My Girlfriend Gave Me an UNTHINKABLE Ultimatum About My Donor Daughter

Buckle up, folks! We’ve got a doozy of a story for you today. Meet Steven, a stand-up guy who’s always been there for his bestie, Brenda. When Brenda and her wife wanted to start a family, Steven stepped up to the plate and became their sperm donor. Fast forward a few years, and now Steven’s in a pickle. His girlfriend’s not too thrilled about his involvement in little Lucy’s life, and she’s giving him an ultimatum. Is Steven the a-hole for refusing to abandon his bio daughter? Let’s dive in and find out! ️‍♀️

Best Friends Forever: The Unbreakable Bond

‍♀️ ‍♀️ Brenda Finds Her Soulmate & Ties the Knot!

A Life-Changing Request: Can I Help Make Their Dream Come True? ‍ ‍

Honored and Humbled: I Said Yes!

Welcome to the World, Baby Lucy!

Uncle Steven: Always There for Lucy

Lucy Learns the Truth (Well, Some of It)

Enter the Girlfriend: A New Chapter Begins

Wedding Bells on the Horizon: 3 Years and Counting!

Lucy’s 6th Birthday Bash: Let’s Celebrate!

Picture Perfect Moment? Not Quite…

Bombshell: Girlfriend Wants Me to Cut Ties with Lucy!

Tempers Flare: A Heated Argument Ensues

Accusations Fly: Did Brenda and I Have an Affair?!

Storming Out: I Won’t Abandon Lucy!

Caught in the Middle: Who’s Right, Who’s Wrong?

Feeling Guilty, But Standing My Ground

Am I the Bad Guy Here? I Need Your Help!

Girlfriend Demands BF Abandon Bio Daughter: Is He the A-Hole for Refusing?

Well, well, well… looks like Steven’s in quite the predicament! On one hand, he’s got his adorable little bio daughter, Lucy, who he’s been there for since day one. On the other, he’s got his girlfriend of 3 years who’s not too keen on sharing her man with a kid that’s not technically his. Talk about a rock and a hard place! Steven’s girlfriend even went as far as accusing him of having an affair with Brenda! The audacity! But Steven’s not backing down. He refuses to abandon Lucy, even if it means risking his relationship. So, what do you think, folks? Is Steven the a-hole for choosing his bio daughter over his girlfriend? Let’s see what the internet has to say about this juicy drama!

Girlfriend angry about you having a relationship with your biological child . You’re NTA, run NOW.

NTA, but incompatible GF is asking too much to ghost daughter

Trust issues and uncle/niece relationship with donor daughter (NTA)

Love is not a zero-sum game ❤️ NTA comment

Engaging with NTA comment defending the OP’s right to maintain relationship with donor daughter and Brenda’s kid

Playing devil’s advocate, commenter sympathizes but condemns fiancee’s behavior.

Dating someone with a kid isn’t for everyone ‍ , but being in their life is important ❤️

NTA’s girlfriend has trust issues and it’s a red flag

Being a sperm donor is not easy, but NTA for choosing Brenda and Lucy

Navigating family ties can be complicated, but communication is key.

Having a relationship with her donor can mean the world ❤

Girlfriend’s jealousy of a 6-year-old is emotionally abusive

Partner’s concern for future family is valid but NAH.

Fiancee changes mind about donor daughter, NTA calls off wedding

NTA donor dad faces relationship ultimatum

Defend your family, ditch the toxic girlfriend.

NTA. Partner’s ultimatum about donor daughter shows insecurity. Impasse ahead.

GF jealous of donor daughter, could become ultimatum situation ‍♀️

NTA. Support for raising daughter outweighs girlfriend’s insecurity

OP should consider the impact on future family before deciding. NTA

Could pregnancy hormones be behind her sudden ultimatum?

Girlfriend is selfish, prioritize daughter & your feelings.

ESH for waiting to bring up Lucy and feelings.

Redditors criticized for being quick to judge.

Dating someone with a child vs. dating someone who donated sperm

Partner’s trust issues may be causing ultimatum. NTA.

