Imagine planning a magical Disneyland trip to celebrate your girlfriend’s graduation, only to find out it coincides with your 8-year-old cousin’s birthday. Your aunt, who suspects your cousin has a mental disorder, asks if you could take her along and even offers to cover her expenses. But you’re not sure if you can handle your cousin, and you want this day to be about your girlfriend. You gently decline, but your aunt gets upset and starts stirring up drama on social media. Now, family members are taking sides, and you’re left wondering if you’re in the wrong. ❓
Celebrating Graduation at Disneyland
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A Birthday Coincidence
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A Suspected Disorder
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No Diagnosis
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️ A Conversation with Aunt Jennie
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Ending the Discussion
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Handling Melaine
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A Day for Heather
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♂️ Saying No to Aunt Jennie
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Passive-Aggressive Posts
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Family Taking Sides
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The Meaning of the Trip
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Disneyland Dilemma: Graduation vs. Birthday
Our protagonist planned a special Disneyland trip to celebrate his girlfriend Heather’s graduation, but things got complicated when he found out it’s also his 8-year-old cousin Melaine’s birthday. His Aunt Jennie, who suspects Melaine has a mental disorder, asked if he could take her along and even offered to cover her expenses. However, he’s not sure if he can handle Melaine and wants this day to be about Heather. ♂️ After gently declining, Aunt Jennie gets upset and starts stirring up drama on social media, causing family members to take sides. Now, our protagonist is left wondering if he’s in the wrong for prioritizing his girlfriend’s graduation over his cousin’s birthday. ❓ Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…
NTA. Blood doesn’t make family. Your girlfriend is lucky.

Autism is a diverse spectrum, aunt should get Melanie help

Aunt tries to pawn off her responsibilities, gets shut down.

Enjoy your trip, Op! Aunt Jenny is the AH here

Curious Redditor asks why aunt can’t take daughter to Disneyland

Suggests politely declining and proposing a family Disney experience next time.

Enjoy the day guilt-free! You’re NTA for saying no

NTA. Aunt should take her own child to Disneyland. Don’t feel guilty!

Celebrate your girlfriend’s accomplishments on your date without any guilt

Celebrating girlfriend’s birthday without family interference. NTA

It’s not your responsibility to take your special needs cousin.

Girlfriend’s trip, aunt should respect boundaries. NTA

NTA. It’s her responsibility, not yours. ♂️
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Setting boundaries with entitled family members

Celebrating girlfriend’s graduation, not obligated to take cousin’s child.

Parent with ADHD empathizes with refusing to take autistic child.

Aunt wants a free babysitter for her daughter’s Disneyland trip

Aunt wants autistic daughter to go to Disney, but won’t take her herself

Firmly refusing to take someone else’s daughter to Disneyland

Celebrating a milestone with girlfriend doesn’t mean babysitting duties. NTA

Entitled aunt demands too much, NTA for wanting a break

Free babysitting day or not, NTA for refusing Disneyland request

Respectful NTA declines unfair request to take child to Disneyland.

Aunt wants someone else to take her own daughter to Disneyland? NTA.

Not his responsibility and setting boundaries is okay. ♂️

Girlfriend’s trip, aunt can take daughter to Disneyland

Don’t risk it. Being responsible for someone’s child is tough.

NTA refuses to take autistic kid to Disney, calls aunt AH.

Aunt wants Disneyland for autistic daughter, but commenter says NTA

NTA refuses to take autistic daughter to Disneyland, sparks debate.

Autism-friendly options at the park and special planning needed. NTA.

Aunt’s entitlement causing niece’s behavior?

Don’t let others guilt trip you into ruining your special day

Politely declining aunt’s request for Disneyland trip with girlfriend. NTA.

Taking an autistic child to Disneyland requires special preparation. NTA.

NTA. Handling kids isn’t easy, especially if they have autism. Your aunt’s social media manipulation is sad.

Graduation celebration should not be ruined by Disneyland trip. NTA.

Sassy NTA comment shuts down guilt-tripping aunt

Babysitting for free? NTA. It’s too much work

Setting boundaries with family can be tough

Refusing to take someone else’s child to Disneyland? NTA!

Setting boundaries is important, take care of yourself first

Declining to take cousin to Disneyland, aunt cares more about herself. #NTA

User shares personal experience and suggests a diplomatic approach.

Mom won’t take autistic daughter to Disney, NTA stands ground

Disneyland is a different experience with a child. NTA.

NTA! If you’re not up for it, don’t do it

Disneyland or Disney World? Confusion in NTA comment section

Setting boundaries with family is important for self-care. NTA.

Enjoy your trip to Disneyland without taking care of your cousin

Setting boundaries with family isn’t always easy

Autistic child at Disneyland – Aunt can take her instead.

Politely declines invitation and suggests alternative solution. ♂️

Entitled parent pawns off autistic daughter for Disneyland. NTA.

NTA. Prioritizing girlfriend’s special day over unrelated obligation

Celebrating your achievements does not make you an a**hole

User defends decision not to take aunt’s autistic daughter to Disneyland

Redditors support decision to not babysit at Disneyland

Suggests a kind reply on Facebook post declining Aunt’s request.

Aunt wants OP to take her kid to Disneyland, NTA refuses

Respectful refusal to share graduation trip with tantrum-throwing child. NTA.

Parenting a special needs child at an amusement park – too much?
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Heartless comment on denying autistic child a Disneyland trip.

Setting boundaries is important. NTA for saying no

Taking a stand for personal finance and boundaries

Aunt tries to co-opt trip to Disneyland for daughter’s birthday

Celebrating girlfriend’s accomplishment, NTA refuses to let niece crash.

Trip for two turned into adventures in babysitting. NTA

Responsibility for cousin’s bday lies with the Aunt, not OP

Taking an autistic child to Disneyland can be overwhelming. #NTA

Entitled aunt wants free Disneyland trip for her autistic daughter

Enjoy Disneyland with your girlfriend guilt-free. NTA

NTA commenter calls out manipulation by aunt for Disneyland trip.

Don’t let your aunt hijack your plans . Have a magical day at Disneyland with your GF.

NTA shuts down Aunt Jennie’s plea to take niece to Disneyland

No babysitting on a date! NTA for declining request

NTA calls out aunt’s emotional manipulation and parenting responsibilities.

Aunt tries to pawn off autistic daughter for Disneyland, NTA.

Boundaries are important. Keep your plans private. NTA

Criticism of the aunt’s request to take her daughter to Disneyland.

NTA. Setting boundaries with entitled family members is important

Aunt should prioritize her own child’s birthday, not delegate to others.

Friend brings kid on girls weekend, ruins plans

Saying ‘no’ doesn’t make you an a**hole, but be mindful of ableism.

User criticizes mother for not taking autistic child to Disneyland. NTA.

Trip is for Heather, NTA for refusing aunt’s Disneyland request
