Exhausted Stay-at-Home Mom vs. Tired Working Dad: Who Should Handle Nighttime Baby Duties?

Picture this: A loving couple with a 5-month-old baby. The wife is a stay-at-home mom, while the husband works long hours to provide for the family. Sounds like a typical family, right? But what happens when the lines between work and home life start to blur, and the responsibilities become a point of contention? In this story, our working dad and stay-at-home mom find themselves at odds over who should be taking care of their baby during those sleepless nights.

The Stay-At-Home Mom Dilemma

Baby On Board

The Initial Plan

A Change of Heart ❤️

Setting Expectations ⚠️

Financial Compromise

Money Matters

Contributing to Expenses

Sleepless Nights

A Night Out with Friends

Noisy Return

Arguments and Responsibilities

The 24-Hour Job ⏰

Common Sense and Compromise

Anger and Frustration

Work-Life Balance ⚖️

Current Satisfaction

Active Parenting and Breaks

Time for Mom ‍♀️

24-Hour Responsibility ⏳

Stay-At-Home Mom vs. Working Dad: Who’s Responsible? ‍♂️

Our story begins with a couple who agreed that the wife would be a stay-at-home mom after giving birth. The husband works long hours, but they’ve reached a financial compromise to make it work. However, when their baby starts waking up frequently at night, the responsibilities become a point of conflict. The wife questions why the husband doesn’t always take care of the baby at night, especially after she’s been with him all day. The husband reminds her that being a stay-at-home mom is a 24-hour job, and he’s already working long hours to provide for the family. The argument escalates, with the wife becoming angrier and the husband suggesting she return to work if she’s unhappy with the arrangement. Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…

Advice for frustrated working dad from fellow SAHM: communicate & get rest

A commenter suggests deeper issues in the relationship than childcare.

Parenting is a team effort, no one is above responding. ‍ ‍

Former SAHM suggests communicating and seeking help to resolve issues

Stay-at-home dad says NTA, wife taking advantage. Stick to guns

Stay-at-home parenting is a 24/7 job, not just a shift.

Savage comment shuts down entitled parent with no responsibilities

Dad thinks mom should do most of the parenting

SAHM says wife needs to contribute more to partnership.

Being a SAHM is hard. Both parents should share childcare equally. N A H

“50/50 parenting is essential for a healthy relationship “

Stay-at-home mom deserves rest without guilt-tripping from working dad.

Partner or line manager? Red flag language in comment.

SAHM isn’t 24 hours, dads should help with nighttime duties

Stay-at-home mom criticized for following dad’s instructions.

Stay-at-home mom criticized for wanting to not work. NTA.

Partner or employee? Mom deserves a break too.

Collaboration is key to parenting and stay-at-home jobs.

Equal responsibility for childcare is crucial for a healthy family

SAHM defends herself, acknowledges difficulty but loves being a mother

Stay-at-home mom calls out dads who don’t help at night

The concept of ‘stay-at-home wife’ sparks debate in comments.

SAHM deserves uninterrupted sleep too! Split night duty fairly

Fairness in sharing nighttime baby duties between working dad and stay-at-home mom.

Communication is key in sharing nighttime baby duties. ‍

Stay-at-home moms are on duty 24/7. Give her a break.

NTA dad acknowledges sleep deprivation and shares parenting responsibilities.

User suggests couple hire help and consider therapy or divorce.

Parenting is a 24hr job for both. ESH, communicate better.

YTA. Condescending attitude towards wife, who handles majority of parenting.

SAHM warns working dad: No more maid service for you!

Working dad criticized for not helping enough at night

User calls out ‘creepy vibe’ in husband’s approach to parenting.

Grandparents’ advice can be helpful for exhausted new parents.

SAHM is not “on duty” 24/7; parenting & household work 50/50. ‍

Working dad expects stay-at-home mom to handle all baby duties. YTA.

Being a stay-at-home mom is a full-time job, with no pay

A stay-at-home mom’s job is 24/7, recognize it as such. ‍

Husband criticized for not wanting to financially support stay-at-home mom. YTA

Dad should share the load and support his SAHM partner. YTA

Dad expects SAHM to be an on-call servant 24/7 YTA

Parenting is more than a job with job description ‍

Relationship advice for exhausted stay-at-home mom and tired working dad

Stay-at-home mom is responsible for the home, not childcare. Dad should help with childcare too.

Stay-at-home parenting is harder than working, sharing duties is vital

SAHP is not for everyone, but having a child is responsibility

Communication is key for this transactional relationship to work

Judgmental dad gets called out for controlling behavior

ESH. Both need help but acknowledging each other’s labor is important.

Parenting responsibilities and empathy, a call for action

Mom vs Dad: Unequal parenting duties, selfish or lazy mom?

A blunt comment about a messy situation.

The hard truth about parenting and self-awareness ‍♀️

Working dad criticized for not doing enough at home.

Accusation of lazy wife sparks heated debate

SAHM vs Working Dad: Marriage trouble, confront or resentful resentment.

Stay-at-home dad acknowledges difficulty of 24/7 work, urges contribution from tired working dad

When teamwork fails, it’s not just about the baby

A comment defending the working dad and questioning the stay-at-home mom’s laziness.

A toxic dynamic between a controlling partner and child-like spouse.

Parenthood is a giant chapter and takes adjustment. No manual.

SAHM deserves a partner, not just a paycheck. YTA.

Sharing parenting and house duties 50-50 is fair

Is having a stay-at-home spouse a luxury or a necessity?

User calls out dad’s condescending tone, suggests more respectful approach

Parenting is a joint responsibility regardless of work schedules ‍

User doubts authenticity of subreddit’s stories.

Choosing parenthood without agreeing on lifestyle: red flags

Teamwork and breaks are key for exhausted parents

Lack of communication and teamwork causing issues. Therapy recommended. ‍ ‍

Challenging the notion of SAHM’s job being 24/7

Gender roles and parenting clash in fiery comment section

Being a parent is a 24/7 job. You both need breaks.

Married couple act like roommates with a baby. ESH ‍♀️

Father criticized for not helping with baby duties.

Surviving the first year: communication and scheduling is key.

Confusion over ‘stay-at-home wife’ sparks discussion in comments.