A marriage is a partnership, but there still needs to be boundaries and expectations between partners. At the end of the day, making sure you communicate with your spouse is probably the best way to maintain a healthy relationship.
But one Reddit user got into a fight with his wife over a lunch that she refused to make, despite the fact that he had overslept for work and didn’t have the time to make it for himself. Wondering if he’d done something wrong, the user went to the Am I The Asshole Subreddit to hear what the rest of the internet had to say about it.
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The User, Going by the Name Helpwithlunch, Shared the Entire Story
He Also Posted an Update With Answers to Commenter Questions
The Long and Short of It Is: The Husband Slept Through His Alarm and Asked for Help
But his wife doesn’t like packing lunches as she believes it makes her seem like a servant and saw her mom do it for her dad with little gratitude. They fought because the husband noticed that she was doing nothing but refused to help him. He finally gave up and went to work, resorting to a vending machine for lunch.
When he got home, they fought again, and the husband is now wondering which one of them was in the wrong.
But the Answer to That, As the Commenters Show, Is Not Quite So Black and White
Many users had conflicting opinions, with some siding with the husband and others siding with the wife. For many, it seemed like the husband wasn’t wrong for asking his wife for a little help, as this was just a one-time kind of thing. After all, she didn’t seem to be doing very much at the time and could’ve easily helped out.
There Were Quite a Few Who Took Issue With the Way OP Went About Asking His Wife
In his story, OP recalled telling his wife that he “needed” her to make a lunch for him but never actually asked . He doesn’t even say please until she refuses. Plenty of users took issue with this because it seemed he was simply expecting her to help rather than being grateful for any help she could give him.
Of course, we only know what OP’s written down. He could’ve asked nicer when it actually happened and is just paraphrasing himself now. Or, he could be recounting what he said word-for-word.
But Many Others Saw Fault in Both Spouses, Pointing Out the Husband’s Lack of Understanding When It Comes to the Wife’s Boundaries
While it’s true that the wife could’ve at least helped her husband out a little, it’s also true that the husband acted somewhat insensitive toward his wife. As many users pointed out, OP mentions his wife’s boundaries and doesn’t really seem to give them much mind.
At the end of the day, though, this doesn’t quite seem like the kind of thing a married couple needs to worry too much about in the future.
h/t BoredPanda
