Diply
  • Home
  • DIY
    Dad carrying child on his shoulders (Unsplash | Kelly Sikkema)

    Simple Cardboard Vase Activity Encourages Kids To Explore The Great Outdoors

    Grandma crocheting

    Forget Flowers And Gift The DIYer In Your Life A Yarn Bouquet Instead

    Remodelaholic | https://commons.wikimedia.org/wiki/File:30_Hudson_Yards_(92900).jpg

    You Can Make Your Own Backyard Oasis With A Fire Pit Just In Time For Summer

    Pool noodle DIY monsters

    28 Amazing DIYs That Are Seriously Made From Pool Noodles

    Unsplash | Kenrick Mills

    Stunning ‘Sea Glass’ Quilts Are A Beautiful Way To Use Up Fabric Scraps

    Unsplash

    Artist Creates Adorable Creatures Inspired By Tea

  • Home & Garden
    Person wearing blue gloves holding cleaning supplies

    Expert Shares Five-Minute Cleaning Chore That Could Save You Nearly $500 On Energy Bills This Winter

    Pamela Thompson with dinosaur tree

    Retired Couple Grow ‘Money Tree’ In Backyard With Seeds Worth Over $6,000

    Pink flowers bush

    Garden Expert Shares Simple Hack For Keeping Your Flowers Vibrant For Longer

    joes-garden-on-tiktok-for-gardening-tips

    You’re Probably Watering Your Plants Wrong—Expert Explains The ONE Reason Your Plants Die Fast

    Home Depot | www.homedepot.com

    People Are Writing Hilarious Reviews For Home Depot’s $1500 Crab Sculpture

    Unsplash | Robin Wersich

    Woman Shares Hack To Help Keep Our Gardens Green All Summer

    Unsplash | Sandie Clarke

    18 Gardening Tips And Tricks Perfect For Beginners

    Unsplash | Annie Gray

    People Who Have Been On Home Makeover Shows Share How It’s Going Now

    Unsplash | Emiliano Bar

    TikToker Shows How Little $4,000 Rent Gets Apartment Hunters In NYC

  • Food & Drink
    Coca-Cola refill machine

    Coca-Cola Free Refills Are Now Banned In This One Country As It Introduces Law Limiting Sugar Consumption

    Ripe avocado open in half

    Woman Shares Unusual Hack to Ripen Avocados ‘Overnight’ – Says It ‘Always Works’

    Hershey chocolate bar

    Hershey’s Chocolate Prices to Hit Double Digits – And The Reason Is Not What You Think

    Donald Trump / Coca-Cola bottles

    Trump Says He’s Working On Changing This Ingredient In Coca-Cola and The Beverage Company Responds

