Picture this: you’re a straight guy who’s been chatting with a lovely girl on a dating app. You’re not looking for anything serious, but you decide to meet up and see where things go. You have a great time together, and before you know it, you’re getting a little touchy-feely in a hotel room. But something feels… off. That’s when she drops the bombshell: she’s a trans woman. You’re all for trans rights, but you’re just not attracted to trans women. What do you do? That’s the dilemma our friend here faced, and he’s wondering if he was in the wrong for rejecting her. Let’s dive into his story and see what we can make of it.
A Nice Girl on a Dating App
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First Date and a Deep Voice ️
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The Big Revelation
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Preferences and Support
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Experimentation and Annoyance
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The Flag Issue ️
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Time to Stop ⛔
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Respectful Exit
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Trans Friend’s Opinion
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Not Confused, Just Honest ♂️
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Attraction and Respect ✊
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Unnecessary Comments
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Aggression and Projection ️
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A Troubling Realization
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Guilt and Support ♂️
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Feeling Sick and Deleting the Account
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Comments and Traumas
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Sister’s Advice and Moving On
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Final Thoughts
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Trans Revelation: A Dating Dilemma
Our friend, a straight man, meets a girl on a dating app and goes on a date. Things heat up, but he feels something is off. She reveals she’s a trans woman, and he stops her advances, admitting he’s not attracted to trans women. She gets angry, and he leaves the hotel. He feels guilty for rejecting her but stands by his preferences. The situation gets more complicated when some people suggest he was sexually assaulted, making him feel even worse. He’s grateful for the supportive comments but is overwhelmed by the negativity. Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…
Respectful rejection of trans woman sparks debate on sexual preferences

NTA: Should the trans woman have disclosed before sex?

Attraction is personal and not under anyone’s control. ♂️

Being supportive doesn’t mean wanting to have sex with them

Transparency is key. NTA for wanting to know beforehand.

Trans acceptance on dating apps: YTA or NTA?

Sexual preference is personal and not a sin. NTA.

Dating someone who is trans is a sensitive topic

Rejecting someone for being trans is wrong and dangerous

Respectful rejection? NTA, preferences matter. Communication is key

Rejecting someone is okay if they’re not your orientation ✌️

Revoking consent is valid. Consent is important.

Respecting preferences is not a**hole behavior.

NTA for rejecting trans woman, but be respectful and kind

Respectful rejection of trans woman on date. NTA

Trans woman defends man’s right to reject her on date

Consent is key, NTA. Transgender issues are complex

Not the a-hole for having preferences, but unnecessary explanation.

Gender preference is not transphobic. NTA for rejecting date

Transphobic rejection not justified, but safety concerns valid

Defending personal sexual preferences against unfair judgment

Supporter of LGBTQ rights defends preference without being transphobic

Consent matters. People are not toys to be played with

Respecting preferences: NTA for rejecting trans woman on date

Transphobic comment with no empathy or understanding. ♂️

Trans man defends man’s right to withdraw consent politely

Hiding a secret never works out, regardless of what it is

Trans woman discusses rejection and preferences with respect and understanding

Having preferences is okay. Trans woman was manipulative and aggressive. NTA.

Pre-date disclosure of gender identity: NTA or NAH?

Reddit’s hypocrisy on ‘civility’ and free speech criticism.

Rejecting someone doesn’t make you wrong. Transphobia does.

Preferences ≠ Discrimination: Bisexual Woman Defends Rejecting Trans Woman ♀️

Deception as sexual coercion equals rape. Trans rights are human rights.

Rejecting someone for sex preference is okay, respect is key

Trans woman’s delay in disclosure puts her date at risk ⚠️

Debate on disclosing trans identity before sex sparks controversy

Respecting genital preference: NTA or insensitive?

Respecting preferences vs. transphobia

Transphobic comment with no room for empathy ♀️

Love who you love ❤️ – rejecting someone isn’t always wrong

Honesty is the best policy when rejecting someone

Being honest about attraction is important for both parties involved. ❤

Trans woman’s hidden identity leads to justified rejection.

Man rejects trans woman on date and feels uncomfortable. NAH.

Man defends his preference, raises concerns about consent and communication.

Transphobic comment sparks backlash from community
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Attraction is not a choice, but consent is. ❤

Respectful defense of dating preferences against online bullying

Love who you want ❤️: No one has the right to judge.

Having a preference isn’t phobic, but honesty is key

Transphobia or Preference? The Debate Continues

Trans woman criticized for not disclosing identity on first date

Respecting personal preferences is key

NTA. Preferences are valid, but lack of disclosure is wrong. Toxic person.

Rejecting someone based on gender identity is not okay

Respecting sexual preferences is okay

Respectful explanation of attraction preferences and support for community

Having preferences isn’t transphobic. NTA for withdrawing consent.

Defending the right to refuse sexual partners with no explanation.

It’s okay to have preferences and say no

Bi man’s encounter with trans woman at drag show: fantasy turned sour

Respecting boundaries is important

Genital preference is valid, NTA says in trans date dispute.

Respectful rejection or discrimination? The debate continues…

Supporting LGBTQ+ doesn’t mean you have to be attracted
