When it comes to medical procedures, having a support person is important. But what happens when your support person isn’t your partner? A woman turned to her friend instead of her husband for a minor operation and now her husband is upset. She explains that her friend is very affectionate and she needed that during the procedure. However, her husband feels left out and hurt. Her friends have also weighed in, with some saying she made a bad choice. What do you think? Was she in the wrong for choosing her friend over her husband? Dive into this story and let us know your thoughts.
She loves her husband but takes the lead in the relationship.

A lukewarm love story with a happy ending. ❤️

Removing tumors with a friend’s support ❤️

Choosing a supportive friend for surgery ❤️

Surgery without spouse, but with love and support from friend ❤️

Choosing a friend over a spouse for surgery support?

Choosing friend over husband for surgery support, a difficult decision.

Choosing a friend over a spouse for surgery support
When it comes to surgery support, who would you choose – your spouse or your best friend? One woman chose the latter and it has caused some tension in her marriage. Despite her husband’s lack of affection, she asked her touchy-feely best friend to support her during her surgery. When her husband found out, he was hurt and accused her of being cruel. While her parents supported her decision, her friends had mixed reactions. Some said it was a selfish move while others praised her for choosing the person who would provide her with the most comfort. This has sparked a debate about whether spouses or friends make better support systems during times of need. In the end, it’s up to the individual to decide who they want by their side. But as this woman has discovered, it’s important to communicate your decision and reasoning with your loved ones to avoid hurt feelings and misunderstandings.
Woman gets surgery with friend instead of husband. YTA.

Surgery support from friend causes marital conflict.

Choosing a friend over a spouse for surgery support

Commenter calls out husband’s selfishness and lack of concern for wife’s well-being. Others argue about the dynamics of the relationship.

Spouse emotionally abuses and isolates OP; friends are crucial

Importance of communication in a marriage

Choosing a friend over a spouse for surgery support: NTA but concerning.

Commenter expresses concern for OP’s relationship and emotional well-being.

Did she tell her husband about choosing her friend?

Commenter’s brutal honesty about husband shocks readers

Choosing a friend over a spouse for support. NTA.

Woman chooses friend over husband for surgery support, commenters judge YTA

Is communication lacking in the marriage?

Choosing a friend over husband for surgery support, NTA.

Choosing a friend over an uncaring spouse. NTA
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Comment criticizes marriage as status symbol with no replies.

Husband upset over wife’s secrecy, not friend chosen for surgery.

Commenter advises poster to prioritize own well-being and leave relationship

User calls out woman for not telling husband about surgery

Choosing a friend over your spouse for surgery support backfires. YTA.

Commenter calls out woman for not informing husband about surgery.

Commenter calls out OP for valuing financial stability over love ❤️

Woman chooses friend over husband for surgery support. Husband upset.

Commenter calls out OP’s husband for lack of support during cancer surgery

Commenter accuses woman of prioritizing a friend over her cold, unsupportive husband. YTA.

Choosing a friend over her husband for surgery, YTA.

A heartbreaking NTA post about a lonely marriage

When honesty isn’t the best policy ♀️

Choosing friend over husband for surgery support – YTA

Woman chooses friend over husband for surgery support, but husband found out after?

Hiding pre-cancerous moles from spouse, YTA according to redditor.

Communication is key in a healthy relationship. Don’t hold onto gender roles. ❤️

Choosing a friend over a spouse for surgery? YTA.

Commenter calls out OP for not telling husband about decision

Commenter prioritizes emotional fulfillment over financial stability and appearance

Husband left in the dark, friend saves the day

The possibility of aromanticism affecting the marriage bond

Commenter called out for being passive aggressive towards husband.

Spouse upset after wife chooses friend for surgery support. YTA.

Husband left in the dark about wife’s surgery. YTA

Not telling your husband was not the best move

Commenter questions motives behind woman’s marriage choice

Friendship over marriage? AITA for choosing my friend for surgery?

Woman chooses friend over husband for surgery support. Tough ESH situation.

Commenter humorously questions tumor classification, seeks expert opinion ⚕️

Commenter calls out OP for not informing husband about surgery.

Commenter admits difficulty with emotional support but urges honesty with spouse

Trust issues? Commenter calls out YTA for not telling husband

Spouse left out of surgery decision, friend chosen instead. YTA

Commenter sympathizes with OP’s marriage struggles and advises compromise. YTA for not telling husband about surgery, NTA for taking friend.

Communication is key in any relationship. YTA for not communicating.

A difficult situation where everyone is in the wrong

Commenter calls out OP for marriage issues and suggests therapy.

Commenter expresses concern for OP’s emotional well-being and future.

Communicate with your spouse. YTA for not telling him.

Communication is key. YTA for not telling your husband.

Communication is key in a marriage

Choosing friend over husband for surgery? Commenter says YTA.

Choosing comfort over spouse during surgery, NTA but communicate better.

Betraying your spouse’s trust is a major YTA move

Commenter suggests husband may have undiagnosed issues and needs help.

Hiding surgery from husband – YTA or NAH?

Partner betrayal? Commenters call out YTA for not telling spouse

Hiding health issues from spouse? YTA according to comment.

Choosing friend over husband for surgery = YTA, secret surgery

Commenter criticizes husband’s lack of emotional support, supports OP’s decision.

Choosing a friend for support over a spouse – YTA or NTA?
