfriend’s mental health.
Escape while you can! Dealing with BPD is tough
NTA with BPD seeks therapy. Helpful advice
Is BPD a valid excuse for abusive behavior?
Emotional abuse is never okay. You deserve better, OP!
Managing BPD is hard for everyone involved. NTA for suggesting help.
Breaking up over red flags: NTA comment brings humor
Leaving an abusive situation can improve mental health. Seek help. ❤️
Don’t let social media anxiety ruin your relationship!
Enabling control? NTA comment wins with
Commenter questions if boyfriend’s posts were directed at girlfriend.
Supportive comment suggests leaving toxic relationship for personal happiness.
Supportive comment calls out abusive behavior in relationship.
Supportive comment agrees girlfriend needs help
Ending things with someone who refuses treatment for BPD.
Partner’s jealousy is toxic, work on it or move on.
Posting art is not a reason for judgement. NTA.
Supportive comment suggests couple therapy for partner’s BPD struggles
Supportive comment encourages seeking professional help for mental health struggles.
NTA. Commenters suggest GF may be projecting and abusive. Get therapy.
Commenter says NTA, but acknowledges need for professional help.
Self-care matters. Don’t sacrifice your mental health for someone else’s.
Bipolar isn’t an excuse to be an a**hat
Set boundaries, don’t feed abusive behavior. NTA
Supportive comment encourages seeking professional help for BPD struggles.
Commenter sympathizes with OP’s boyfriend, suggests space and help.
Dating someone with BPD: a personal experience and warning.
Untreated BPD caused a vicious cycle of manipulation and abuse
Supportive comment encourages seeking help for partner’s mental illness.
Partner’s mental health is important too. NTA
Queer girl with mental illnesses advises setting boundaries with abusive girlfriend.
NTA: Recognizing abuse and standing up for yourself.
Mental illness explains, but doesn’t justify behavior. NTA wins
Escaping an abusive relationship is always the right choice
OP seeks advice on posting art, commenters suggest leaving BPD partner.
NTA, prioritize your mental health and leave the abusive relationship.
NTA. You need professional help’ – Boyfriend. Relationship on the rocks
NTA for setting boundaries. Mental health is personal responsibility.
Supportive comment reminds us to prioritize mental health.
Commenter is not the a**hole, five alarm fire emojis
Supportive comment suggests professional help for partner with BPD.
Commenter supports seeking help.
Self-care first! NTA suggests cutting ties for partner’s mental health.
Posting art without credit makes YTA, but NTA for situation. GF needs help
Relationship pressure to remove social media, friends, and family. ♀️
NTA suggests breaking up with ‘exhausting’ partner for both’s sake
Short and sweet: NTA. Run, girl, run!
Unchecked mental illness is a no-go. NTA
Therapist advises NTA, setting boundaries, and prioritizing mental health
Managing a partner’s mental illness: prioritize your well-being ❤️
Commenter questions the boyfriend’s motives for dating ‘crazy’ girlfriend
Speaking the truth with kindness
Dealing with a BPD partner? NEABPD has helpful resources.
Commenter says ‘She’s got issues.’ and is NTA.
Managing BPD is possible with therapy, it’s not an excuse.
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OP’s girlfriend is controlling and manipulative. NTA.
BPD is complex and finding help can be difficult
Partner’s mental illness not an excuse for toxic behavior. NTA.
Commenter admits ESH but defends their reaction as understandable
Engaging advice on helping girlfriend with possible emotional issues.
Commenter defends OP, citing BPD as a factor. NTA.
BPD or not, controlling behavior is never okay. NTA
Insecurities can be tough Therapy helps but takes time.
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Protect your own mental health. Don’t ignore red flags.
NTA. Commenter advises to seek help and leave the abusive relationship.
Untreated BPD can twist normal things into controlling and abusive behavior.
NTA. Girlfriend needs professional help for emotionally abusive behavior.
Untreated BPD is high risk for suicide. NTA for suggesting help.
NTA for wanting to be yourself. Encourage her to seek help
Commenter calls out abusive behavior in relationship.
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Supportive comment: Encouraging seeking help for mistreatment.
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Setting boundaries without blame is key to helping loved ones.
Escape the toxicity, you deserve a healthier relationship.
BPD can be tough, DBT can help. NTA, take care.
Last Updated on May 29, 2023 by Diply Social Team
