New Home, New Drama: Boyfriend Crosses Boundaries

Hey there, Facebook fam! You know, relationships can be full of surprises, especially when it comes to boundaries and living arrangements. Today, we’ve got a story of a woman who’s navigating her relationship with her boyfriend, while trying to create a stable home for her two children after a tough divorce. But things get a little tricky when her boyfriend starts referring to her new house as ‘our’ house. So, is she overreacting, or is her boyfriend crossing a line? Let’s dive into her story and find out!

A New Home, A New Chapter

Major Accomplishment: Homeownership

Past Marriages and Future Plans

No Plans for Marriage

Living Together: A Future Possibility?

‍ ‍ ‍ Step-Dad Role: A Reluctant Decision

Unofficially Moving In?

The ‘Our’ Dilemma

Uncomfortable Conversations

‍♀️ Boundaries and Alone Time

Angry Reactions

Boundary Issues

Overreacting or Justified?

Packing Up His Things

‘Our’ House or Just Mine? A Battle of Boundaries

Meet our homeowner, a proud mom of two who’s finally bought a house after her divorce. She’s in a loving relationship with her boyfriend, but they’ve both agreed they’re not quite ready to live together or get married. However, her boyfriend starts leaving his belongings at her place and using the term ‘our’ a lot – our house, our bed, our kids. She’s uncomfortable with this and feels like he’s not respecting her boundaries. After a heated discussion, she wonders if she’s overreacting or if her concerns are justified. Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…

Enforce your boundaries and don’t let him take over

Warning signs Boyfriend’s behavior indicates trouble and dependency.

Watch out for mail in his name, he’s trying to move in

Set boundaries and say no to unannounced visits

Ex’s behavior is unacceptable, establish boundaries and kick him out. NTA

Questionable choices: Dating with kids and a troubled partner

Dump him! Not worth it no matter the sex.

Protect your boundaries and your kids. End it. NTA

Don’t let this vampire suck you dry ‍♂️

NTA recommends upgraded security and checking residency rules

Age, alcohol, and mental health issues – recipe for disaster

Partner’s possessive language raises red flags. NTA.

NTA, talk it out but proceed with caution.

Is your relationship going nowhere? ‍♀️

Setting boundaries: NTA should communicate with her boyfriend

Setting boundaries with ex-boyfriend who overstays

Age is just a number, but red flags are forever

Setting boundaries is key to a healthy relationship

Partner’s mental and alcohol issues – think before committing

Wise advice from a fellow 40-something parent

Enforcing boundaries is mature. Boyfriend’s reaction shows disrespect. NTA

Red flag alert! Insecure boyfriend’s bad reaction to boundaries

Setting boundaries with your significant other

Protect your home and kids from mental health and addiction

“Typically alcoholic and manipulative” – Get his stuff out now

Time apart may help, he sounds like a hobosexual

Alcohol abuse is a red flag, prioritize your kids first

Prioritize yourself and your kids, not a freeloading boyfriend

Dodged a bullet . NTA, keep those boundaries!

Mother of two in a toxic relationship with an alcoholic

Setting boundaries with boyfriend who acts like they live together

‍♀️ Red flags everywhere. He may be manipulating you. Break up.

Protect your boundaries and belongings . Change locks and enforce limits.

Protect your home and children, don’t let him receive mail

Boyfriend crossing boundaries, moving in without moving in

Red flags: OP’s boyfriend may be homeless and boundary-crossing.

Setting boundaries with a partner is crucial

Harsh but necessary advice for a toxic relationship

Setting boundaries is crucial. NTA should consider ending relationship.

Red flags raised by boyfriend’s behavior, NTA for setting boundaries.

Beware of legal tenant status; change locks to protect yourself.

Boundaries are crucial in relationships

Harsh but fair assessment of both parties involved. ‍♀️

Don’t let him destabilize your life

Set boundaries in your own home to avoid future conflict

Reconsidering the relationship: NTA, he has multiple issues

Don’t deal with people who cross boundaries . Read Gavin DeBecker’s *The Gift of Fear*.

No more dating drop kicks, even with mental health issues.

Setting boundaries is important for a comfortable living situation.

Red flags in new relationship: Boiling frog analogy explained.

Respect your boundaries, he can’t just move in with you.

Set boundaries with your boyfriend before he anchors himself in

Boyfriend’s aggresive response shows red flags. NTA, kick him out

Putting herself and her children first ❤️ ‍ ‍

Concerned commenter questions woman’s choices with strong language

Setting boundaries with a partner struggling with addiction

Break it off fast! He’s crossing boundaries and manipulating you.

Protect your kids and kick him out

Trust your instincts and take a break from this manipulative boyfriend.

Warning of the potential consequences of dating someone with an ‘alcohol problem’

NTA: Commenter calls out OP’s boyfriend for being a ‘hobosexual’

Learn about tenancy laws before your boyfriend becomes a roommate

Don’t let him wear you down! You’re smarter than this! NTA

Protect your children and yourself from toxic behavior

The commenter warns of the boyfriend’s red flags .

Dating an alcoholic with boundary issues, not a good combination

End it! You deserve better than childish behavior

Be cautious of an active addict boyfriend with mental health issues

Other users recognize red flags, advice to protect assets.

Is your boyfriend a hobosexual? Stand your ground. NTA

From ex to current, ownership language preference changes

Controlling boyfriend disregards boundaries and could move in uninvited

Red flags: mental health issues, alcohol abuse, and passive moving in

Red flags galore: NTA, time to end this suffocating relationship

Set boundaries in your new home

Protect your boundaries! ‍♀️

Asserting boundaries: Kick him out with a firm hand

Single mother bought home, boyfriend disregards boundaries and ownership ⚠️

Box up his things and leave them on the porch