Hey there, Facebook fam! You know, relationships can be full of surprises, especially when it comes to boundaries and living arrangements. Today, we’ve got a story of a woman who’s navigating her relationship with her boyfriend, while trying to create a stable home for her two children after a tough divorce. But things get a little tricky when her boyfriend starts referring to her new house as ‘our’ house. So, is she overreacting, or is her boyfriend crossing a line? Let’s dive into her story and find out!
A New Home, A New Chapter
Major Accomplishment: Homeownership
Past Marriages and Future Plans
No Plans for Marriage
Living Together: A Future Possibility?
Step-Dad Role: A Reluctant Decision
Unofficially Moving In?
The ‘Our’ Dilemma
Uncomfortable Conversations
♀️ Boundaries and Alone Time
Angry Reactions
Boundary Issues
Overreacting or Justified?
Packing Up His Things
‘Our’ House or Just Mine? A Battle of Boundaries
Meet our homeowner, a proud mom of two who’s finally bought a house after her divorce. She’s in a loving relationship with her boyfriend, but they’ve both agreed they’re not quite ready to live together or get married. However, her boyfriend starts leaving his belongings at her place and using the term ‘our’ a lot – our house, our bed, our kids. She’s uncomfortable with this and feels like he’s not respecting her boundaries. After a heated discussion, she wonders if she’s overreacting or if her concerns are justified. Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…
Enforce your boundaries and don’t let him take over
Warning signs Boyfriend’s behavior indicates trouble and dependency.
Watch out for mail in his name, he’s trying to move in
Set boundaries and say no to unannounced visits
Ex’s behavior is unacceptable, establish boundaries and kick him out. NTA
Questionable choices: Dating with kids and a troubled partner
Dump him! Not worth it no matter the s*x.
Protect your boundaries and your kids. End it. NTA
Don’t let this vampire s**k you dry ♂️
NTA recommends upgraded security and checking residency rules
Age, alcohol, and mental health issues – recipe for disaster
Partner’s possessive language raises red flags. NTA.
NTA, talk it out but proceed with caution.
Is your relationship going nowhere? ♀️
Setting boundaries: NTA should communicate with her boyfriend
Setting boundaries with ex-boyfriend who overstays
Age is just a number, but red flags are forever
Setting boundaries is key to a healthy relationship
Partner’s mental and alcohol issues – think before committing
Wise advice from a fellow 40-something parent
Enforcing boundaries is mature. Boyfriend’s reaction shows disrespect. NTA
Red flag alert! Insecure boyfriend’s bad reaction to boundaries
Setting boundaries with your significant other
Protect your home and kids from mental health and addiction
“Typically alcoholic and manipulative” – Get his stuff out now
Time apart may help, he sounds like a hobosexual
Alcohol abuse is a red flag, prioritize your kids first
Prioritize yourself and your kids, not a freeloading boyfriend
Dodged a bullet . NTA, keep those boundaries!
Mother of two in a toxic relationship with an alcoholic
Setting boundaries with boyfriend who acts like they live together
♀️ Red flags everywhere. He may be manipulating you. Break up.
Protect your boundaries and belongings . Change locks and enforce limits.
Protect your home and children, don’t let him receive mail
Boyfriend crossing boundaries, moving in without moving in
Red flags: OP’s boyfriend may be homeless and boundary-crossing.
Setting boundaries with a partner is crucial
Harsh but necessary advice for a toxic relationship
Setting boundaries is crucial. NTA should consider ending relationship.
Red flags raised by boyfriend’s behavior, NTA for setting boundaries.
Beware of legal tenant status; change locks to protect yourself.
Boundaries are crucial in relationships
Harsh but fair assessment of both parties involved. ♀️
Don’t let him destabilize your life
Set boundaries in your own home to avoid future conflict
Reconsidering the relationship: NTA, he has multiple issues
Don’t deal with people who cross boundaries . Read Gavin DeBecker’s *The Gift of Fear*.
No more dating drop kicks, even with mental health issues.
Setting boundaries is important for a comfortable living situation.
Red flags in new relationship: Boiling frog analogy explained.
Respect your boundaries, he can’t just move in with you.
Set boundaries with your boyfriend before he anchors himself in
Boyfriend’s aggresive response shows red flags. NTA, kick him out
Putting herself and her children first ❤️
Concerned commenter questions woman’s choices with strong language
Setting boundaries with a partner struggling with addiction
Break it off fast! He’s crossing boundaries and manipulating you.
Protect your kids and kick him out
Trust your instincts and take a break from this manipulative boyfriend.
Warning of the potential consequences of dating someone with an ‘alcohol problem’
NTA: Commenter calls out OP’s boyfriend for being a ‘hobosexual’
Learn about tenancy laws before your boyfriend becomes a roommate
Don’t let him wear you down! You’re smarter than this! NTA
Protect your children and yourself from toxic behavior
The commenter warns of the boyfriend’s red flags .
Dating an alcoholic with boundary issues, not a good combination
End it! You deserve better than childish behavior
Be cautious of an active addict boyfriend with mental health issues
Other users recognize red flags, advice to protect assets.
Is your boyfriend a hobosexual? Stand your ground. NTA
From ex to current, ownership language preference changes
Controlling boyfriend disregards boundaries and could move in uninvited
Red flags: mental health issues, alcohol abuse, and passive moving in
Red flags galore: NTA, time to end this suffocating relationship
Set boundaries in your new home
Protect your boundaries! ♀️
Asserting boundaries: Kick him out with a firm hand
Single mother bought home, boyfriend disregards boundaries and ownership ⚠️
Box up his things and leave them on the porch
Last Updated on March 7, 2024 by Diply Social Team