Buckle up, folks! We’ve got a juicy tale of college besties, cultural clashes, and a whole lot of drama! Meet our protagonist, a proud Asian-American gal who’s just trying to navigate the wild world of college. But when her new BFF starts throwing shade at their shared heritage, things get messy real quick! Can our girl stand up for herself and her culture, or will this friendship end in tears? Let’s dive in and find out!
College Besties… or Not?

Friendship Blossoms with Fellow Asian Adoptee

Chinese by Blood, but… White at Heart?

Shocking Stereotypes: Dogs, Cats, and Screams!

Laughing Off the Awkwardness… For Now

‘Nasty’ and ‘Embarrassing’ Asian Food?

‘There’s a Difference Between Us’

Constant ‘Jokes’ Get Old and Performative

️ Time to Speak Up: ‘Stop the Insults!’

Calling Out Self-Hatred… and Getting Backlash

Friendship Flames Out Over Cultural Jabs!
Well, well, well… looks like this college friendship hit a major roadblock! Our girl tried to call out her bestie’s constant jabs at their shared Asian heritage, but it backfired big time. The adoptee accused her of being insensitive to her unique struggles, while our protagonist felt like she was just standing up for herself and her culture. Talk about a sticky situation! It’s clear there’s a lot of hurt feelings and misunderstandings on both sides. But the real question is… Let’s see what the internet has to say about this cultural clash!
Standing up against harmful stereotypes and comments is important.

NTA commenter calls out internalized racism and supports speaking up.

NTA. Adoptive parents should teach about culture. Good for challenging her.
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Standing up against racism. NTA shuts down toxic friend.

Navigating complex ethnic identity in adoption: boundaries and self-hate.

Empathetic NTA comment acknowledges struggles of exclusion and difference

NTA Korean adoptee blames parents for fellow adoptee’s ignorance.

Understanding the root of her negativity can help empathize.

Defending cultural heritage against a jealous, ignorant, and racist adoptee.

Identity crisis leads to hurtful comments. NTA sets her straight.

Supportive comment stands up against racism towards Asians.

Adopted woman’s self-deprecating behavior condemned by commenter. NTA.

Adopted woman shares her story of identity and advises OP to educate racist friend.

Friend needed a wake-up call about cultural insensitivity. NTA.

Overcoming internalized racism: a personal journey to self-acceptance.

Chinese adoptee reflects on unique struggles with identity and representation

Engaging in a hypocritical attitude towards Asian heritage. ♀️
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Positive representation helped me embrace my culture and identity

Adopted woman’s offensive behavior leads to isolation. NTA.

NTA suggests internalized racism, advises compassion and self-love.
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Fighting racism or encouraging it? NTA for calling it out.
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Explaining why NTA but warning against horrific dog festival

Shutting down racism: NTA stands up to self-hating adoptee.
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Asian adoptee’s racist comments cause emotional confrontation. NTA advice given.

Empathy for the hurt behind the hate

Adopted woman’s racial attack sparks concern for her upbringing. NTA.
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Controversial Comment Sparks Debate on Chinese Cuisine

Being shamed for embracing culture. Sad how ignorance divides us.

Adopted woman’s refusal to adapt to her culture sparks debate.

Asian adoptee shares experience with self-hatred and cultural alienation. NTA

Controversial comment sparks debate on Chinese cuisine and culture

Self-hating Asian woman sparks tearful fight with racist comments

Adopted woman’s superiority complex causes rift with Asian friend.

Racism and self-hate among adopted Asians discussed

Sarcastic comment gets no replies, but we feel their pain

Hilarious comparison to Dave Chapelle’s Clayton Bigsby character.

Adopted woman’s racist behavior mocked; rightfully called out

Confronting internalized racism in friendships is necessary.
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Contentious comment sparks debate on animal welfare and cultural practices.

Setting boundaries against internalized racism, NTA comment section.

Calling out racism, adoptee or not. NTA stands up.

Fellow Asian called out for racism in explosive confrontation

Identity crisis leads to heated argument in adoption controversy

Asian adoptee calls out discriminatory behavior towards another culture.

Adoptee shames own heritage, but OP stands up for culture. NTA

Growing up as an adopted Asian in a town with no other Asians was tough. It’s okay to educate her instead of putting her down.

Adopted woman’s cultural insensitivity called out, needs attitude adjustment.

NTA for distancing yourself from racist adoptee.

NTA shares their experience as a Chinese adoptee and suggest therapy.

NAH verdict and empathy towards racist upbringing sparks hope for growth
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Chinese adoptee suggests educating instead of shaming adoptive woman’s views

A sympathetic take on a troubled woman’s coping mechanism.
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Supportive comment encourages OP to be empathetic towards friend’s identity crisis

Supportive comment from Asian college grad against internalized racism

Confronting self-hate: NTA calls out fellow Asian’s behavior

Fellow Asian called out for racism in tearful fight

Fighting against garbage white supremacy! You go, NTA!

Fighting internalized racism: Commenter calls out racist behavior.

Proud of her heritage, but denigrating Chinese culture. NTA verdict.

Surprising NTA comment with a Dave Chapelle comparison.

Unlearning racist behavior is important, NTA comment shares experience

Comparing friend’s behavior to Anne with an E character. Therapy suggested.

Insightful comment on internalized racism and adoption.

Adoptee’s self-hatred sparks pity and condemnation towards racism

Adopted woman’s racist comments blamed on her upbringing. Sad situation

Adoptive family accused of microaggressions against non-white folks.
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Supportive comment offers insight into adoptee struggles and suggests reconciliation.

Rejecting racist comments no matter who they come from. NTA

Adopted woman stands up to internalized racism. NTA.
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Standing up against racist friend. You deserve better!

Asian adoptee defends culture against friend’s racist jokes. NTA

NTA. Standing up to racist insults is always necessary
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Standing up against racism: Commenter defends recipient of verbal abuse

Stand up for yourself and cut off toxic relationships. NTA

Asian adoptee’s discomfort around race leads to emotional confrontation. NTA.

Standing up for yourself is NTA. Friendships require respect

Stand up for yourself, but also be kind and offer support

Unlearning toxic behaviors is important. NTA for setting boundaries.
