A father has taken to Reddit’s popular AITA forum to ask if he is in the wrong for giving his two older children a higher amount of money for their education, due to a promise he made with his late wife before her passing. The man explains that he couldn’t afford to give all of his children the same amount, and his current wife is unhappy with the unequal distribution. The situation has caused tension in their marriage, with the father having doubts about his decision. Read on to find out more about this family dynamic and decide for yourself: is he the asshole?
Mixed family dynamics: Unequal inheritance causing tension
Father’s promise to first wife causes financial tension with second wife.
Father struggles to fulfill promises after wife’s death
Generous father’s unequal gift distribution causes no issues with current wife
Unequal money distribution causing tension between wives.
Father’s fair but unequal money distribution sparks family debate.
Resentful wife frustrated with unequal finances from deceased ex.
Unequal money distribution causes tension between wives in family
Navigating tricky family dynamics after a spouse’s death
Tension arises after questioning wife’s fear of the deceased father
Fairness concerns arise over unequal money distribution between children
Unequal money distribution sparks tension between wives. AITA verdict?
Unequal money distribution between step and biological children causes tension
A father is having second thoughts about his decision to give his biological children more money than his stepchildren for their education after his current wife found it unfair. The father has been fulfilling a promise to his deceased wife to deposit money for their children’s education. Although the father lowered the amount to $450 for both children, it was still more than what he deposited for his current wife’s children. When he decided to give his children $100 more, his current wife found it unfair and called the father’s deceased wife his ‘dead ex.’ The father explained that he was fulfilling a promise to his deceased wife and that his younger children still had two parents to save up for them. However, he is now having doubts about his decision and is worried that his younger children might feel they are being treated unfairly. Read on for comments and reactions.
Fair contribution or unequal distribution? A debate on saving for kids.
Contributing equally to kids’ expenses, but is it fair?
Current wife competes with ghost of late wife for husband’s attention
Unequal money distribution causing tension between wives. YTA.
Father’s promise causing financial tension and marital conflict. YTA.
Unequal money distribution between children causes tension between wives
Unequal money distribution causes tension between father’s wives.
Father’s unequal treatment of children sparks tension between wives.
Dodging the question intensifies suspicion
Resentment brewing? In-laws or in-loves, money can be tricky
YTA for unequal money distribution causing tension between wives
Father’s unequal money distribution raises questions about fairness
Unfair money distribution causing tension between wives. YTA.
Important factors to consider when dividing finances and responsibilities
Contributing more to children from first marriage causes tension.
Father’s unequal money distribution causes marital tension. YTA.
Money can’t buy love, or fairness. YTA.
Unequal distribution causing resentment between children.
When honesty goes wrong…
Commenter suggests therapy for husband’s unresolved trauma over deceased wife.
Equal money distribution important for all children’s future.
Money distribution NTA, but YTA for causing tension with ex-wife.
Unequal money distribution causing resentment. YTA
Confusion over unequal money distribution between father and wives.
Straight to the point, YTA
Think about the kids’ future and their feelings
Commenter calls out unfair treatment of second wife by widowed husband
Equal treatment is crucial for a happy family. YTA
Stepmom left out of financial responsibility for stepchildren, awkward family.
Unequal distribution causing tension between wives, YTA according to commenter
Unequal distribution of funds causes tension between wives and children
Unequal money distribution causes tension between wives, ESH verdict.
Father’s unequal distribution of money causes tension between wives. YTA.
Unequal money distribution causes tension between wives – ESH.
Stepchildren and financial contributions causing tension between wives
Equal distribution for all children. YTA.
Deceased wife causing marital conflict
Commenter admits to being married to someone else, deemed YTA.
Father’s unequal money distribution causes tension between wives. Commenter calls him out for treating younger children as leftovers. YTA
Stepkids and unequal distribution causing tension between wives.
Unequal money distribution causes tension between wives. ESH.
OP’s unequal treatment of children causes resentment and tension.
Unfair money distribution causes tension between wives. YTA
Unequal money distribution causes family tension, YTA
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Commenter labels father as YTA without explanation.
Unequal money distribution causing tension and resentment among siblings
Commenter deems father the a**hole for unequal money distribution.
Commenter deems father the a**hole for unequal money distribution.
Unequal money distribution causing rift and tension in family.
Commenter calls out unequal money distribution, suggests equal contribution.
Simple solution, no money for anyone!
Unequal money distribution sparks debate over loyalty and fairness.
Short and sweet: Someone’s not getting the Father’s Day gift.
Fair distribution suggestion for father’s inheritance sparks thoughtful discussion ✅
Equal contributions to college funds to ease tensions between wives
Father’s unequal money distribution causes tension between wives. Commenter calls out favoritism.
Father’s unequal money distribution causes tension between wives. Commenter calls out favoritism.
Fair distribution of money causing tension in blended family
Father’s favoritism causes tension among wives. YTA gets called out.
Consider all factors and discuss with your wife for a fair solution
Man’s unequal treatment of wives causes tension and judgement (YTA)