    Haribo Happy Cola Original packet

    Haribo Recalls Gummies After Product Batch Was Found to Contain Cannabis

    Unsplash | Aubrey Odom-Mabey

    Woman Sets Out To Try All The Recipes Left On Grave Markers

    Reader's Digest | Paramount

    Cooking Mistakes We’re Probably All Making

    youtube | Warner Home Video

    Firefighters Rescue Two People Who Fell Into A Chocolate Tank At A Mars Factory

    Unsplash | Towfiqu barbhuiya

    Here Is The Perfect Peanut Butter And Pickle Sandwich Recipe

  • Cooking & Recipes
    Unsplash | Aubrey Odom-Mabey

    Woman Sets Out To Try All The Recipes Left On Grave Markers

    Reader's Digest | Paramount

    Cooking Mistakes We’re Probably All Making

    Unsplash | Towfiqu barbhuiya

    Here Is The Perfect Peanut Butter And Pickle Sandwich Recipe

    TikTok | @thewirelady

    Here’s The Perfect Hack For You To Make Chocolate Croissants With An Air Fryer

    Unsplash | Katie Smith

    People Are Dishing Out Their Favorite Lazy Cooking Cheats, So We’re Taking Notes

    Unsplash | CA Creative

    People Are Sharing The Worst Homemade Meals They’ve Ever Had

    NBC | NBC

    Random (But Useful) Kitchen Hacks Everyone Should Know

    Unsplash | Conscious Design

    Hilarious Cooking Mistakes That Took A Bad Turn

    Unsplash | Louis Hansel

    Chefs Share The Ingredients People Often Overlook

  • Bed & Bath
    Unsplash | Grant Beirute

    Costco Has A 10-Foot Blanket That Has Cozy Family Time Written All Over It

    Unsplash | Jude Infantini

    Expert Says Not Washing Pillows Often Enough Can Make People Sick

    Pexels  | Pexels

    18 People Who Took Bathroom Decor To The Extreme

    Unsplash | Jeremy Sallee

    Chances Are Most Of Us Have Been Washing Our Duvets Wrong

    Unsplash | LeeAnn Cline

    Wife Sparks Debate After She Says There’s No Need To Iron Bedsheets

    Unsplash | Nathan Powers

    Apparently, Vodka Is The Secret Ingredient To A Spotless Bathroom

  • Pets & Animals
    Screengrab from video of man posing with sea turtle

    Man Sparks Outrage After Picking Up And Posing With Sea Turtle In Viral Video

    Elephant

    8-Year-Old Falls Into Elephant Herd to Her Death As Family Attempted to Flee Home

    Humpback whale stuck in shark net

    Young Whale Was Found Dead At Australian Beach After Getting Entangled In Shark Net

    Butterfly standing on flower

    Experts Reveal The Surprising Reason Butterflies Are Losing Their Vibrant Colors

    Dog starts house fire from chewing on battery

    Dog Starts House Fire After Chewing On A Battery On Living Room Carpet

    Squirrel

    Officials Issue Urgent Warning After ‘Attack Squirrel’ Sends Multiple People to The ER

    Shetland ponies

    Farmer Claims Giant Eagles Are Stealing His Ponies And Have Already Taken Five

    Dog by the beach

    Wife Shares One Reason She Wants Her Husband to Get Rid of His New ‘Perfect’ Puppy

    Brown bear

    Woman Critically Injured After Bear Dragged Her ‘Approximately 100 Yards’ Outside Her Home

No Result
View All Result
Diply
  • Home
  • DIY
    Dad carrying child on his shoulders (Unsplash | Kelly Sikkema)

    Simple Cardboard Vase Activity Encourages Kids To Explore The Great Outdoors

    Grandma crocheting

    Forget Flowers And Gift The DIYer In Your Life A Yarn Bouquet Instead

    Remodelaholic | https://commons.wikimedia.org/wiki/File:30_Hudson_Yards_(92900).jpg

    You Can Make Your Own Backyard Oasis With A Fire Pit Just In Time For Summer

    Pool noodle DIY monsters

    28 Amazing DIYs That Are Seriously Made From Pool Noodles

    Unsplash | Kenrick Mills

    Stunning ‘Sea Glass’ Quilts Are A Beautiful Way To Use Up Fabric Scraps

    Unsplash

    Artist Creates Adorable Creatures Inspired By Tea

  • Home & Garden
    Person wearing blue gloves holding cleaning supplies

    Expert Shares Five-Minute Cleaning Chore That Could Save You Nearly $500 On Energy Bills This Winter

    Pamela Thompson with dinosaur tree

    Retired Couple Grow ‘Money Tree’ In Backyard With Seeds Worth Over $6,000

    Pink flowers bush

    Garden Expert Shares Simple Hack For Keeping Your Flowers Vibrant For Longer

    joes-garden-on-tiktok-for-gardening-tips

    You’re Probably Watering Your Plants Wrong—Expert Explains The ONE Reason Your Plants Die Fast

    Home Depot | www.homedepot.com

    People Are Writing Hilarious Reviews For Home Depot’s $1500 Crab Sculpture

    Unsplash | Robin Wersich

    Woman Shares Hack To Help Keep Our Gardens Green All Summer

    Unsplash | Sandie Clarke

    18 Gardening Tips And Tricks Perfect For Beginners

    Unsplash | Annie Gray

    People Who Have Been On Home Makeover Shows Share How It’s Going Now

    Unsplash | Emiliano Bar

    TikToker Shows How Little $4,000 Rent Gets Apartment Hunters In NYC

  • Food & Drink
    Coca-Cola refill machine

    Coca-Cola Free Refills Are Now Banned In This One Country As It Introduces Law Limiting Sugar Consumption

    Ripe avocado open in half

    Woman Shares Unusual Hack to Ripen Avocados ‘Overnight’ – Says It ‘Always Works’

