Adopted Daughter Refuses to Fund Parents’ IVF Treatments

Imagine being adopted, loved, and cherished by your parents, only for things to take a turn when they decide they want a biological child. That’s the story of a 23-year-old woman who was adopted at birth and had a great relationship with her parents until they became obsessed with having a biological child. The emotional rollercoaster she’s been on is enough to make anyone’s heart ache.

Adopted and Loved

Desire for a Biological Child

Hurtful Word Choices

IVF Struggles

The Unexpected Dinner Invitation ️

A Shocking Request

Feeling Like an Incubator

Grandfather’s Passing

Grandma’s Generosity

Parents’ Desperate Plea

Standing Her Ground ✊

Family’s Mixed Reactions

The Dilemma

A Heartbreaking Decision

This young woman’s story is a rollercoaster of emotions. After being adopted and loved by her parents, their desire for a biological child strained their relationship. When they asked her to carry their embryo and offered to pay off her student loans, she felt used and hurt. After her grandfather’s passing, her grandma offered the money for her loans, but her parents begged for a portion to fund their IVF treatments. She refused, and now she and her grandma are being painted as the villains. Is she really the bad guy here? Let’s see what the internet has to say about this heart-wrenching situation…

NTA. Being a surrogate for family is something you should do because you want to. Not because they are holding money over your head.

Adopted daughter refuses to fund parents’ IVF treatments. NTA, comments agree.

NTA. Parents can’t afford IVF or student loans. Grandma is MVP

NTA. Commenter relates to OP’s situation as an adopted child.

NTA. Parents crossed a major boundary by asking you to carry their child. Surrogacy costs $120K-$150K in the US.

Daughter refuses parents’ IVF request, grandma is only support

NTA for refusing to be surrogate or accept money

Adoptee empathizes with OP, fears similar situation, supports NTA stance.

Commenter sympathizes with OP, but questions their relationship with parents

Don’t let them use you or your money. #NTA

NTA. Suggests asking grandmother to pay loans directly & trust fund.

Parents ask adopted daughter to carry their child, NTA.

Adopted daughter refuses to fund parents’ IVF treatments. NTA and therapy recommended.

Grandmother chose to give you the money, not them

Adopted daughter refuses to carry parents’ IVF, NTA.

Supportive comment with family drama and grandma backup

Adopted daughter refuses to fund parents’ IVF treatments, NTA

Questioning the legitimacy of parents’ adoption and IVF story

Daughter refuses to be surrogate for parents’ IVF, NTA

Supportive reply empathizes with OP’s situation.

NTA. Infertility is emotional but neglecting and estranging is heartbreaking. Keep money.

NTA: Adopted daughter refuses to fund parents’ IVF treatments

Adoptive daughter stands up for herself and her worth. NTA

Adopted daughter refuses to fund parents’ IVF treatments, NTA.

NTA calls out parents’ selfishness, advises to cut ties

Surrogacy and family drama: NTA for setting boundaries

Commenter and reply agree: asking child to birth sibling is f**ked up

Commenter reminds parents of their age, urges them to reconsider IVF

Adopted daughter stands up to parents’ outrageous demand for bio child

Short and sweet: commenter thinks NTA in IVF dispute

NTA: Adopted daughter refuses to fund parents’ IVF treatments ‍♀️

NTA stands up to entitled parents wanting IVF funding and surrogacy

Supportive comment acknowledges OP’s difficult situation and validates her feelings ❤️

NTA stands up to parents who treated her as non-family

Surrogacy misconception sparks NTA comment ‍♀️

Adopted daughter refuses to carry ‘real’ child for parents. NTA

Daughter refuses to be a free womb for parents’ IVF

Commenter sympathizes with OP’s situation, calls it creepy

NTA for refusing to fund parents’ IVF treatments

Daughter refuses to fund parents’ IVF. NTA wins the argument

Commenter advises to use IVF money to pay off loans.

Adoptee explains why raising a child at their parents’ age would be awful

NTA for refusing to fund parents’ IVF treatments

NTA comment receives no replies

Grandma’s decision, not yours. Asking you to carry embryo is horrible

Heartfelt support for a hurting individual

Adopted daughter refuses to fund parents’ IVF treatments, calls their fixation unhealthy. NTA

Adopted daughter refuses to carry parents’ child after hurtful actions

Saving an innocent child from selfish, unhinged parents

Commenter sympathizes with OP, calls parents ‘nuts’ for asking.

Commenter defends OP and grandma, calls out harassers

Adopted daughter refuses to fund parents’ IVF treatments. NTA.

NTA. They’re being major a**holes. Poor life planning is not your responsibility

NTA comment: Parents unfit for another child

Commenter sympathizes with OP’s refusal to carry sibling, calls parents selfish

Heartfelt support for OP’s tough situation with comforting NTA judgement ❤️

Adopted daughter stands up against coercive parents

Condolences given, commenter supports OP’s NTA verdict and advises NC.

Protect yourself financially, don’t expect inheritance or help

NTA suggests using stranger for surrogacy, questions parents’ finances

Surrogate agencies prefer non-related, experienced mothers. NTA.

NTA suggests parents use surrogate money for IVF treatments

Cut ties with disrespectful parents asking for IVF funding. NTA

Encouraging words for a daughter caught in a difficult situation

Heartbreaking treatment from parents, NTA for refusing IVF funding

Adoptive parents tried to use inheritance to force surrogacy. NTA

Commenter raises valid concern about parents’ future plans

Commenter suggests a way to get parents off their back

Commenter sympathizes with NTA and advises against funding IVF.

US surrogacy laws unfair, commenter is NTA for refusing parents’ request

Surrogacy not an option for childless daughter. NTA.

Adopted daughter receives support for not funding parents’ IVF treatments ❤

Grandma’s sound heart beats for NTA adopted daughter