Imagine being a single mom, working hard to provide a college fund for your daughter, only to have her want to use it for something else. That’s the situation one woman found herself in when her 18-year-old daughter became pregnant and decided to use her college fund to support her future baby. The mom had been saving for her daughter’s education since her husband passed away, and now she’s faced with a moral dilemma. Let’s dive into this emotional rollercoaster of a story.
The Struggle to Save

A College Fund Promise

The Big Reveal

Overhearing the Truth ️♀️

The Birth Control Lie

Mom Puts Her Foot Down

Daughter’s Breakdown

Harsh Words Exchanged

Family Weighs In ️

Mom Stays Firm

Edit: Reflection and Gratitude

The College Fund Dilemma: Who’s Right?
This mom is caught in a whirlwind of emotions and moral dilemmas after her daughter became pregnant and wanted to use her college fund for the baby’s expenses. The daughter stopped taking birth control without telling her mom, and now the family is divided on whether the mom should support her grandchild or stick to her guns about the college fund. Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…
NTA. Setting up a trust fund for the grandchild

NTA. Refusing to fund daughter’s planned teen pregnancy.

Mom won’t use college fund for grandchild. NTA, but stuck.

Commenter suggests education is better than a lump sum.
![Image credit: [deleted] | [deleted]](https://static.diply.com/d891e9c1-4a70-4327-b3e1-5dc297bc26c1.png)
Protecting the college fund: NTA suggests a trust fund solution

Mother defends her decision to not use daughter’s college fund for grandchild’s expenses. Commenter suggests daughter should have focused on education and job before planning a baby. Replies clarify daughter’s birth control history and express confusion over her decision to stop using it.

NTA stands firm on college fund, but reply raises suspicion

Sensitive topic, but NTA considered abortion and discussed options.

NTA and supportive single mother with college fund dilemma
![Image credit: [deleted] | [deleted]](https://static.diply.com/a61ca26c-d1c1-460f-99bc-d907c6a173c5.png)
Daughter’s entitlement to college fund for grandchild’s expenses discussed

Daughter’s pregnancy seems planned, but mom won’t fund grandchild. ♀️

Daughter lied, mom not obligated to pay grandchild expenses

NTA suggests finding a job instead of depending on family.

Stand firm on college fund, suggest trust for grandchild

NTA. Refusing to enable bad decisions and setting boundaries.

Grateful for college fund, daughter needs to learn adult consequences

Encouraging response to struggling mother, with a reality check

Grandchild’s expenses not her responsibility. NTA

NTA comment defends OP’s statement about daughter’s lack of contraception

Commenter advises young mother to prioritize education for future stability
![Image credit: [deleted] | [deleted]](https://static.diply.com/a7a23dff-8cb1-4d84-9ab9-cd81afbd7fdf.png)
Supportive comment applauds parent’s decision to not enable daughter’s irresponsibility
![Image credit: [deleted] | [deleted]](https://static.diply.com/946fb3cd-de17-495d-bb46-ce3436546de3.png)
Single mom shares her experience and advises on financial aid options

Daughter’s boyfriend relies on her college fund, but why?

Mother and daughter’s relationship questioned after surprise pregnancy.

Mother stands her ground on college fund, internet approves

Commenter suggests abortion, receives humorous reply about maturity.

Heartbreaking comment about lack of parental love and support

NTA – Tough love for entitled daughter.

College fund is for college, not grandchild expenses. NTA

Mom’s tough love policy on teenage pregnancy sparks debate

NTA – Mom’s money, mom’s decision

Actual college fund exists, father left savings for daughter’s education

Family meddling in finances? Shut them down. NTA

Grandchild’s college fund or not? The debate continues

BF’s involvement in pregnancy planning questioned. NTA.

Generosity met with refusal. NTA for not funding grandchild’s expenses

Mom stands firm on daughter’s college fund. NTA

Suspicious comment about daughter’s pregnancy, suggests investigation.

NTA saves college fund from becoming grandchild’s piggy bank

College fund is for child’s education, not grandchild’s expenses. NTA!

Generous mom refuses to use college fund for grandchild expenses

Mother refuses to use daughter’s college fund for grandchild’s expenses. NTA.

Commenter supports OP’s decision to not give in.
![Image credit: [deleted] | [deleted]](https://static.diply.com/de847d1c-c002-451d-a278-e31ea48be0e6.png)
Encouraging advice for daughter to gain work experience before college funds

Stay strong and firm in your decision. You’re not the a**hole!

Mother offers support but refuses to use college fund for grandchild

Commenter suggests getting a job to support grandchild, no sympathy.

Suggests setting up a will to secure grandchild’s college fund

NTA. Firm but fair approach to daughter’s financial situation
![Image credit: [deleted] | [deleted]](https://static.diply.com/25811cb4-51bf-4308-9ef8-f745bf0ae5d1.png)
Daughter chose, mom refused: College fund for grandchild? NTA

Commenter blames daughter for pregnancy and advises to let her deal.

NTA, consequences matter!

NTA comment shuts down entitled grandchild’s request

NTA. Tough love: suggest part-time college for mom & full-time for dad

Suggesting to save college fund for grandchild’s education

College fund for daughter, not grandchild. Tough love wins.

Supportive comment defends mom’s decision, blames daughter’s irresponsibility

NTA. College funds for education, not grandchild expenses.

Supporting education over immediate expenses. NTA

NTA saves college fund for lazy daughter’s child
![Image credit: [deleted] | [deleted]](https://static.diply.com/87d2c804-2cf8-41be-9794-1a83ed85b77b.png)
Mom prioritizes daughter’s education over grandchild’s expenses. NTA
![Image credit: [deleted] | [deleted]](https://static.diply.com/7a7318b6-7c1c-4450-8f27-99cb077dfe64.png)
Controversial suggestion of abortion in NTA comment section

NTA, but tough choices lie ahead for the new parents

Mom stands firm on college fund, daughter must face consequences

Grandkid’s college fund secured thanks to mom’s decision!

Commenter shares personal experience and advises responsibility and consequences.

Grandchild can have college fund, daughter needs reality check

NTA, but set clear boundaries for financial support.