    Hershey chocolate bar

    Hershey’s Chocolate Prices to Hit Double Digits – And The Reason Is Not What You Think

    Donald Trump / Coca-Cola bottles

    Trump Says He’s Working On Changing This Ingredient In Coca-Cola and The Beverage Company Responds

    Haribo Happy Cola Original packet

    Haribo Recalls Gummies After Product Batch Was Found to Contain Cannabis

    Unsplash | Aubrey Odom-Mabey

    Woman Sets Out To Try All The Recipes Left On Grave Markers

    Reader's Digest | Paramount

    Cooking Mistakes We’re Probably All Making

    youtube | Warner Home Video

    Firefighters Rescue Two People Who Fell Into A Chocolate Tank At A Mars Factory

    Unsplash | Towfiqu barbhuiya

    Here Is The Perfect Peanut Butter And Pickle Sandwich Recipe

  • Cooking & Recipes
    Unsplash | Aubrey Odom-Mabey

    Woman Sets Out To Try All The Recipes Left On Grave Markers

    Reader's Digest | Paramount

    Cooking Mistakes We’re Probably All Making

    Unsplash | Towfiqu barbhuiya

    Here Is The Perfect Peanut Butter And Pickle Sandwich Recipe

    TikTok | @thewirelady

    Here’s The Perfect Hack For You To Make Chocolate Croissants With An Air Fryer

    Unsplash | Katie Smith

    People Are Dishing Out Their Favorite Lazy Cooking Cheats, So We’re Taking Notes

    Unsplash | CA Creative

    People Are Sharing The Worst Homemade Meals They’ve Ever Had

    NBC | NBC

    Random (But Useful) Kitchen Hacks Everyone Should Know

    Unsplash | Conscious Design

    Hilarious Cooking Mistakes That Took A Bad Turn

    Unsplash | Louis Hansel

    Chefs Share The Ingredients People Often Overlook

  • Bed & Bath
    Unsplash | Grant Beirute

    Costco Has A 10-Foot Blanket That Has Cozy Family Time Written All Over It

    Unsplash | Jude Infantini

    Expert Says Not Washing Pillows Often Enough Can Make People Sick

    Pexels  | Pexels

    18 People Who Took Bathroom Decor To The Extreme

    Unsplash | Jeremy Sallee

    Chances Are Most Of Us Have Been Washing Our Duvets Wrong

    Unsplash | LeeAnn Cline

    Wife Sparks Debate After She Says There’s No Need To Iron Bedsheets

    Unsplash | Nathan Powers

    Apparently, Vodka Is The Secret Ingredient To A Spotless Bathroom

  • Pets & Animals
    Screengrab from video of man posing with sea turtle

    Man Sparks Outrage After Picking Up And Posing With Sea Turtle In Viral Video

    Elephant

    8-Year-Old Falls Into Elephant Herd to Her Death As Family Attempted to Flee Home

    Humpback whale stuck in shark net

    Young Whale Was Found Dead At Australian Beach After Getting Entangled In Shark Net

    Butterfly standing on flower

    Experts Reveal The Surprising Reason Butterflies Are Losing Their Vibrant Colors

    Dog starts house fire from chewing on battery

    Dog Starts House Fire After Chewing On A Battery On Living Room Carpet

    Squirrel

    Officials Issue Urgent Warning After ‘Attack Squirrel’ Sends Multiple People to The ER

    Shetland ponies

    Farmer Claims Giant Eagles Are Stealing His Ponies And Have Already Taken Five

    Dog by the beach

    Wife Shares One Reason She Wants Her Husband to Get Rid of His New ‘Perfect’ Puppy

    Brown bear

    Woman Critically Injured After Bear Dragged Her ‘Approximately 100 Yards’ Outside Her Home

No Result
View All Result
Diply
No Result
View All Result

Bride-to-Be Slams Future Sister-in-Law’s Family for Not Funding Her Wedding

by Diply Social Team
3 years ago
in Family
Reading Time: 11 mins read
A A
Diply | Diply

Diply | Diply

Share on FacebookShare on TwitterPin This Post

Weddings are supposed to be a time of love and celebration, but for one family, it’s turning into a battleground. Our anonymous storyteller is getting married next May, and her brother and his fiancée, Claire, are getting married that August. Their parents generously offered to pay for both weddings, but with a catch: they want some say in the planning. While our storyteller accepted the offer, Claire wasn’t on board, leading to a series of dramatic confrontations.

