A 24-year-old woman in NYC studying for her masters degree in social work has moved out of her 26-year-old boyfriend’s luxury $5k/month condo after he insisted she pay half the rent. Despite her boyfriend earning over $200k/year, she is currently doing an unpaid yearlong internship and has no income. She spends 12 hours a day working, studying, commuting, or in class and has no time for a paid job.
Her mother helps her financially with her MetroCard and healthcare expenses, but she relies on loans for everything else. Her boyfriend initially said he would pay the rent until she finished grad school, then they would split it based on income. However, after talking to his friends, he demanded she pays half and called her a ‘leech’.
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She found a cheaper place for $800/month in Queens, but some mutual friends think she’s being unreasonable for moving out instead of talking to him and staying by paying what she can afford.
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Woman moves out after rich boyfriend insists on rent payment
A woman studying social work and living with her boyfriend in a $5k/month luxury condo in NYC was asked to pay half the rent by her boyfriend after he consulted with his friends. She was unable to afford the amount and found a cheaper place, which caused her boyfriend to ask her to stay by accepting $800/month instead. However, the woman decided to move out, leading to mixed reactions from their mutual friends.
In this post , she explains her perspective and clarifies some misconceptions about living in NYC. Read on to find out what people on Reddit thought.
Woman stands up for herself and leaves manipulative boyfriend. NTA
NTA! Boyfriend’s friends call you gold digger, he enables it.
Boyfriend insists on rent, gets called out for being manipulated.
First flower in a red flag bouquet Enjoy the peace!
Boyfriend’s insecurity leads to financial demand and gossip with friends
Don’t let anyone make you feel indebted for being independent
Boyfriend tried to instill the sunk cost fallacy, but you’re smart.
Don’t fall for the gaslighting! You’re a smart woman
NTA. Boyfriend’s unreasonable demand raises red flags
Choosing financial independence over a toxic relationship
Reconsider this relationship
NTA. Boyfriend’s poor behavior and classist insult justify moving out.
Standing up for yourself and setting boundaries #NTA
Think twice before moving in with a partner for free
Woman’s boyfriend with $200k salary insisting on splitting rent – NTA
BF moved goalposts on OP, called names. NTA ♀️
Valid concerns, NTA for moving out. Money matters
Partner’s insecurity and inability to communicate led to relationship breakdown
Standing up for yourself and sticking to agreements
Boyfriend reneges on agreement, friends call her gold digger. NTA.
Independent and proud. Don’t let anyone call you a gold digger
“Get out while the getting is good”
Don’t let others’ opinions affect your worth. You’re NTA
Insensitive boyfriend expects girlfriend to pay huge rent, NTA leaves
Don’t be a**hole, leave him and find someone who respects you! ♀️
Boyfriend’s friends meddle in finances, NTA for leaving
Choosing peace and stability over a fancy but unstable home
Stand up for yourself! Reconsider the relationship
Boyfriend’s manipulative behavior exposed by astute commenter
Boyfriend’s friends criticize girlfriend for not paying rent despite his offer.
Stand up for yourself! You’re not the a**hole
Woman stands up to boyfriend’s gaslighting and financial abuse
Trust and stability are key. NTA.
Girlfriend leaves after boyfriend demands rent despite her situation. NTA.
Don’t let anyone control your finances ♀️
Boyfriend insists girlfriend pays rent, ignores their agreement. NTA.
Stand up for yourself and your finances . Take time to evaluate the relationship.
Girlfriend can’t pay rent, boyfriend demands: NTA for moving out
She agreed to pay rent, but is she really the leech?
Change the man: Woman leaves unreliable boyfriend over rent.
Woman stands up for herself against AH boyfriend and friends
Don’t let your mutual friends dictate your relationship decisions
Boyfriend’s friends ruin relationship by changing his mind on rent
Dump the idiot and his insensitive friends.
She’s better off without him.
You go girl! Stand up to abusive partners
Stick to your agreed terms, don’t let society dictate them.
How did they find $800/month apartment in Queens?
Smart move! Leave the negativity behind
Don’t let outsiders mess in your relationships. NTA
Taking a step back before moving out can be hard.
Don’t move back in without a written agreement
Stick to your agreement, he’s weak for letting his friends’ opinions affect him.
Commenter sympathizes with woman and calls out boyfriend’s weakness.
Choosing financial independence over a toxic relationship
Ex-boyfriend alert! Commenter supports OP’s move out decision.
Protect yourself with proof in case of legal dispute.
Supportive comment from username checks out, encouraging OP to stand up for herself and wishing her good luck with grad school.
Live your best life! ♀️
Don’t fall for his manipulations. Cut ties and move on ♀️
Time to say goodbye to that greedy boyfriend
Choose love, not money!
Stand up for yourself and move on
Boyfriend goes back on agreement to split rent, NTA for leaving.
Congratulations on finding a new place! Don’t trust him again.
Don’t be a gold digger! NTA and run ♀️
