Meet our protagonist, a loving 58-year-old grandma who, along with her husband, has been providing full-time childcare for her daughter’s two kids. But when her daughter casually mentions trying for baby #3, grandma’s world is turned upside down. She begs her daughter to reconsider, not wanting to start all over again with an infant. But is she crossing a line? Let’s dive into this dramatic tale and find out!
The Childcare Agreement

Sacrifices Made

Retirement and Childcare

Feeling Taken Advantage Of

Lockdown Expectations

Compromise and Complaints

Kindergarten Blowup ️

Pushing for Preschool

Vacation Denied

The Baby Bombshell

Assumptions and Arguments

Begging for Reconsideration

Dreams vs. Stability

The Aftermath ️

Edit: Current Arrangements

Caught in the Crossfire: Dreams vs. Reality
So, here’s the deal: our loving grandma never agreed to a lifetime of raising her daughter’s kids, and she’s feeling the strain. With her daughter casually dropping the baby #3 bombshell, she’s forced to draw a line in the sand. She begs her daughter to reconsider, arguing that they’re already financially stable with two beautiful children. But is she crossing a line by asking her daughter to choose between her dreams and reality? Let’s see what the internet thinks of this emotionally-charged situation…
NTA. Red flags ignored as parents take advantage of free childcare.

NTA grandma needs to set clear boundaries with daughter and SIL

NTA! Refuse to be taken advantage of as a free nanny

Daughter assumes grandma is free babysitter, calls it none of her business

Sibling expects free childcare, stand firm and enjoy retirement!

Grandma deserves rest and boundaries from daughter’s childcare expectations.

NTA babysitting entitled daughter’s kids. Time for personal sacrifices.

Set boundaries clearly to avoid future childcare responsibilities.

Setting boundaries with entitled grandma

Grandma’s retirement time is hers, not her entitled daughter’s.

Grandma sets boundaries with entitled daughter about raising grandkids.

Don’t be an unpaid nanny for your entitled grandma

Grandma’s had enough of being the daycare. #NTA

Grandparent boundaries respected, NTA. Don’t be taken advantage of.

Grandma not TA for refusing childcare for daughter’s third child

Grandma deserves a break! NTA. Time for some bucket list trips

NTA, politely suggest they finance their own childcare and enjoy retirement
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Support for not funding other people’s financial problems.

Enforce your boundaries, don’t let them play hardball.

Taking care of a third child without consent? Not cool.

Commenter sympathizes with OP and predicts possible consequences.

NTA retires early to help daughter, gets ungrateful response

Grandma deserves a break! NTA for setting boundaries.

Grandma deserves a peaceful retirement, not more childcare responsibilities.

Providing free childcare for years, taken advantage of or appreciated?

Responsibility lies with parents, not grandparents or in-laws.

NTA commenter suggests a vacation for exhausted grandparents

NTA. Free childcare? Insane! Grandma’s plea is justified.

Set boundaries and give a deadline for their child care.

Stop begging and put your foot down. ‘No’ is a complete sentence.

Setting boundaries with entitled grandparents.

Navigating grandparenting with multiple sets of grandchildren.

Stand your ground and say no to being a full-time caregiver.

Setting boundaries for child care is reasonable, NTA.

Parental sacrifice isn’t a supporting role in your epic saga

NTA stands up to entitled grandma using them for childcare.
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Commenter celebrates someone being financially responsible with a beer emoji

Setting boundaries with family is important.

NTA stands firm on daughter’s baby dependence. Retirement is earned

Grandma wants more kids, but not the responsibility. NTA.

Retirement is for relaxing, not raising grandkids.

Grandma deserves to enjoy her retirement. Don’t be inconsiderate.
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Set boundaries for new baby care without being TA.

Grandma being taken advantage of by daughter. NTA.

Commenter argues against grandma’s entitlement, receives rebuttal.
