Buckle up, folks! We’ve got a juicy tale of friendship, secrets, and a whole lot of drama! Meet our main man, who’s been besties with L since high school. L dropped a bombshell back then, revealing she’s transgender (MtF). Fast forward to now, and our guy’s got a girlfriend who’s not too thrilled about his close friendship with L. But here’s the kicker: he never told his girlfriend about L’s transition! Strap in, because this story’s about to get wild!
Roomies for Life!

L’s Transition Journey

Gal Pals Getting Along… Until Now

Keeping L’s Secret Safe

L’s Painful Past Experiences

♂️ Defending My Friendship

Girlfriend’s Suspicions Grow ️♀️

Dinner Date Drama

Offended by Accusations

L’s Change of Heart ️

Girlfriend’s Fury Unleashed

Secrets and Regrets

Secrets, Suspicions, and a Showdown!
Our guy’s in a pickle! His girlfriend’s suspicions about his friendship with L reached a boiling point. ️ A movie night turned into a dinner date disaster when she accused him of cheating! But wait, there’s more! L finally gave the green light to spill the tea ☕ about her transition. The girlfriend was furious when she found out, feeling betrayed by the secret. Now, our guy’s wondering if he royally messed up. The internet’s got some thoughts on this one, so let’s dive in and see what they have to say!
“Girlfriend’s insecurities are not your problem”

Respecting someone’s identity is not an excuse for secrecy. NTA.
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User questions the relevance of friend’s gender identity to girlfriend’s insecurities.

NTA. Girlfriend’s insecurity about your female friends is a RED flag.

Respect for privacy and safety. NTA for not outing friend.
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NTA for not outing best friend. GF’s reasoning is strange.

Girlfriend’s controlling behavior and transphobia causes relationship trouble. ESH.

Respect your friend’s privacy and boundaries. NTA.

Girlfriend’s trust issues are not about friend’s gender identity. NTA.

Respectful OP defends BFF’s privacy. NTA

Respecting privacy is important. NTA for not outing friend.

Respecting privacy and trust in a relationship

Respecting boundaries and avoiding drama

NTA. GF’s insecurity and transphobia are not your problems. ♂️

Respectful NTA got permission to reveal friend’s truth, no screw-up.

NTA. GF lacks understanding of trans people, work on trust.

Girlfriend’s trust issues are not about L’s gender identity. NTA

NAH, great friendship with L, talk about trust with girlfriend

Don’t jump to transphobia, it’s not necessarily transphobic

No A-hole here, girlfriend overreacted but has right to know

Gender should not affect friendship. NTA for having trans friend.

Respectful response to GF’s transphobia, emphasizing personal values and boundaries.

Not the a**hole for respecting someone’s privacy and boundaries

Being a true ally sometimes means making difficult choices. ✌

Respect for privacy is key NTA wins this one

NTA. Girlfriend’s discomfort with female friends is the underlying issue. ♀️

Being a good friend and respecting privacy. NTA

Respectful boundaries. NTA for respecting L’s privacy and girlfriend’s discomfort.

Respectful response to girlfriend’s unreasonable request for friend’s private info

Respect privacy: NTA for ensuring L’s comfort in sharing information.

Respect your friend’s privacy and have an honest chat

NTA. Respect L’s privacy and your girlfriend needs to trust you

Respect your friend’s story, you’re NTA.

Gender identity shouldn’t matter in a friendship. NTA.

Girlfriend is insecure about BFF’s transition, OP defends infidelity accusations.

NAH situation caused by miscommunication, talk to all parties involved

You’re not the a**hole for respecting your friend’s privacy

Be friends with whoever you want, your GF’s insecurity sucks

Respectful boundaries: NTA for keeping L’s trans identity confidential

Respectful friend keeps trans identity confidential, NTA

Respect your friend’s boundaries and decisions. NTA

Respectful honesty over ignorance. NTA for not telling GF.

GF wants to break friend’s trust, NTA for respecting it.

GF demands answers about friend being trans, commenter defends privacy.

Being a good friend means keeping someone’s trust

Trust is key in a relationship . NTA for keeping a friend’s secret.

Respecting privacy and standing up to jealousy. NTA

Being true to yourself and standing up for friends

OP is NTA for having a trans best friend

GF’s anger towards BFF’s sexuality is not OP’s fault.

Dump her! Your girlfriend is insecure and transphobic.

NTA. Respect L’s privacy and don’t subject them to girlfriend.

Defending your friend’s privacy is NTA, gf needs to chill

Respectful communication and consent are key in revealing personal information.

Great job! Never out someone without permission . Plus, GF sounds controlling and transphobic …

Don’t compromise healthy relationships for a toxic partner’s insecurities.

Being friends with a girl is okay. GF is controlling

Respectful response to girlfriend’s trust issues.

Protecting your friend was more important. NTA

Outing a trans person is never ok. NTA for standing up.

NTA. Girlfriend blames you for her issues. Brace for impact

Respecting boundaries : Not the a**hole for not sharing friend’s personal information.

NTA. GF’s controlling behavior & reaction to L’s gender identity = red flags.

Good friend defends trans BFF, warns girlfriend of controlling behavior. ️⚧️

NTA. Girlfriend needs to work on her jealousy and trust issues

Trust issues don’t give her the right to know medical history

Trust issues and accusations can ruin a relationship. #NTA

Respectful friend stands up to jealous girlfriend. NTA wins!

NTA. A heartwarming story of friendship and acceptance

Respecting someone’s identity is the bare minimum
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Respecting L’s privacy and girlfriend’s attitude toward trans people

Privacy boundaries respected. Girlfriend has trust issues to address.

Respect privacy. GF’s trust issues not BFF’s fault. NTA

NTA for not sharing info. GF may be transphobic. Discrimination debate.

NTA but girlfriend’s behavior is controlling and transphobic

Being trans isn’t a secret and nobody is entitled to know. GF’s transphobia is unacceptable. Grateful for supportive ally.
