"Everybody will tell you, 'Communication is key!' But nobody ever tells you what communication really is. A married couple could spend five years together and never fight, never argue, but just exchange pleasantries and talk about their days. And then suddenly, one of them reveals they're unhappy and wants a divorce, leaving the other person very hurt and especially very confused, because they did everything people told them to do in order to have a healthy marriage. They went on dates, they had alone time, they asked each other about their day, and they said 'I love you' every night. So how does a marriage fail when you do all the things everybody says you're supposed to do?"
"Because people told you what you're supposed to do, but they never told you how to do it. Communication is talking about the bad stuff, too. It's talking about the stuff you don't want to talk about. Communication is absolute, unbridled honesty. And it requires you, first and foremost, to have the ability to be honest with yourself. You don't communicate in a marriage because you want to, you communicate in a marriage because you need to. A marriage where you never leave your comfort zone is a doomed marriage."
If this isn't the real thing, I don't know what is.