Generous Parents, Different Approaches

Image credit: [deleted] | [deleted]
[deleted] | [deleted]

Claire’s Independence

Image credit: [deleted] | [deleted]
[deleted] | [deleted]

Frustration and Obsession

Image credit: [deleted] | [deleted]
[deleted] | [deleted]

Claire’s Rant ️

Image credit: [deleted] | [deleted]
[deleted] | [deleted]

Explosive Reactions

Image credit: [deleted] | [deleted]
[deleted] | [deleted]

Mom’s Threats and Boundaries

Image credit: [deleted] | [deleted]
[deleted] | [deleted]

Claire’s Accusations

Image credit: [deleted] | [deleted]
[deleted] | [deleted]

Wedding Budget Wars: Who’s Right?

Caught between her family’s traditions and Claire’s demands, our storyteller is left questioning her role in the escalating drama. Claire feels unsupported and accuses her future sister-in-law of being selfish, while the rest of the family struggles to navigate the emotional minefield. Will this family find a way to mend fences before the big day, or will the wedding bells toll for disaster? Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…

RELATED STORIES

Father and son

Dad Notices His Sister Acts ‘Weird’ Towards His 9-Year-Old Son Then She Stepped ‘Way Out of Line’

Family dinner

Mom Refuses to Change Family Dinner Time to Accommodate Husband Who Wants A ‘Fresh’ Meal

Mom holding baby

Mom Refuses to Let Husband’s Family Stay For Christmas One Month After First Baby Is Born

Man and woman arguing

Man Makes Shocking Request of Daughter After He Started Dating Her Former High School Teacher

Engaging discussion on wedding funding and family dynamics.

Image credit: mm172 | mm172
mm172 | mm172

Bride-to-be demands money, insults family, and claims ‘independence’ – NTA

Image credit: Alarmed_Handle_6427 | Alarmed_Handle_6427
Alarmed_Handle_6427 | Alarmed_Handle_6427

Bride-to-be sets reasonable limits on wedding funding, sister-in-law complains. NTA.

Image credit: QuestionableSureness | QuestionableSureness
QuestionableSureness | QuestionableSureness

Cultural differences cause tension over wedding funds

Image credit: BodaciousBonnie | BodaciousBonnie
BodaciousBonnie | BodaciousBonnie

Commenter defends family generosity and predicts rocky marriage ahead.

Image credit: majesticjewnicorn | majesticjewnicorn
majesticjewnicorn | majesticjewnicorn

NTA for setting boundaries and not getting involved in wedding drama

Image credit: WaDaEp | WaDaEp
WaDaEp | WaDaEp

Cultural differences in wedding planning and family involvement discussed.

Image credit: ClogsAndFrogs | ClogsAndFrogs
ClogsAndFrogs | ClogsAndFrogs

Bride-to-be stands up for herself against pushy in-laws

Image credit: ArtFreek | ArtFreek
ArtFreek | ArtFreek

Commenter calls out entitled bride-to-be for bad behavior

Image credit: dominiqlane | dominiqlane
dominiqlane | dominiqlane

Commenter questions bride-to-be’s desire for independence while seeking funding.

Image credit: bookworm2192 | bookworm2192
bookworm2192 | bookworm2192

Avoiding family drama: NTA comment suggests distancing from troublemaker.

Image credit: IBOB617 | IBOB617
IBOB617 | IBOB617

Defending family values and predicting drama ahead

Image credit: Mikeyyy_mikeee | Mikeyyy_mikeee
Mikeyyy_mikeee | Mikeyyy_mikeee

Setting boundaries with entitled SIL. NTA for not funding wedding

Image credit: Organic_Extension750 | Organic_Extension750
Organic_Extension750 | Organic_Extension750

Cuban commenter defends family culture, advises acceptance or departure.

Image credit: sammaboo | sammaboo
sammaboo | sammaboo

Supportive comment defends family’s decision, calls out rude behavior.

Image credit: runedued | runedued
runedued | runedued

Sister-in-law called entitled, but she’s the one acting entitled

Image credit: spaceygracie12 | spaceygracie12
spaceygracie12 | spaceygracie12

Stay out of it and let your brother handle it

Image credit: MooCow321 | MooCow321
MooCow321 | MooCow321

Parent shares experience of turning down money with strings attached.

