Picture this: you have a friend who’s constantly complaining about the lack of help she gets with her kids, blaming the disappearance of the so-called “village” that used to support parents. You, on the other hand, are childfree and enjoying your life, but you’ve had enough of her complaints. So you tell her the truth, that you’re actually glad the village doesn’t exist anymore, because it was built on the unpaid labor of women. But instead of understanding your point, she calls you selfish and a bad feminist. Ouch! Let’s dive into this drama-filled story and see what went down.
Meet Bella and her Village Woes ️
Society’s Downfall?
No Village, No Fun?
Breaking Free from Obligations
No Help for the Childfree?
Triggered by a Holiday ✈️
Selfish Childfree Accusations
The Village Vanished, and So Did Their Friendship
Our protagonist had enough of her friend Bella’s constant complaints about the lack of help she receives with her kids due to the disappearance of the “village”. She finally speaks up and says she’s glad the village doesn’t exist anymore, as it was built on the unpaid labor of women. She’s happy to no longer be socially obligated to help others with their kids for free. But Bella doesn’t take it well, accusing her of being a selfish childfree person who wants mothers to suffer. She even calls her a bad feminist and a terrible person, and their friendship takes a major hit. Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…
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