Although so many marriages begin with a couple promising to honor and love each other forever, we can sometimes find that this isn’t exactly how life unfolds for them.
Indeed, some marriages don’t even last a year before they’re put to the test. And while it’s often understandable even to an outside observer as to what brought about this change of mind, other reasons for ending a marriage can almost seem petty out of context.
But just like with a joke that nobody else gets, sometimes you just had to be there. While one bride’s red flag didn’t sound so serious to her family, she wasn’t the only one who saw why it mattered.
The story was published in Slate magazine
On January 13, Slate magazine published a letter from a newlywed who wrote into their ‘Dear Prudence’ advice column. As the woman explained, it was never a big priority in her life to get married, but she’s always been open to the idea.
So she accepted her boyfriend’s proposal in 2020 and each partner took on half the responsibility for planning the wedding. And while she compromised with him on the unspecified things he wanted, she had only one hard-and-fast rule for him: Don’t rub cake in her face during the reception.
What the groom did was still unpleasant
Although the groom didn’t exactly do that, it might have actually been preferable to what he did do. In her words, “Instead, he grabbed me by the back of the head and shoved my head down into it. It was planned since the cake was DESTROYED, and he had a bunch of cupcakes as backup.”
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This led her to not only leave the ceremony, but inform him on the following day that their relationship was effectively over.
She is now hoping to be separated soon after
So while the couple was married shortly before Christmas, the bride is now hoping to get either an annulment or a divorce by the end of January.
All the while, just about everyone she knows has tried to get her to give her husband a second chance. They figure her claustrophobia after a car accident influenced her reaction and assured her that she loves him — despite her no longer feeling as though she does — and that he loves her.
They then urged her not to give up “at the first hurdle.” As she put it, “I don’t want to, but everyone is so united and confident in their assurance I am making a terrible mistake that I wonder if they are right.”
‘Prudence’ thought otherwise
In response, ‘Prudence’ said that the people telling her this aren’t the ones who have to spend each day with him. And if his behavior is already a major problem for her, that’s not going to be an attractive proposition.
They also added that along with being suspiciously aggressive, his actions were a clear red flag when it came to respect for the bride and her wishes.
Finally, ‘Prudence’ closed by saying, “Make a mental note about which of your loved ones don’t seem to value your happiness, and continue with your divorce.”
