Coworker Transitions FTM – But Colleague REFUSES to Use Pronouns!

Buckle up, folks! We’ve got a juicy workplace drama unfolding that’s sure to get your gears turning. Our protagonist finds themselves in a sticky situation after a coworker’s big gender reveal. ️‍⚧️ Navigating the pronoun minefield proves trickier than expected, leading to some awkward misgendering moments. In an attempt to avoid further faux pas, they resort to a name-only approach. Seems reasonable, right? ‍♂️ Well, not everyone agrees! Let’s dive into this tangled tale of workplace woes and see if you think our well-meaning main character is the a-hole here.

️‍⚧️ Coworker’s Big Reveal!

Acknowledging Courage in a Conservative Industry

Pronoun Problems: Harder Than Expected!

‍♀️ Misgendering Mishaps in Low-Effort Convos

Zipping My Lips to Avoid Testing Bob’s Patience

Bullseye! Using Bob’s Name Proves Easier

️ Stealth Mode: Avoiding Accidental Outings

️ Chatting with Colleague Janet About the News

‍♂️ Admitting My Pronoun Struggles to Janet

Janet’s Accusation: Disrespecting Bob’s Struggle?

Confusion: How is Using a Preferred Name Disrespectful?

Bad Timing: Bob’s Out of Office

Turning to Reddit for Judgment

Appreciating Advice and Opinions

Future Plans: Pronouns with a Stopgap

Pronoun Problems: Is Using a Coworker’s Name Disrespectful?

Our protagonist finds themselves in a pickle after a coworker’s gender transition. ️‍⚧️ Struggling to consistently use the correct pronouns, they opt for a name-only approach to avoid misgendering. But a colleague accuses them of disrespecting the coworker’s transition struggle by refusing to use gender-specific pronouns. Confused and seeking clarity, our main character turns to the internet for judgment. Let’s see what the online jury has to say about this workplace drama! Is using a preferred name really disrespectful, or is it a reasonable stopgap measure? The internet weighs in with their hot takes and sage advice, so grab your popcorn and let’s dive into the comments!

Trans person approves of OP’s respectful approach, calls out Janet’s behavior.

Using correct pronouns takes time, but effort shows you care

Practice using proper pronouns to make it natural.

Trans person explains importance of using correct pronouns at work

NTA comment shuts down colleague for refusing to use pronouns

Using correct pronouns is important, but it takes practice. NAH.

Respectful coworker vs. problematic colleague

Transitioning coworker shares experience of adjusting pronouns with colleagues.

Respecting pronouns isn’t hard, just ask Bob. NTA

Being respectful is crucial, but communication with Bob is key.

Supportive reply to NTA’s effort to respect coworker’s transition

Trying to accommodate Bob’s privacy, but using only first names could highlight him as different. Making mistakes is normal, but consider long term impact on Bob.

Trans man explains importance of using correct pronouns respectfully ✌

NTA for struggling with pronouns, but effort to change is important

Janet’s performative wokeness backfires. NTA for respecting Bob’s transition

Supportive reply to coworker trying to use correct pronouns for colleague ✌️

Supportive comment applauding respectful language towards trans coworker. ️‍

Making an effort to use correct pronouns is appreciated

Learn to use their pronouns or be perceived as unwilling.

Understanding response to NTA’s mistake, Janet is the AH

Respectful use of names is a basic human right

Changing behavior takes time and mistakes happen. NTA.

Trans man appreciates use of name over potentially outing pronouns

Respectful approach to pronouns in coworker’s transition.

Practice makes perfect! NTA for wanting to avoid misgendering.

Using someone’s correct pronouns is basic respect

Don’t be a busybody! Respect people’s pronouns. NTA.

Transphobic comment receives no support from replies.

Finding the right way to show respect to a transitioning coworker

Supportive comment about using correct pronouns for trans coworker.

Using someone’s name instead of pronouns can be respectful.

Using correct pronouns is not hard. NTA for respecting coworker.

Respectful trans colleague suggests easy solution to misgendering dilemma.

Respectful use of pronouns, good intentions, and respecting boundaries!

Using correct pronouns is important, YTA but lightly called out

Practice using correct pronouns and apologize if you slip up. ✍

Making an effort to use correct pronouns, NTA

Using preferred pronouns shows support and effort for trans colleagues. ✌

Colleague refuses to use pronouns and commenter defends it.

Playing it safe – NTA for using correct pronouns

Using someone’s chosen name is respectful, NTA for using it

NTA commenter defends respecting coworkers’ gender identity regardless of personal beliefs

NTA, but training yourself to use correct pronouns is important

Supporting a coworker’s transition is important, Janet should understand

Avoid gossiping and respect pronouns, not the a-hole here.

Determining YTA or NTA? Ask Bob, not the internet!

Trans man suggests easing pronoun transition with ‘they’ first.

Respecting pronoun choice is important. NTA for using name first.

Respectful coworker seeks advice on gender pronouns for transitioning colleague.

Respectful approach to using correct pronouns for transitioning coworker.

Using ‘they’ as default pronoun to avoid misgendering. Agreeing with NTA.

Respectful use of pronouns important in supporting trans identity.

Trans person values name over pronouns, NTA comment section agrees.

Respectful intentions, but colleague disagrees. NAH, not the A.

Supportive comment defends using correct pronouns. NTA.

Respect Bob’s wishes, not Janet’s. NTA

Respect Bob’s transition and practice using correct pronouns. NTA.

Using gender-neutral pronouns can help avoid misgendering.

Supportive comment about adjusting to coworker’s new pronouns.

Encouraging comment on unlearning gender-specific language habits.

Respectful name usage. Janet’s intentions good, approach not so much

Making an effort to respect pronouns is important

Supportive commenter defends use of correct pronouns, offers encouragement.

Gender-neutral pronouns make life easier. Good advice!

Respectful NTA comment offers advice for pronoun usage with compassion.

Respect Bob’s pronouns and use gender-neutral pronouns to avoid offense

Practice makes perfect! Keep trying to use correct pronouns

Encouraging response to NTA struggling with pronouns, with positive outlook

Retraining our brains takes time, but respecting others is crucial

Respectful approach to using correct pronouns, with helpful advice.

Respectful OP is NTA for struggling with pronouns, empathy shown

Respectful compromise for trans coworker’s pronoun usage

Respectful approach to using pronouns while maintaining privacy

Respectful use of name while retraining brain. Co-worker’s behavior unacceptable

Acknowledging pronouns, but finding a solution to not cause harm

Using someone’s name instead of pronouns? NTA shuts down colleague.

Respecting someone’s identity is important. NTA for trying.

Respecting preferred names is key, regardless of cultural differences.

Respecting preferred pronouns is important, NTA for doing so