Mom Defies Ex’s Wishes to Find His Biological Family for Daughter

Hey there, Facebook fam! Have you ever wondered about your family tree and the relatives you’ve never met? Well, our friend here has a daughter with her ex, who happens to be adopted. The ex’s adoptive parents are pretty distant, and our friend’s own family isn’t as close-knit as she’d like. She’s curious about her ex’s biological family and wants her daughter to have the chance to meet them, but the ex isn’t interested. What’s a mom to do? ‍♀️ Let’s dive into this family drama and find out!

The Family Situation

Adoptive Parents’ Cold Shoulder ❄️

OP’s Big Family

Missing Out on Dad’s Side ‍ ‍

Kiddo’s Current Family Circle ‍ ‍ ‍

Age Gap Woes

Ex’s Stance on Bio Parents

OP’s Curiosity

The Medical History Factor

The Ancestry Test Dilemma

Potential AH Reasons

To Search or Not to Search: The Family Tree Dilemma ️‍♀️

Our protagonist is a mom who wants her daughter to have a close-knit family experience, but there’s a problem: her ex’s adoptive parents are distant, and her own family isn’t as tight as she’d like. She’s considering doing an ancestry test to find her ex’s biological family, hoping to introduce her daughter to potential relatives and learn about their medical history. However, her ex is firmly against the idea, and she’s worried she might be crossing a line. So, what does the internet think about this sticky situation? Let’s find out!

User thinks mom is being cruel and selfish

Adoptee commenter explains why contacting ex’s biological family is wrong

User argues against finding biological family, citing potential harm to ex

Adoptee warns against finding bio family without consent. YTA.

OP accused of selfishness for seeking child’s biological family

Respecting boundaries is important. YTA for going behind his back

Creating a found family could be more beneficial.

User calls out OP for involving uninterested grandparents

Adoptee warns of potential negative consequences of biological family search

User calls out mom for defying ex’s wishes. Accuses her of being selfish.

Going behind ex’s back to find his bio parents is inappropriate

Parenting conflict: Commenter calls out disrespectful behavior

Boundaries set by ex should be respected.

Ex’s wishes ignored by mom searching for daughter’s bio family ‍♀️

User warns against mom’s actions, calling her the a**hole.

Going against ex’s wishes: YTA

Birth parent warns against violating partner’s trust. YTA.

User calls out mom’s actions as projecting and unrealistic

Cautionary advice against defying ex’s wishes in search for family.

User warns mom to back off, discuss with ex before proceeding ⚠️

Criticism of mom’s actions and suggestion to seek therapy.

Respect the adoptee’s wishes. YWBTA if you don’t.

Going against ex’s wishes to find daughter’s family. YTA confirmed.

User thinks mom is the a**hole for contacting bio parents

Parenting isn’t about creating a perfect childhood

Respect boundaries, you’re not entitled to interfere with ex’s wishes

Effective communication with ex can solve this sensitive issue

Respect boundaries! Commenter is YTA for disregarding ex’s wishes.

User calls out commenter for arguing against husband’s wishes

Questioning why the ex never searched for his son

User calls out OP for being selfish and projecting issues.

Boundaries are important – YTA for disregarding ex’s wishes

Unnecessary mention of nephew’s disability in comment

Accept the reality and mourn your fantasies and sense of loss

User warns against finding ex’s biological family for daughter

Adoptees have the right to choose their biological family. YTA.

User calls out OP for being rude and betraying trust

A heartwarming tale of discovering one’s roots and family ❤

Finding bio family risky, try reconnecting with mom’s side

Adoptee advises against finding biological family without consent.

Ignoring your partner’s wishes is a breach of trust, YTA ‍♀️

Unexpected reunion leads to shocking discovery

Seeking ex’s permission to research bio family for daughter?

User tells mom to mind her own business, calls her the a**hole

When seeking validation from strangers goes too far

Betraying adopted partner’s wishes is worse than being an a**hole

User disagrees with OP and gives reasons why YTA.

User shames mom’s decision to find daughter’s biological family

Connecting with cousins is a great way to respect privacy

Respect the adoptee’s wishes and seek ex’s approval first

User calls out mom for defying ex’s wishes, deems her the a**hole

Redditor calls out YTA for breaking subreddit rules

Redditor learns tough lesson in r/AmItheA**hole judgement

Wait for your daughter to make that choice later

OP determined to find bio parents despite opposition, dilemma continues.

Adoptee condemns meddling in ex’s family affairs; YTA called out.

Going against your ex’s wishes for daughter’s biological family? YTA.

User warns against finding ex’s biological family for daughter.

User calls out mom for being selfish and disregarding ex’s wishes

User accuses OP of being TA and not accepting judgement

OP receives harsh YTA judgment and shows no remorse

One person’s cautionary tale about finding their biological father.

User calls out mom for disregarding ex’s wishes. Yikes

Going behind your ex’s back to contact his bio family? YTA

Harsh comment shuts down suggestion to intervene in personal matters

Questioning the motive behind finding biological family for daughter

User accuses mom of being TA for finding daughter’s family

Respect your ex’s wishes and work with what you have

Focus on building a loving community for your child

Should OP ask ex before reaching out to biological family?

Criticism of OP’s victim mentality and tone-policing.

Strong backlash against mom’s decision to find daughter’s biological family.

OP receives criticism for not listening to advice given.

User argues against seeking out more family, calls out fetishization

Respect ex’s wishes, find another way to connect daughter with roots

Respect your ex’s wishes, don’t force his story on daughter

A commenter strongly disagrees with the mother’s decision to find her ex-husband’s biological family and thinks it’s cruel to him and his adoptive family.

Adoptee calls out OP for overstepping boundaries in finding family

User calls out mother for disregarding ex’s wishes. YTA