A family picture sparked a conversation, but did I go too far?

When a woman’s niece and nephew asked about an old family picture, she answered honestly and accidentally outed her sister as transgender. Her sister’s husband called her insane and her sister is distraught. Was it justified? Read on to find out.

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Did I go too far in telling my niece and nephew about my sister’s transition?

A simple question from my niece and nephew about a family picture sparked a conversation that left my sister’s husband calling me insane. I inadvertently outed my sister who had not yet told her children about her transition. While I apologized for the harm I caused, I believe it was better for her children to learn about it from a family member than to find out later and distrust their mother for not being honest with them. However, after seeking advice and feedback from online communities, I realize that I was in the wrong and will be apologizing to my sister. Read on to see the different perspectives on this situation.

Outing someone without consent? Major YTA.

Commenter calls out OP for being the a**hole, while others explain the consequences of outing someone as trans.

Outing someone as trans has actual consequences. YTA.

Outing someone is never okay. OP is in the wrong. YTA ‍♂️

Don’t out someone, YTA learned the hard way

Commenter calls OP selfish for outing trans sister to her kids

Commenter called out for being an impatient and insensitive AH ‍♂️

Trans person calls out commenter for outing family member, intense replies.

Commenter calls out OP for not discussing with sister first. YTA.

Commenter accuses poster of privilege and being the a**hole

Navigating family secrets and transitions can be complex and uncomfortable

Insensitive comment leads to judgmental reactions.

Commenter labels OP as YTA and receives support.

Non-binary trans commenter calls out OP for being transphobic. YTA.

Commenter called out for overstepping family boundaries.

Sensitive topic of pre-transition photos handled with care.

Stepped out of line? YTA, don’t cross parental boundaries.

Commenter receives backlash for inappropriate conversation with sister’s children

Transphobia is never okay. YTA for outing someone on TV.

Respect people’s privacy and stop trying to moralize someone’s closet.

Don’t out someone, YTA. Let them decide, not you.

Commenter receives backlash for insensitive explanation of situation

OP is the a**hole for not respecting a child’s innocence

Commenter is leaning towards N-T-A but ultimately thinks OP is YTA for intentionally telling the family their daughter looks like a boy.

A heated YTA comment on the portrayal of kids as ‘pure’.

Telling kids someone ‘used to be a boy and now they’re a girl’ is inaccurate and hurtful

Importance of children knowing family formation story. YTA for outing.

Calling out the use of quotation marks like

Learned a valuable lesson? Apologize with sincerity and empathy.

Challenging gender stereotypes in a family picture conversation ‍♀️ ‍♂️

Commenter calls out OP for being the a**hole in family photo.

Insensitive comment about transgender sister, YTA. Handle with care.

Going against trans person’s wishes? YTA and exposing to hostility

Transgender disclosure: OP is the a**hole for outing sister

Trans person calls out OP for being insensitive ‍♂️

Outing someone is never ok – YTA should apologize

Commenter accuses OP of being TA for outing trans sister.

Outing someone without consent is not a favor. YTA

Overstepping boundaries? YTA comment receives backlash.

Outing your sister is not a favor, YTA

Why keep such a big secret from your child?

Commenter called out for baiting, receives YTA judgment

Commenter called out for overstepping boundaries.

Commenter shares personal experience and calls out OP’s behavior.

Commenter called out for outing trans sister to her children.

Commenter calls out OP for outing their sister to kids

Outing your sister as trans to her kids? YTA ‍♀️

Don’t out anyone, ever. YTA comment gets called out.

Accidentally outed queer sibling, refused to apologize. YTA.
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Clear NTA situation; kids asked, she pointed. End of story

Don’t cross the line. Apologize to your sis!

Commenter calls out OP’s lack of empathy towards family.

Commenter calls out OP for being transphobic and judgmental.

Commenter calls out OP for outing and being transphobic.