I recently got married and it was important to me to have both my parents walk me down the aisle. I’m really close to my mom so I chose to have her involved during the ceremony in addition to my dad.
Many brides dream of having their parents at their wedding and traditionally it’s the dad that walks the bride down the aisle . So when I heard about this one fiancé who disagreed with the bride’s wish to have her father walk her down the aisle I was a little confused.
Recently a woman posted in Reddit’s AITA thread.
She wanted to know if she was in the wrong for getting mad at her fiancé who refused to let her dad walk her down the aisle. Oh, my goodness. I really need to know about this story.
Here’s what this is all about.
So apparently, this woman has a great relationship with her dad. He is a single father who raised her and her sister after their mother died. But the dad and this woman’s fiancé don’t get along. They have had a few disagreements throughout the couple two-year courtship.
It gets complicated from there.
The last time things almost came to blows was when the bride’s father refused to contribute towards the cost of the wedding. That’s when the fiancé told his bride to look for “someone else” to walk her down the aisle. When she asked, “why?” the fiancé said that since the dad refused to help with the wedding he should be grateful he’s still invited.
That’s when the bride called her husband-to-be selfish.
The bride explained that her dad had no money to contribute to the wedding but that she still wanted him to walk her down the aisle. After all, that’s what she has dreamed of her entire life.
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So she asked fellow Reddit users who was the wrong person in this situation.
And people definitely threw their two cents into this conversation. Here’s what one person said to her:
“Your fiancé is trying to control you. He sees your father as a threat to his control over you. There is no rational reason as to why he is taking issue with the issues he has been having a go at you over. I have been where you are. Please OP look up the term ‘coercive control.’ I wish I had realized this concept sooner.”
Wow!
The bride continued, “I don’t know. I thought that these disagreements were minor and they will at some point move past them but it turns out I was wrong. He says it’s his wedding too which’s true but I really can’t do this to my dad. I want him to be there with me and not just as a guest.”
A few people raised some ‘red flags.’
“Wow, not married yet and he’s already trying to isolate OP from her family. All of his issues with the dad are just ridiculous! OP – ditch the fiancé not your dad. He is going to escalate this controlling behavior if you get married to him. This is not a red flag, this is a bright flashing neon sign.”
This person also raised a good point.
“What do you think the chances are that as soon as she’s his wife he’ll expect her to not speak to her father because as a ‘good wife’ she’ll support her husband’s feelings above her own or her father’s.”
Hmm, what do you think about that?
Honestly, I find it hard to comment on somebody else’s relationship, but this is once in a lifetime opportunity for a father to walk his daughter down the aisle. I don’t think anybody, especially her future husband, should be denying this woman her dream wedding. At least, that’s my take on it. What do you think?