Imagine having your birthday ruined by a surprise message from the man who contributed to your existence, but never played a role in your life. That’s exactly what happened to a 17-year-old girl when her sperm donor dad, Steven, contacted her for the first time on her special day. The emotional rollercoaster that ensued is a story you won’t want to miss.
The Backstory: Mom’s Affair with Steven
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Steven’s Manipulative Ways
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Mom Leaves Steven
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Dad Steps Up
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Steven Reappears
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The Birthday Message
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Anger Boils Over
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The Explosive Response
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Steven’s Defense
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The Girl’s Counterattack
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Steven’s Attempt at Reconciliation
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The Final Verdict
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Mom’s Unexpected Reaction
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The Girl’s Stance
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Birthday Ruined, but a Strong Teen Emerges
This 17-year-old’s birthday was turned upside down when her sperm donor dad, Steven, reached out for the first time. Despite his attempts to reconnect, she stood her ground and made it clear that she didn’t need him in her life. However, her mom thought she was too harsh and should have given him a chance. What do you think? Let’s see what the internet has to say about this explosive situation…
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Sperm donor dad returns after 17 years, but NTA OP doesn’t owe him a thing ♀️
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NTA. Sperm donor dad is a predator and an a**hole
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NTA and well-articulated response to a deadbeat dad’s guilt-trip. Stay strong
NTA. Forgiveness is earned, not expected. You made it this long without him, you’ll probably be fine for another 17 years.
Sperm donor dad demands relationship after 17 years. Teen responds.
Cut ties and move on, his behavior is a red flag
NTA. You don’t owe him anything , even if he’s an addict .
Don’t give in to a narcissistic sperm donor. Stick to your guns!
Commenter and reply express disgust at sperm donor’s behavior
Forgiveness is a choice, not an obligation. NTA
Don’t owe him anything. Seek counseling to work through feelings
Don’t blame yourself, NTA. Maybe he just sucks as a dad
NAH for feeling upset, but consider hearing him out
17-year-old stands up to manipulative sperm donor dad. NTA
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Standing up to a sperm donor dad – NTA wins!
Empowering response to sperm donor dad confrontation
“Crawling out of your grave now” – a legendary clapback
Teen confronts sperm donor dad and is supported by commenters
Perspective is key: Should we hear the sperm donor’s side?
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NTA but the truth may not be as you were told . It’s complicated and the child is the one who suffers the most .
Debate over sperm donor dad’s entitlement to a relationship with daughter
Bio dad wants to reconnect at 17? NTA, trust your gut.
17-year-old stands up to sperm donor dad. NTA
Supportive comment condemns 26-year-old’s creepy behavior towards minor
NTA and a birthday too! Congrats on handling it gracefully
Sperm donor wants to meet daughter, seeking NAH judgement.
Not the a**hole? We need to hear this story.
Choosing to cut ties with bio father, but therapy recommended. -NTA
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Mom’s bias? Commenter advises teen to form own opinion
Sperm donor dad tries to reconnect after years, gets called out. NTA
A heartfelt NTA comment with a cautionary tale and advice ❤️
Grandma’s lies made OP hate bio-dad. NTA for not wanting relationship.
Confrontation with sperm donor dad ends in regretful ESH behavior.
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Teen stands up to sperm donor dad, gets support.
Cut ties with the sperm donor dad to avoid stress
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Donating sperm doesn’t make you a father . It’s okay to say no.
Teen confronts sperm donor dad and is NTA
Support for 17-year-old confronting sperm donor dad
Commenter sympathizes with OP, calls out selfish behavior of family.
Don’t trust mom’s relationship advice. You’re NTA
Commenter calls out OP for being too harsh on sperm donor dad, gets backlash
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Father’s inappropriate behavior and neglectful actions confirmed. NTA!
Survivor’s advice: Avoid toxic people, no matter what your mother says
Sperm donor dad’s toxic behavior is unforgivable. NTA.
NTA: Don’t let him manipulate you, trust your instincts
Block that SOB and keep thriving!
17-year-old shows maturity beyond her years in explosive confrontation
Don’t let bitterness consume you. Forgiveness is liberating.
Sperm donor vs. dad: the important difference explained
NTA commenter advises taking time to process feelings and boundaries
No obligations, no problem.
