Imagine being in a situation where your spouse has a living will, but it’s not legally filed. Now, imagine that your spouse ends up in a coma and you have to make a life-altering decision for them. That’s exactly what happened to one man who chose to ignore his wife’s unofficial living will, and now their marriage is on the rocks.
Wife’s Fear of Being Controlled ♀️

The Root of Her Control Issues

Living Will Drama ⚖️

The Car Wreck

Wife’s Furious Reaction

The Aftermath: Divorce Looming?

Wife Proceeding with Divorce

Marriage on the Brink: Can It Be Saved?
After a tragic car accident left this man’s wife in a coma, he made the decision to ignore her unofficial living will and authorize life-saving medical treatment. When she woke up, she was furious and immediately demanded a divorce. Now, with their marriage hanging by a thread, he’s left wondering if he made the right choice. Did he save her life only to lose her forever? Let’s see what the internet thinks of this heart-wrenching situation…
Surviving medical decisions without a living will. NTA wins.

Making a life or death decision for a loved one NTA

NTA commenter calls out abusive behavior and offers insight

NTA, filing a living will with the hospital is crucial

Respecting wishes without legal documents, NTA wins.

Respecting a spouse’s wishes during a health crisis.

NAH. Husband ignores wife’s will, but acted in her best interests

Hospital worker explains living will requirements and recommends doctor’s explanation.

Seeking help for a mentally ill spouse. NTA.
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Debating whether the wife is controlling or not

Spouse ignored wife’s living will, but NTA due to wife’s negligence.

Divorce may be the best option. NTA for prioritizing yourself.

Man tries to save wife against unofficial living will. NTA.

User suggests divorce from ‘monster’ wife in living will dispute

NTA. Wife needs therapy. Cutting off people for opinions is drastic

Redditor advises seeking professional help for impossible situation

Navigating end-of-life decisions can be complicated and emotional

User suggests divorce due to wife’s living will drama

Respecting your spouse’s wishes is crucial for a healthy marriage ❤

Man disregards wife’s living will, but hospital would save her anyways

User expresses concern for wife’s mental health and clarifies legal issues.

User acknowledges complexity of situation, refrains from judgement.
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First responder clarifies DNR protocol, commenter NTA.

Spouse ignores living will, saves life. NTA, but rocky marriage.

Unconscious doesn’t always mean mortally wounded. Wife needs therapy.

Spouse ignored living will, but doctor gave positive outcome. NTA

Doctor shares personal fear of overzealous medical intervention, empathizes with wife.

Spouse ignores wife’s living will, but is he NTA?

Spouse’s mental illness strains marriage, NTA but divorce looming
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NTA struggles to help wife with CPTSD, but enabling behavior.

User defends husband’s decision to save wife’s life. Marriage in crisis.

User suggests suicide may be the cause, advises honor in decision.

Healthcare worker explains why husband is NTA for ignoring wife’s living will

NTA saves ungrateful wife, commenters agree it’s time to leave

Respectful comment acknowledges both sides in tough situation.

User believes wife needs therapy for not having a DNR

NTA comment suggests leaving selfish and controlling wife.

Spouse ignores living will, faces divorce. NAH but unfair.
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NTA husband seeks advice on estranged wife’s living will.

Misunderstanding wife’s living will leads to judgment-free conflict. NTA

Embrace the comforting experience of saving a human being. NTA

User shares personal experience with bipolar disorder and advises divorce.

Unofficial living will causes marital strife. NTA receives sympathy.

Choosing life over death. NTA wins this round

User warns against ignoring mental health issues in relationships

Surviving a no-win scenario, but is the marriage worth saving?

Man defends his decision to save wife’s life despite divorce threat

NTA thinks wife’s living will is suicidal

Supportive comment advises OP to prioritize their own well-being

Divorce is better than ignoring your wife’s living will
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Spouse ignores wife’s living will, trust issues arise.

Spouse ignores wife’s living will, but NTA. Wife needs therapy.

Doctors have a duty to treat, NTA for following it

NTA. Commenter suggests wife had unresolved trauma affecting communication.

Legal route for ignoring wife’s living will? NTA seeks advice.

Navigating difficult conversations in marriage.

Unofficial living will raises ethical questions about end-of-life care.

Did he ignore her wishes or was there a communication breakdown?

A blunt comment on a manipulative wife with autism

Is it ever okay to take away someone’s autonomy?

Divorce as a favor? NTA comment sparks interesting debate.

Legal technicalities make NTA’s actions understandable, but wife disagrees. ♂️

Respect her wishes or lose her trust. Tough situation.

Heartbreaking situation. Non-asshole move, but can marriage survive?

Honouring a spouse’s wishes can be complicated

Empathetic comment receives no replies.

Navigating unreasonable spouses ♂️

NTA husband defends his decision to not pull the plug

Legalities of living wills explained, NTA for not following it.

NTA calls out abusive behavior regarding DNR. No replies.

NTA husband in denial about wife’s need for help. Give space.

Tough love or heartless? Debate on marital responsibility

Spouse defends decision to ignore wife’s unofficial living will

Humorous comment on dark topic

NTA husband urged to take time apart from wife

Medical student clarifies DNR meaning, supports OP, wife called insane

Clarification on medical interventions needed for end-of-life decisions.

Supportive commenter suggests therapy and education on ableism and trauma ❤️

Spouse ignores living will, but is NTA. Sad situation.

Red flag alert! Is this marriage doomed?

Husband disregards wife’s living will due to her fear of treatment

Spouse ignores wife’s living will, but NTA. Therapy recommended.

Marriage advice with a touch of tough love

User defends man’s decision to ignore wife’s living will.

Unfiled living will raises ethical and legal concerns. NTA.

Spouse’s refusal to seek therapy leads to inevitable divorce
