A woman shares her story of being raised in a household with rigid gender roles, where her education was not valued. Her parents paid for her brothers’ college but refused to pay for hers. She secretly applied and was accepted with a partial scholarship, but had to work and take on debt to finish her degree. After years of barely speaking to her parents, they asked for a relationship. She asked for an apology and a specific explanation of why they were sorry. When they wouldn’t elaborate, she asked for the same amount of money they spent on her brothers’ college expenses. Her demand resulted in tears and accusations of being immature from her brothers. Read on to find out what happened next.
Breaking gender norms: One woman’s struggle for education and independence

Strained relationship with parents over college tuition and domestic roles.

Privileged upbringing leads to entitled request for tuition reimbursement.

Secretly applied for college against parents’ wishes, received partial scholarship.

Struggling engineer asks parents to repay college tuition for relationship

Rekindling family ties after years of estrangement and pain

Woman demands $100k tuition refund from unapologetic parents

Woman faces backlash for asking parents to pay for tuition

Woman demands parents to pay back college tuition
A woman describes her upbringing in a household that believed in rigid gender roles, leading to her parents not valuing her education. After secretly applying and getting accepted to college, she was forced to take on debt and struggle while her brothers had their tuition, books, and living expenses fully covered. Years later, her parents apologize for causing her pain but refuse to specify how they did so. The woman asks for $100k in reimbursement, like her brothers received, to prove their sincerity. Her request leads to a heated argument with her parents and backlash from her brothers. Read on for the reactions to this controversial demand.
NTA! Congrats on your accomplishments and standing up to bigotry

NTA, reasonable request for repayment from unsupportive parents with ulterior motives.

Unfair treatment of woman by parents, NTA for asking reparations.

NTA. Despite a difficult upbringing, she persevered to become an engineer. Her parents failed to acknowledge her hard work and bravery. She proved she wanted it, and now they’re suddenly interested because she’s pregnant and fulfilling an expected gender role. Stand firm and continue to live life by your own principles.

Commenter shows support for OP and calls out entitled family members
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Woman rightfully demands college tuition from neglectful parents and brothers

Woman seeks apology and restitution from parents for gender discrimination.

Pushing sexism on grandchild? Grandparents are TA.

Sibling support for tuition repayment sparks hope

Setting boundaries and achieving a degree – NTA

Financial ties may pressure relationships. ESH.
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Demanding accountability from parents who favored siblings.

Female engineer shares similar experience, supports OP’s decision.

Demanding tuition for relationship: fair or not?

Commenter calls out toxic parenting behavior, supported by replies.

Standing up for yourself and setting boundaries.
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Setting boundaries and consequences for parents’ favoritism.

Supportive comment and solidarity with OP for fair treatment. ❤
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Universal philosophy on atonement shared, parents’ actions not mature.

Demanding college tuition back after unsupportive parents. Fair or not?
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Family values should extend to equal treatment of their children.

Eloped without parents, now asking for tuition repayment.

Parental misogyny sparks debate in college tuition dispute

Supportive comment suggests therapy to set boundaries with uncaring parents

Commenter sympathizes with OP’s situation and predicts future pressure.

Stand your ground! You’re not immature, they’re privileged.

NTA, but parents might be.
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Congrats on being independent! Toxic family? Keep the baby safe!

Sarcastic comment gets real; highlights societal sexism and bigotry. NTA.

Cutting off toxic parents.
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Parents only value child after pregnancy, sibling doesn’t care.

Is a $100k check enough to excuse sexist behavior?

Demanding tuition refund from parents, justified or not? #FamilyDrama

Breaking free from toxic parents, vague apologies won’t suffice ⭐️

Cutting off toxic parents: NTA takes charge of future

Demanding college tuition repayment with a twist

Shiny steel spine! Protect your baby with love. #NTA ❤️

Take the money and run!

Breaking free from traditional gender roles.

Watch out for gender expectations post-pregnancy

Parents refuse to apologize and want relationship for grandbaby’s sake. NTA.

OP’s parents refuse to apologize for not supporting relationship.

Cutting ties with parents over tuition – justified or extreme? ❌
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Demanding college tuition refund- justified or too far?

Parents show conditional love, apologize not enough for unfair treatment.

Twin’s college paid for, but I had to work. NTA.

Navigating toxic family dynamics in r/raisedbynarcissists community

Put yourself first! NTA for not forgiving their inadequate apology.

Sibling support is important, even when parents aren’t. ✊

The burden of parents’ bad financial choices on their children
