Imagine being married for 4 years, together for 7, and having your last intimate moment over 2 years ago. That’s the reality for our protagonist, who’s struggling to keep his marriage afloat amidst his wife’s body image issues and lack of intimacy. The couple has been working through their traumas together, but things took a turn for the worse when the wife developed feelings for a friend living with them. Now, our protagonist is left feeling alone and unloved, and he’s not sure how much more he can take. Will an ultimatum save their marriage, or is it the beginning of the end? Read on to find out!
A Love Story: 7 Years and Counting
Working Through Trauma Together
Intimacy Issues
Feeling Alone
A Crushing Revelation
Doctor’s Orders: Anti-Anxiety Meds
Addressing Loneliness and Body Image ️
“Almond Momming” Accusations
A Harsh Response
Refusing to Be Active
Searching for Love and Respect
Apologies and Repetition
The Ultimatum: Intimacy or Divorce?
Marriage on the Rocks: Intimacy or Divorce?
Our protagonist has been feeling alone and unloved in his marriage for quite some time now. With his wife’s body image issues and lack of intimacy, he’s at his wit’s end. To make matters worse, she developed feelings for a friend living with them, leaving him questioning their trust. He’s tried to address the situation and help her through her issues, but she’s not budging. After a particularly harsh response from her, he’s left with no choice but to issue an ultimatum: more intimacy or divorce. Is he in the wrong for wanting to feel loved and respected in his marriage? Let’s see what the internet thinks of this heartbreaking situation…
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Choosing mental health over unsatisfying marriage
Remove toxic burden. Ultimatum will drag things out.
NTA, leave her and seek therapy to regain self-worth.
“NTA but it sounds like it’s not just physical intimacy…”
Lacking intimacy for 2 years damages relationships. NTA.
Counseling may save marriage, but is it too late? ♂️
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Sometimes, it’s best to leave when intimacy needs aren’t met
When your partner wants someone else, it’s time to leave
NTA stands up for himself and decides it’s time to leave.
Savage response! No intimacy, no respect, no love.
Suggest counseling instead of ultimatums for failing intimacy
NTA – Intimacy issues and infidelity are red flags
Sex isn’t everything but it’s not nothing. NTA for considering divorce.
Relationship has deeper issues, commenter suggests divorce and therapy.
Divorce may be the best option. You deserve love and respect. ❤️
Sexless marriage lasted 30 years, intimacy and love but no poke
Time to move on and find someone better
Lack of respect and kindness is the deeper problem
A frank response, but if that’s regular, it’s a red flag.
Toxicity and dismissiveness. Leave the relationship.
User suggests cost-benefit analysis for toxic relationship with rude partner.
Putting yourself first in a toxic marriage ♂️
Stop being a doormat, she loathes you. Walk away.
Marriage is dead, wife’s emotional cheating, ultimatum time
Reddit advises ending sexless marriage, warns of ultimatum consequences.
Encouraging therapy for toxic cycle of unhealthy choices. Self-care matters.
Open relationship solution to intimacy issues
Partner’s trauma affecting intimacy, not just lack of it ♂️
Time to fold ’em and probably time to run…
Toxicity and trauma: Is financial security worth the toxicity?
Lack of intimacy is just one issue, therapy or divorce
ESH, she’s manipulative and you let her disrespect you
Partner not into you anymore, consider divorce
Move on, you deserve better.
Don’t waste your life, leave and find someone passionate
Spouse wants more intimacy or divorce, commenter advises to move on.
Couple maintains intimacy despite lack of sex. Commenter advises divorce.
Free audiobook recommendation for dealing with ultimatums in marriage
Spouse’s trauma used as an excuse for bad behavior
Reddit user laments about men seeking approval on the internet.
Put yourself first and find someone who cherishes you
NTA. Divorce your abusive wife and move on
OP not at fault for trying, ball’s in wife’s court
User suspects cheating and supports NTA stance.
Leave the toxic relationship and find happiness
Escape the loveless marriage before it drains you emotionally.
Partner is selfish and lacks intimacy. Consider an exit plan
User suggests divorce as a solution to lack of intimacy
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Ultimatums won’t make her want you and could breed resentment
Supportive comment on holding partners accountable for responsibilities.
A scathing comment calling out toxic behavior.
Divorce ultimatum over intimacy in a relationship. NTA’s POV.
User advises to leave partner who doesn’t love and respect you
User calls out man for ignoring red flags in dead bedroom.
No forcing love or attraction. Life’s short, find affection elsewhere.
Sometimes it’s not about you, but making your partner feel loved ❤️
NTA, but an ultimatum won’t fix a bad marriage ❌
Get off the front doorstep and move on with life
Incompatible marriages happen, end it amicably and prioritize your mental health
Insightful comment on the wife’s mental state and behavior.
Harsh advice to consider the possibility of a doomed marriage.
Divorce may be the best option. YTA for tolerating it.
Red flag alert! Prioritize your safety and leave.
Spouse doesn’t see you as intimate partner. Ultimatum reasonable
Questioning the mentality of staying in an unhappy relationship
Toxic marriage and ultimatums. Time to seek help or leave
OP’s spouse is emotionally abusive and neglectful. Divorce is necessary.
Don’t be a lottery ticket, NTA. Consider legal options and investigate cheating suspicions
Narcissistic partner uses trauma as an excuse for bad behavior. #NotTheAH
NTA comment calls out partner’s cruelty and advises leaving.
NTA deserves emotional and physical intimacy in relationship. Divorce seems logical.
Leave the unhappy marriage and live your best life
OP’s wife’s infidelity and lack of intimacy, a toxic situation
NTA commenter advises divorce due to lack of intimacy
Redditors question the value of seeking advice on infidelity
Marital intimacy or divorce ultimatum, but marriage is dead anyway
Time to move on? Commenter advises the husband to walk away
When your partner wants intimacy, but not with you ♀️
