We’ve all heard about bullies and their victims, but what happens when the bully’s parents try to make amends? In a surprising turn of events, a teen who was being bullied at school by a kid named Dan, finds out that Dan’s parents want to invite the victim’s family over for dinner so their son could apologize. However, the teen isn’t too thrilled about the idea and has a different plan in mind. ️
Bully’s Parents Reach Out

Mom’s Enthusiasm

Not So Cool

Taking Matters into Own Hands

A Different Request

Why an Email?

In-Person vs. Written Apology

Standing Firm ✊

Mom’s Reaction

To Dinner or Not to Dinner ️
This bullied teen isn’t interested in a dinner party at their bully’s house, even if it means receiving an apology. Instead, they request a written apology, sent to their school email address, to hold the bully accountable. The bully’s mom doesn’t think it’s appropriate, but our protagonist stands firm. Their own mom is angry, accusing them of being ungrateful and difficult. But is the teen really in the wrong for wanting an apology on their own terms? Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…
Setting boundaries is important. NTA for demanding a proper apology

Bullied teen refuses dinner at bully’s house, demands apology email

Mature and courageous response to bully’s mom’s lack of understanding.

Demanding a written apology is reasonable. NTA

Impressive teen sets boundaries and demands genuine apology

Stand your ground and demand a genuine apology via email

Analogy to help OP’s mother understand why dinner was refused

NTA. The bully’s parents need to learn about apologies

Demanding an apology email instead of dinner at bully’s house. NTA.

Stand up for yourself and demand the apology you deserve!

Standing up to bullies and demanding respect.

Standing up to bullies and setting boundaries like a boss!

Empathetic comment supports bullied teen’s demand for apology email.

Empathetic comment supporting bullied teen’s response to insincere apology.

Bullied teen stands up for self, mother fails to support.

Demanding an apology on your own terms is empowering.

NTA. A dinner with a bully sounds super-awkward

Adults should know better. Victim’s comfort is top priority. NTA!

Bully’s mom wants apology on her terms? NTA solved it!

Demanding an apology on their terms, NTA takes control

NTA stands up to bully’s family’s manipulative apology tactics

Standing up to bullies with grace

Demanding an apology email is a right, not a privilege

Mom’s offer backfires, reveals where bully learned behavior. NTA wins.

Standing up to bullies takes courage. You’re NTA.
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Demanding change, not just an apology, to stop bullying behavior

NTA, OP handles bully’s parent with grace and maturity

Demanding a genuine apology: NTA stands up for self

Encouraging comment applauds teen’s maturity and resilience

Taking control back from bully, not bullied into accepting apology

NTA. The apology isn’t for her, it’s for you. ♀️

Is a family dinner with disliked classmate and strangers a ‘treat’?

Bullying victim refuses dinner at bully’s house, demands apology email instead

Confused commenter questions motives behind post, no replies.

Skipping dinner with bully and lasagna = nightmare

Victim’s right to boundaries and reconciliation, not parents’ decision. NTA.

Demanding a written apology is more meaningful and recordable.

Empowering response to NTA comment

Inviting bully’s victim to their house is not a neutral setting
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Standing up to bullies is always the right choice

Encouraging comment for bullied teen’s critical thinking skills

Supportive comment for bullied teen’s refusal to dine with bully.

Encouraging support for bullied teen’s self-advocacy

Standing up to bullies is never easy, but you nailed it!

Teen demands apology email instead of uncomfortable dinner with bully. NTA

Setting boundaries in the south NTA wins!

Accepting an apology is not always necessary. NTA

Respect yourself enough to say no. That takes guts. NTA.

Teen stands up to bully’s family. NTA
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NTA. Teen refuses bully’s dinner invitation, demands apology email instead!

Demanding a written apology after being bullied. NTA.

Standing up to bullies is always the right thing

Standing up to your abuser is never easy. NTA.

Polite refusal of dinner demand, demands apology email instead. NTA

Empathetic comment supporting the bullied teen’s decision and offering practical advice.

Demanding an apology email is fair and reasonable. #NTA

Impressed by teen’s mature response to bullying situation

Empathetic comment applauds teen’s confidence and self-respect.
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Victim refusing dinner at bully’s house, demands apology email. NTA.
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Ignoring feelings: NTA’s mom and bully’s mom are similar

Standing up to bullies is always the right choice!

Stick to your guns and demand the apology you deserve

Forcing a bully to apologize may not be genuine

Standing up to bullies and demanding respect

Demanding an apology via email is reasonable and empowering

Parents defending bully son’s behavior, NTA stands up for self.

Redditor questions if there’s another side to the story.

Demanding an apology email is the right move

No replies yet, but the original post is a mess

Smart and strong-willed teen stands up to bully.

Standing up to bullies with grace

Demanding an apology on your terms is your right. NTA

Cheering for the bullied teen’s epic response!

Standing up to bullies is not ‘going all lawyer’, NTA.
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Bullied teen refuses dinner at bully’s house and demands apology email instead! NTA

Bully’s apology can’t be trusted, email is the way

Demanding an apology on your terms is NTA power move
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Lawyer recommends making a written record of bullying incidents.

Support for victim, NTA for refusing dinner invitation.

Setting boundaries and feeling safe. NTA wins!

Demanding an apology on your terms is reasonable. NTA

Encouraging comment applauds teen’s healthy boundaries and bright future

Mature response to bully, no need to do anything further

NTA. Victim shouldn’t be forced to accept apology or interact.

Setting boundaries and prioritizing safety over closure.
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Demanding a specific apology doesn’t make OP a bully. NTA

Demanding a written apology to keep a record. Smart move!
