Picture this: You’ve stepped up as a parent figure for your niece after her mother passes away, and her deadbeat dad is nowhere to be found. You’ve promised to pay for her senior trip, but she wants to use that money to visit her dad instead. What would you do? Well, that’s exactly the dilemma our story’s hero faces today. Let’s dive into this emotional rollercoaster and see how it unfolds.
The Deadbeat Dad

No Support, No Visits

Counting the Visits on One Hand ✋

No Hospital Visits, No Funeral

Stepping Up as a Parent Figure

A Shocking Request

A Tough Decision

The Purpose of the Trip

Strings Attached?

Not Stopping the Meeting

Cough Up the Dough, Dad

Relationship Strain

Senior Trip or Deadbeat Dad Visit?
Our protagonist has been a parent figure for their niece, Sarah, after her mother passed away and her deadbeat dad, John, continued to be absent. They promised to pay for Sarah’s senior trip, but were shocked when she wanted to use the money to visit John instead. They told Sarah they wouldn’t fund the visit, but she could still meet her dad if she found another way. The trip fund was meant for fun and making memories, not for a meeting with a man who caused so much pain. Sarah is upset, feeling the gift has strings attached, but our hero stands firm. They believe if John really wanted to see her, he could pay for it himself. But now, their relationship with Sarah is strained, and they’re seeking opinions on their decision.
NTA refuses to fund deadbeat dad’s reunion with niece.

Generous offer met with ungratefulness for senior trip to Cancun

Debate over promise to pay for senior trip to Cancun. ️

Supportive comment defends funding niece’s Senior trip over Dad’s visit.

Suggests a solution for deadbeat dad and raises valid questions

Dad reappears for money, NTA niece’s trip in danger

Red flags raised over absentee father’s behavior towards daughter.

NTA. Promised nephews a trip if they graduated, not for dropping out.

Let her decide, don’t be an a** about it.

Father tries to hijack senior trip. Commenter is NTA.

Stick to the agreement, don’t let niece guilt trip you

NTA. The dad’s absence and lack of effort speaks volumes.

NTA defends decision to not fund Cancun trip, sparks no debate.

Gifts with a purpose shouldn’t have strings attached.

INFO on father-daughter relationship and motive for senior trip.

Niece wants to meet deadbeat dad, should OP go too?

Reasonable NTA stands firm, warns against damaging relationship w/ niece

NTA uncle reminds niece of senior trip agreement ️

Suggests meeting deadbeat dad with consequences for niece’s trip

Gifts with strings vs. intended purpose. NTA’s graduation gift dilemma.

Niece not obligated to use granted funds for dad’s wishes.

Supportive comment encourages graduation celebration without deadbeat dad’s help

Supportive comment defends niece’s senior trip over deadbeat dad.

No sympathy for deadbeat dad, niece’s trip in jeopardy ♂️

NTA suggests rescue plan if deadbeat dad’s visit goes bad

Promised money vs. promised item: who decides its usage?

Generous offer made, but entitled niece expects more from uncle.
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Graduation gift ≠ funding father-daughter reunion ❌

NTA stands her ground, gift has purpose like engagement ring

No sympathy for deadbeat dad, niece’s trip gets no funding

Generous gift or controlling behavior? Cancun trip in dispute.

Gift without strings attached, money is yours until given. NTA

NTA takes responsibility for family events, Deadbeat Dad criticized

Deadbeat dad won’t pay for daughter’s visit. NTA niece worried.

Generous gift-giving: Offer choices instead of deadbeat dad’s guilt.

Your money, your call. Niece can’t force you. NTA

Gifts with strings attached: NTA’s perspective on money and trust

Generous offer to niece’s trip, deadbeat dad complicates plans ♀️

Paying for senior trip is conditional, pay school directly. NTA

Compassionate reminder to consider the niece’s difficult situation

Niece wants to go on trip with deadbeat dad. Commenter refuses.

Father won’t pay, niece’s senior trip in jeopardy. NTA stands firm.

Don’t let him ruin her senior trip! Stay strong

Family secrets jeopardize senior trip? OP seeks advice

Deadbeat dad reappears, senior trip funds not for him. NTA

Encouraging compromise and communication for Sarah’s benefit

Offer to pay for half her fare and see if dad steps up

NTA suggests dad pay for trip or visit, not cause trauma

Deadbeat dad won’t pay a cent for niece’s senior trip. NTA.

Heartbreaking reunion with deadbeat dad, niece deserves better

Graduation trip in jeopardy! Niece asks for help, is she TA?

Bio dad missing, uncle blamed for senior trip expenses. NTA

Father’s absence revealed, niece’s trip saved by compassionate aunt. NTA

Supportive reply to NTA’s decision on funding niece’s trip.
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Engaging advice for communicating with niece about her dad.

Understanding niece’s desire to meet dad, suggest compromise for trip.

Senior trip gifted, not a blank check. NTA comment.

Niece’s father reappears, OP’s resentment could push her away.

NTA sets boundaries for niece’s senior trip funds.

Protective aunt denies funding deadbeat dad reunion. ♀️

Gifts can have strings attached, have an honest conversation ❤️

NTA for not paying for trip, but maybe niece needs closure

Generous uncle offers to fund trip, dad should step up.

Encouraging niece’s trip while navigating family reconciliation. NTA

Encouraging comment about exploring relationship with absentee dad.

Let your daughter make her own choice and trust her ✨