Image credit: Metasequioa | Metasequioa
Metasequioa | Metasequioa

Setting boundaries with a future sister-in-law over wedding funding

Image credit: highwoodshady | highwoodshady
highwoodshady | highwoodshady

Supportive comment calls out entitled behavior of bride-to-be.

Image credit: Beautiful_mistakes | Beautiful_mistakes
Beautiful_mistakes | Beautiful_mistakes

Bride-to-be discusses conditions for funding her wedding

Image credit: PinkestMango | PinkestMango
PinkestMango | PinkestMango

Confused bride-to-be refuses money, then gets mad for not getting it?

Image credit: BerjessNissar | BerjessNissar
BerjessNissar | BerjessNissar

Bride-to-be’s entitlement causes family feud over wedding funds

Image credit: hammocks_ | hammocks_
hammocks_ | hammocks_

Engaging response to toxic behavior in wedding drama

Image credit: cara180455 | cara180455
cara180455 | cara180455

Bride-to-be’s future sister-in-law’s family won’t fund her wedding , but this Hispanic woman had to forego her wedding reception due to in-laws’ demands. NTA.

Image credit: aubor | aubor
aubor | aubor

Culture clash causes tension as bride-to-be clashes with future in-laws

Image credit: Warriormuffinhed | Warriormuffinhed
Warriormuffinhed | Warriormuffinhed

Cultural differences cause conflict as bride-to-be slams future SIL’s family. NTA.

Image credit: Ellamation | Ellamation
Ellamation | Ellamation

Commenter defends bride-to-be, calls her entitled and criticizes her behavior.

Image credit: SnooPeppers1641 | SnooPeppers1641
SnooPeppers1641 | SnooPeppers1641

Bridezilla criticized in-laws for not funding wedding, commenter says NTA.

Image credit: [deleted] | [deleted]
[deleted] | [deleted]

Supportive comment advises against validating bridezilla’s behavior

Image credit: [deleted] | [deleted]
[deleted] | [deleted]

Cultural differences aside, future SIL comes off as entitled

Image credit: 2damsels1chalice | 2damsels1chalice
2damsels1chalice | 2damsels1chalice

Family drama alert! Bride-to-be calls out SIL for wedding funding.

Image credit: Phy44 | Phy44
Phy44 | Phy44

Supporting the bride-to-be’s frustration without taking sides

Image credit: worldwinds22 | worldwinds22
worldwinds22 | worldwinds22

Sister-in-law’s entitlement causes family tension. NTA for standing up.

Image credit: scrapqueen | scrapqueen
scrapqueen | scrapqueen

NTA calls out Claire’s entitlement and childish behavior.

Image credit: Gochukaru | Gochukaru
Gochukaru | Gochukaru

SIL wants nothing to do with family except for money ‍♀️

Image credit: carals | carals
carals | carals

Defending family and shutting down insults like a boss

Image credit: arahzel | arahzel
arahzel | arahzel

Culturally different values lead to entitled bride-to-be demanding wedding funds

Image credit: Last_firstname | Last_firstname
Last_firstname | Last_firstname

Setting boundaries with in-laws and funding your own wedding

Image credit: finnegarjames21 | finnegarjames21
finnegarjames21 | finnegarjames21

Bride-to-be stands up to entitled sister-in-law over wedding funding

Image credit: mfruitfly | mfruitfly
mfruitfly | mfruitfly

Money comes with conditions, if you don’t like it, decline

Image credit: jax171 | jax171
jax171 | jax171

Bridezilla expects sister-in-law to fund her wedding. NTA calls out entitlement.

Image credit: throwRA1a2b3c4d1 | throwRA1a2b3c4d1
throwRA1a2b3c4d1 | throwRA1a2b3c4d1

Setting boundaries is key. NTA for standing up for yourself.

Image credit: sebbohnivlac | sebbohnivlac
sebbohnivlac | sebbohnivlac

A heartwarming story of unconditional love and building trust ❤️

Image credit: ParentingTATA | ParentingTATA
ParentingTATA | ParentingTATA

Supportive comment acknowledges cultural differences and family dynamics.

Image credit: ZeroNoHikari | ZeroNoHikari
ZeroNoHikari | ZeroNoHikari

Supportive comment defends family’s decision not to fund wedding.

