Buckle up, folks, because this story is a wild ride of family drama, tragedy, and the age-old question: who gets the college fund when tragedy strikes? Meet our protagonist, a loving mother of twin boys who faced the unimaginable loss of one son and the financial fallout that followed. As her surviving son, Sam, embarked on his Ivy League journey, a storm was brewing over the fate of his late brother’s college fund. ⚡ Get ready for a tale of grief, guilt, and the ultimate question: was this mother wrong to stand her ground?
A Mother’s Heartbreaking Loss

Shattered Dreams and Empty College Funds

The Struggle to Afford an Ivy League Education

A Grieving Brother’s Controversial Request

A Mother’s Furious Refusal

Was Denying Sam the Money Wrong?

Honoring Thomas’s Memory Through Charity

A Decade Later, Old Wounds Resurface ️

Sam’s Success and Paid-Off Loans ⚖️

A Tearful Argument Over Past Decisions

A Mother’s Unwavering Stance

Clarifying the College Fund Confusion

No Extra Money for Sam ♀️

A Mother’s Perspective: No Money Taken from Sam ♀️

The Internet Weighs In: Was This Grieving Mother Wrong?
Well, well, well… this story has certainly struck a chord with the internet! From heated debates to heartfelt condolences, the responses are pouring in faster than you can say “college fund drama.” Some are siding with Sam, arguing that the money could have eased his financial burden during a time of immense grief. Others are standing firmly in the mother’s corner, applauding her decision to honor Thomas’s memory through charitable donations. But one thing’s for sure: this family’s story has sparked a conversation about love, loss, and the complexities of navigating both. So, let’s dive into the top responses and see what the internet has to say about this emotional rollercoaster ride!
Sibling argues that the living brother deserves the college fund

Apologize to your son for lashing out.

Mother prioritizes dead son’s memory over living son. YTA.

User calls out the original poster for their questionable actions.

Parent chooses to donate deceased child’s college fund, causing uproar.
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Grieving family argues over deceased brother’s college money. NAH.

Grief fuels irrational actions, but it’s unfair to burden others.

Parent refuses to give deceased child’s college money to sibling. YTA.

Choosing to not give the deceased brother’s college money to the living brother is causing him more pain than you realize.

Parent prioritizes charity over child’s education – YTA comment.

Mother’s inappropriate reaction to son’s college fund inquiry

Deceased son’s college money given away to charity – YTA?

Sibling’s death led to college money dispute, commenter thinks YTA.

Twin shares perspective on why brother’s college money should go to surviving twin instead of charity.

Sibling rivalry over dead brother’s money. ♂️

Choosing cheaper college: Support or convince Ivy League?
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Parents not TA for reallocating college fund to charity after son’s death ❤️

Compassionate comment defends family’s use of college money after tragedy.

Assuming he paid his loans? YTA. Risking son’s love? ♂️

Reader criticizes mother’s decision to deny college funds. YTA confirmed.

Soft YTA. Why not help surviving son instead of charity?

Generous mom honors deceased son’s memory, surviving son ungrateful. NTA.

User thinks the mother is TA for not giving money to son’s twin. ♂️

Redditor defends mom’s decision to not give college money. NTA

Sibling demands deceased brother’s college money, commenter agrees with mom.

Apologize to your grieving son! YTA

Compassion overlooked in argument over college money

Sibling argues for sharing college funds after brother’s death

Deceased brother’s college funds: justified demands or unreasonable expectations?

User defends deceased brother’s intended use of college money

Heartbreaking comment highlights the pain of losing a twin

The staggering cost of college and how savings fall short

Sibling dispute over deceased brother’s college funds. YTA verdict.

Grieving son deserves college money without extra stress

Donating the money was a lovely way to commemorate Thomas ❤️

Respectful comment defending deceased brother’s college fund allocation.

Son demands dead twin’s college fund, already received $150k. NTA.

Acknowledging hurt feelings can lead to healing

Sam’s greed after Thomas’s death is appalling. NTA.

Lawyer took 10 years to pay off loans, son not entitled. ♂️

User calls out mom for being TA and not giving college money to brother’s twin.
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Parent prioritizes charity over helping son with college debt.

NTA. Sam’s request was tactless and selfish, and his lack of empathy is disappointing.

User accuses mother of favoring charity over her own son

Neglected living son pays own college tuition after brother’s death

Demanding deceased brother’s money? Definitely not the a-hole!

User calls out YTA for denying son Thomas’ college money.

NTA. Brother can’t demand deceased sibling’s college money. End of story.

Redditor calls out parent for not helping son with debt

User calls out the OP’s selfishness and lack of empathy

User calls out OP for poor financial decision, offers perspective. YTA

Grieving twin denied brother’s college money, given to strangers instead
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Insensitive treatment of grieving son leaves a lasting scar

NTA commenter praises decision, baffled by Sam’s issue

Redditor calls out subreddit hypocrisy over college money dispute.

Grateful or spiteful? Commenter defends mother’s decision to not pay.

Generation gap causes conflict over college money donation.
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NTA commenter defends mother’s decision to deny brother’s college money.

Heartbroken twin denied college funds after brother’s death

Heartbreaking story of brothers and their unfulfilled dreams

Grieving sibling receives no help for brother’s college money

Parent not obligated to pay for college. Supporting one child enough. NTA

Son requests college money after brother’s death, called greedy YTA.
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Harsh truth! Mom needs to apologize to her living son.

Redditor sympathizes with Sam’s request for college money, recommends open conversation
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Grieving mother denies twin’s request for deceased brother’s money

Education for all is a worthy cause

Compassionate comment defends mother’s decision, supports charitable donation ❤️

Heartless decision to prioritize strangers over deceased son’s college fund

Generosity wasn’t enough for ungrateful Sam, NTA for parents.

“YTA” for wanting sister’s loans paid instead of charity

Surviving brother is a selfish entitled brat.

Grieving mother clashes with commenter over college money donation

Grieving mother called out for refusing to give twin his college money

Parent refuses to give deceased son’s college money to twin.

NTA. Sam sounds entitled. OP worked for the money, not Sam.

User calls out mother’s decision to not help remaining son.

Mom copes with son’s death by donating college money. NAH.

Grieving mom chooses charity over college funds, son frustrated but understanding

Grieving mother denies twin’s request for deceased brother’s college money

You’re not the a**hole for choosing what to do with your money

Parents prioritize money over deceased son’s wishes for brother’s education

Sibling rivalry or grief-induced insensitivity?

NTA. Sam should pay for part of his tuition
