Is She Wrong for Not Giving Friend Money for Baby After One-Night Stand?

Picture this: you’re best friends with someone since school, and they come to you with a life-changing decision. Your friend has gotten pregnant from a one-night stand and is unsure whether to keep the baby or not. As a good friend, you’re honest about your beliefs and make it clear that you can’t support her pregnancy. Fast forward, and your friend decides to get an abortion but needs your financial and emotional support. You offer to help, but things take a turn when she asks for the money to support her and her child instead. What would you do in this situation? Keep reading to find out how our protagonist handled this delicate dilemma.

Best Friends Forever?

A Tough Decision

The Emotional Phone Call

The Lone Supporter ‍♀️

Planning the Trip ✈️

Money Matters

Respecting Beliefs ‍♀️

Friendship on the Line: Abortion, Money, and Beliefs

Our protagonist, torn between her beliefs and her friendship, offers to pay for a trip to a nearby country where abortion is legal, estimating the cost to be around $9000. However, her friend isn’t convinced and tries to persuade her to give her the money to support her and her child instead. Our protagonist stands her ground, stating that she will only provide financial support for an abortion and that her friend’s decision to keep the child is her own, but she won’t help in any way as she’s against it in principle. The situation escalates when the friend calls every mutual friend they’ve ever had, leading to people our protagonist hasn’t spoken to in years nagging her about helping her friend. Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…

User seeks clarity on OP’s stance on friend’s pregnancy choices

Friend refuses to give money for baby after one-night stand. NTA.

Friend asks for money, gets caught in lie. NTA wins

NTA. OP sets boundaries and friend crossed them for money.

Friend refuses to support pregnancy, called out for controlling ideology. YTA

Friends expect money for one-night stand baby? NTA stands firm.

Pushing abortion and forcing beliefs makes you an ESH

NTA. Friend lied to get money; hang up on scammers

NTA. No obligation to financially support friend’s unplanned pregnancy.

Is her decision to get an abortion her own or influenced?

NTA sees through friend’s lie about abortion for money.

Friend not entitled to money. Other friends can help instead.

Your money, your rules. Don’t let your friends pressure you.

Unclear question sparks confusion in comment section

Doubting the pregnancy? Don’t give her money, NTA

NTA lays down clear boundaries for friend’s poor life choices

Friend refuses to give money for one-night stand’s baby. NTA.

NTA for refusing to pay for friend’s one-night stand baby.

Friend questions how OP’s beliefs align with not supporting pregnancy.

Lied about baby, NTA for not giving money.

You’re not the a**hole, keep your money, not her problem

Friend pulls bait and switch. NTA for not giving money.

Respectful disagreement on giving money for friend’s baby.

Your money, your choice. Your offer to help terminate was generous.

Financially supporting a baby for life is not OP’s responsibility. NTA

Friend wants money for baby after one-night stand, antinatalist says NTA

Chasing the father for child support, while commenter begs for cash

Friend refuses to give money for one-night stand’s baby. NTA wins.

Setting boundaries with money . NTA stands their ground.

Friendship over and $9000 saved, NTA for revoking offer

Friend needs help, but not from someone who didn’t cause it

ESH verdict – friend needs support, not money

Embrace your beliefs! Join the childfree subreddit and say NTA

Cutting ties with toxic friends who extort money via blackmail.

NTA for refusing to give money for baby after one-night stand

Confusion over commenter’s beliefs sparks intriguing conversation

Stand your ground , it’s your money after all

Friend refuses to financially support but expects emotional support. YTA

Friend lies to get money for baby after one-night stand. NTA.

Setting boundaries is important. Good on you for standing firm.

Friend tries to get money after one-night stand. NTA wins.

Toxic beliefs make this ESH situation more complicated

When friendship ends over money: a cautionary tale.

Money matters: NTA but exceptions exist for dependent children.

Respect OP’s decision to not give friend money

NTA. Pregnancy and baby are her responsibility.

Friend demands cash instead of support after one-night stand. NTA.

Not your affair, not your bill to pay.

Supporting a friend’s abortion doesn’t mean funding their baby. NTA

NTA. Emotional support matters more than financial support.

Generous offer for non-existent child deemed NTA.

Her money, her choice. No obligation to help. NTA

Agreed to support specific situation, no responsibility for changed circumstances. NTA

Friend asks for baby money after one-night stand. NTA wins.

NTA. Suspect possible lie from woman asking for money. No obligation.

Setting boundaries and sticking to them.

Friend wants money for baby, but friend doesn’t like rules. NTA

NTA. Kids are expensive as F***, it’s important to stand firm.

Not the a**hole. Clear boundaries were set from the start.

Friend wants money for baby after one-night stand. NTA suggests abortion.

NTA. Not your responsibility to support her irresponsible choices.

Not responsible for friend’s pregnancy or financial decisions

NTA. Her choice, her responsibility. Don’t let others guilt-trip you.

NTA. Friend is not entitled to money for her baby.

Money for baby after one-night stand? NTA says commenter.

Don’t let anyone guilt you into financing their lifestyle

Support refusal okay, but anti-kid belief?

NTA stands firm in not giving money to friend’s baby.