Image credit: Natybunny | Natybunny
Natybunny | Natybunny

SIL’s badmouthing backfires as bride-to-be stands up for herself. NTA

Image credit: BadReynolds | BadReynolds
BadReynolds | BadReynolds

Navigating intercultural marriage and family values. NTA.

Image credit: Good-Groundbreaking | Good-Groundbreaking
Good-Groundbreaking | Good-Groundbreaking

Choosing between family and money – navigating a tricky situation

Image credit: SayerSong | SayerSong
SayerSong | SayerSong

Wedding entitlement called out with sarcasm and empowerment

Image credit: Double_Reindeer_6884 | Double_Reindeer_6884
Double_Reindeer_6884 | Double_Reindeer_6884

NTA shuts down entitled bridezilla and her demands for money

Image credit: oldcreaker | oldcreaker
oldcreaker | oldcreaker

Commenter sarcastically defends bride-to-be, calls her out for hypocrisy.

Image credit: FantasticElastic7 | FantasticElastic7
FantasticElastic7 | FantasticElastic7

Navigating cultural differences can cause family misunderstandings. Hope for resolution.

Image credit: [deleted] | [deleted]
[deleted] | [deleted]

NTA shuts down entitled bride-to-be for insulting family and culture

Image credit: Jazzyfizzles18 | Jazzyfizzles18
Jazzyfizzles18 | Jazzyfizzles18

Bride-to-be criticized for expecting in-laws to fund wedding

Image credit: TerribleTwinTeddy | TerribleTwinTeddy
TerribleTwinTeddy | TerribleTwinTeddy

Wedding drama: Bride-to-be wants control but not the bill

Image credit: Fun_Macaroon9841 | Fun_Macaroon9841
Fun_Macaroon9841 | Fun_Macaroon9841

Bridezilla demands money, insults parents, gets called out.

Image credit: CODE_NAME_DUCKY | CODE_NAME_DUCKY
CODE_NAME_DUCKY | CODE_NAME_DUCKY

Skeptical commenter predicts short-lived marriage. NTA.

Image credit: [deleted] | [deleted]
[deleted] | [deleted]

Respect cultural differences and be independent in wedding planning.

Image credit: cdp657 | cdp657
cdp657 | cdp657

Cultural differences in family dynamics cause wedding funding conflict

Image credit: bambamkablam | bambamkablam
bambamkablam | bambamkablam

Envious commenter wishes for a big family like Claire’s.

Image credit: sageberrytree | sageberrytree
sageberrytree | sageberrytree

Navigating family dynamics in relationships – a cautionary tale ⚠️

Image credit: canbritam | canbritam
canbritam | canbritam

Heartfelt comment about regretting pushing away a controlling mother.

Image credit: life1122 | life1122
life1122 | life1122

Sibling’s chill attitude pushed to the brink by bridezilla behavior.

Image credit: originalgenghismom | originalgenghismom
originalgenghismom | originalgenghismom
Tags: Family

What's Popular

Unsplash
DIY Projects

It’s Time To Stop Haggling With Makers Over The Prices Of Their Handmade Creations

Hacks

Upcycling Hacks That Made Us Want To Raid The Closest Thrift Store

Pool noodle DIY monsters
DIY Projects

28 Amazing DIYs That Are Seriously Made From Pool Noodles

Instagram | @cemetery_cat
DIY Projects

A DIY ‘Cemetarium’ Puts A Spooky Halloween Twist On The Tiny Indoor Gardens

  • About Us
  • Editorial Guidelines
  • Privacy Policy
  • Terms of Service
  • DMCA

Discover creativity and comfort with Diply—your go-to lifestyle hub for DIYs, beauty tips, recipes, home inspiration and more! © 2024 Diply

No Result
View All Result
  • Home
  • DIY
  • Home & Garden
  • Food & Drink
  • Cooking & Recipes
  • Bed & Bath
  • Pets & Animals

Discover creativity and comfort with Diply—your go-to lifestyle hub for DIYs, beauty tips, recipes, home inspiration and more! © 2024 Diply

WordPress database error: [Table 'diply_co1_Zqte.wp_clarity_collect_events' doesn't exist]
SHOW FULL COLUMNS FROM `wp_clarity_collect_events`