When it comes to dating, everyone has their type and preferences. Some people look for specific things in other people in order to get what they’d “like” from someone else. However, there are some checklists for “green flags” and other ones for “red flags.”
Everyone has things that are total no-gos and total turn-offs to them when they begin putting themselves out there in the field of dating . And, more likely than not, some people’s turn-offs are also shared amongst the masses.
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People who don’t ever take a breath.
1122Sl110 said that one of their biggest turn-offs is when you are talking to someone about something, it can be truly anything, but they don’t leave space in the conversation for you to respond or talk. There’s nothing worse than sitting in a one-sided conversation where you want to say something, but they never take a breath to stop and let you speak.
Trying to showboat.
“Trying to impress me with money or discussions of things they buy with their money when they are clearly attempting to show off that they have a lot. Same thing with connections, like great, you know an important person.
These always seem like thinly veiled attempts to cover up feelings of ineptitude, lack of true friends, or just inferiority complex in general,” wrote Rod_N_Todd .
Attachment to social media and apps.
KAPSLOCKisON said that a huge turn-off from them is the inability to disconnect from social media and apps even for a small amount of time. We have all heard about “social media addiction,” but for some people, it’s really real. Some people spend all of their free time scrolling on apps, and they even revolve their entire lives around posting and taking pictures.
People who are invested in other people’s drama.
soonimaru shared that a huge turn-off is when people are too invested in other people’s business and drama. When you spend 90% of your time talking about other people, their business, and their drama, it can come off as though you have nothing else to talk about and also makes you seem rather petty and nosy.
The way that they treat other people.
You can tell a lot about a person by the way that they treat others. ECS420 says that when someone is rude to other people, it’s a major turn-off. Think about how your date talks to the valet guy, the waitress, the bartender, or even if they hold the door open for the person behind them walking out of the restaurant. The way others treat others is a huge tell-all sign.
Living in the past.
AlanMooresWizrdBeard said that someone who constantly brings up their ex is a red flag and a big no-no. They said the type of person who can relate “everything back to their ex” no matter what the topic is or what conversation they are having. It’s a red flag that they may not be over their ex and are still burned by whatever went wrong in the relationship.
Judgey Judy’s.
-cucumberbitch- shared that while it may seem small, when someone makes a weird look or makes a face at them when they discuss some of their hobbies and interests—it’s a huge turn-off. Doing so not only is rude, but it makes the person feel bad about things that make them happy and also makes it difficult for them to open up to others.
Coming off like a hothead.
“Talking about fighting, or how you ‘put someone in their place.’
Oh, some guy cut in line at the taco shop so you knocked him out? I now think you’re psycho or a liar, either way, I don’t think you’re the ‘bad ass’ you think you are,” wrote brave_danny_flint .
Not taking any accountability for anything, ever.
PhantomOfDeezNutz said a big turn-off is someone who can never take any accountability or see any fault in their actions. If someone is always blaming someone else for their problems, it shows that they are not very accountable at all. Many times, if they blame everyone else, they are probably the issue.
Moving too fast.
Friday-Cat shared that getting too sexual way too fast is a major no for them. Sometimes, people will start trying to “text dirty” or insinuate things over text before they even get to know you or meet you. They definitely don’t want unsolicited nudes, either. Sometimes, you have to have a whole conversation and get to know someone before you try to hit their bases.
Flip-flopping.
AdelZee confessed that when a guy changes their opinion when discussing anything just to match your own, that can be annoying. If you say you feel something about a topic, don’t switch up how you feel just to try and impress someone else. That makes you seem rather flip-floppy and unreliable.
Any hate-talk.
ApatheticEmphasis said one way to end it for them is talking badly, or hating, any group of people. It can be big or small, but the moment that someone begins to bash a social group in a general manner, it’s a game-over for them. No one wants to be the person dating a racist, sexist, or homophobic person. It’s just a no.
Being very flaky.
takemygoddamnmoney said that flakiness and canceling plans often can be extremely annoying. We’re all busy and we all have responsibilities, but constantly texting to cancel dinner plans or even a coffee date can make you come off as though you’re not really interested in anything at all, and that’s a turn-off in itself.
Pet names after a first date.
BananaKO3 said that they dislike when someone makes pet names for them after dating them for a short amount of time. Being called “baby” or “wifey” after one or two dates can come off as rather clingy, or that the person is trying to remember your name from seeing too many people at once. Either way, a turn-off.
h/t Reddit .