Disclosing family situation earlier would have avoided ultimatum situation ‍♂️

Being a donor is healthy for the child but not for girlfriend

A complicated situation with no clear answer and tough decisions

Honest critique of OP’s approach to revealing donor daughter.

NAH. GF uncomfortable with donor daughter, not an a-hole. Impasse.

Heartwarming comment about a beautiful relationship ❤

Prioritizing donor daughter over girlfriend: NTA wins hearts ♥

Commending OP for being a great friend and standing up for himself. NTA.

Don’t let your girlfriend dictate your blended family! NTA.

NTA- The girlfriend is possessive with controlling tendencies. Consider therapy.

NTA, lucky to have great relationship with best friend and child. GF being selfish and insecure about sharing life with a child.

Don’t give up yet! Counseling could help solve the jealousy.

Girlfriend has right to leave, not fair to cut relationship. NTA

NTA, the daughter is biologically and emotionally important to you ❤️

Red flag alert! NTA. GF’s ultimatum is controlling and insecure

Girlfriend’s trust issues may not be fixable

You’re NTA for wanting a relationship with your bio daughter

Girlfriend gives ultimatum about donor daughter, comment supports OP’s decision.

Girlfriend vs. Donor Daughter: NTA chooses family

Complicated situation, but ultimately NAH. It’s time to move on.

Dump the girlfriend for being insecure and insulting your daughter

Will Lucy be treated like a kid or a niece?

Playing devil’s advocate and empathizing with the girlfriend’s perspective

Empathetic commenter understands girlfriend’s perspective, suggests compromise. ❤

Disclosing having a child is important early on to avoid incompatibility

Accepting favorite niece, not donor daughter, is a red flag

Girlfriend’s ultimatum to cut off daughter is manipulative and cruel

Having a biological link with a child can be complex. ‍ It’s important to consider your partner’s perspective.

Donor daughter’s uncle vs father debate. NTA wins

Partner jealous of uncle’s relationship with donor daughter.
NTA.

Girlfriend may feel threatened by friend and daughter, NTA.

Partner’s jealousy towards donor daughter. NTA. Possible insecurities addressed.

Girlfriend demands cut-off with donor daughter. Commenter says NTA.

Your girlfriend is being selfish and ridiculous. Stand your ground!

GF’s insecurity and ultimatum reveal her true colors. NTA

Don’t let your gf’s insecurity ruin your relationship with your donor daughter

YTA for hiding daughter, blaming girlfriend and not being honest

Being a biological donor doesn’t absolve you of a relationship with Lucy. NTA

NTA, girlfriend may be jealous of your connection with Brenda

Demanding to cut off family is a bad sign for relationship

Girlfriend wants to hurt a child for jealousy. NTA.

Friend’s ultimatum to cut off donor daughter’s family is red flag

Compatibility is key in relationships

NTA. Girlfriend’s jealousy may manifest in damaging behavior towards Lucy

NTA. Girlfriend’s ultimatum is unfair and she seems toxic

Girlfriend jealous of donor daughter relationship? NTA, prioritize Lucy’s happiness

Choosing between girlfriend & daughter’s donor mom? NTA, ultimatum unreasonable.

Girlfriend’s ultimatum makes her the a**hole, not you.

Being in your child’s life as a donor is important. NTA

Girlfriend’s ultimatum over donor daughter: NTA and her jealousy.

Letting go of past relationships for ultimatums? NTA wins

“NTA” You did something beautiful ❤️ as an uncle/biodad ‍ .

Girlfriend’s jealousy over donor daughter is a major red flag

NTA. Your girlfriend’s jealousy of a 6-year-old is a red flag . Reconsider this relationship.

Reconsider this relationship. Control issues only get worse.

NTA, but discuss with gf & consider therapy. Don’t give up on Lucy

Partner gave ultimatum to choose between her or chosen family ‍♂️. Commenter advises to run away.

A difficult situation with dad’s fiance, leaving or staying?

NTA. Girlfriend accused of using donor story as coverup

NTA. GF is jealous and petty. You deserve better